Don’t want to go through with second part of termination!

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Posted on here for traffic mainly but I need help.
I am currently 8 weeks pregnant and decided on a termination (please don’t judge, my reasons are completely valid) Today was the first appointment where I took mifepristone. The next appointment is on Thursday and I 100 percent do not want to go. I regret my decision so much and I don’t know what to do. I don’t even know if you can continue with the pregnancy after taking mifepristone, or what it does to the pregnancy! I hope to God it hasn’t effected the baby but I’m worrying so bad. I really want this baby and if I could turn back time I wouldn’t have took the tablet. Anyone with experience on this or works in the industry...please help? Loads of American website say you can have progesterone shots to try and reverse it..but I don’t know anywhere in the UK that would do that. I am so lost.

I absolutely cannot believe the amount of misinformation. Here are some facts:

1. OP, there is no “reversal,” exactly. Those American organizations recommending large amounts of progesterone to “reverse” it are all pro-life. Such treatments have NOT been tested for safety (or effectiveness), and that’s why such treatment is not recommended by the American College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists (a medical organization that is neither pro-life nor pro-choice).
2. Taking mifepristone alone gives you a rate of miscarrying somewhere between roughly 8-40%. If you choose not to take the second medication at your second appointment (misoprostol), you would need to be very carefully monitored as your baby may stop growing and you may miscarry. So you must speak to a doctor.
3. Taking mifepristone does NOT necessarily raise the rates of fœtal abnormalities a significant amount (2-3%) if a pregnancy continues. @sodonesooverit and @Username321 have both shared the study that proves this. So please don’t make a decision based on that, and I have no idea where posters are getting this idea.

So yes, I would think there may be a chance you can continue this pregnancy. But you must speak to the doctor who has handled your case because even if posters have some medical knowledge, they do not know YOUR medical history, and that could significantly raise your chance of miscarriage or other issues after mifepristone. Only your medical providers can answer your questions best. Good luck.

Hello everyone, thanks for all your replies. I honestly didn’t think I’d get so many and I really am grateful!

I have thought about it being just the shock of it all and a normal reaction..but I honestly have to say this is one of the biggest regrets in my life. And if there’s anyway I can change this I would do anything.

I rang BPAS who got one of their nurses to call me back. She advised I call the clinic tomorrow where I took the pill and tell them I don’t want to continue with the treatment. She said that there is actually no evidence for foetal abnormalities however at every antenatal class I will have to inform them I did take the first pill. I don’t know what to think as the clinic will probably tell me I have to go through with it. Really hoping the damage hasn’t been done but after some of the replies I think it may well have

So sorry you are in this situation op.

@Username21, that study is over 6 years old and only relates to 105 cases. Is there anything more definitive and up to date?

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Try to breathe deeply and think. You had good reasons for ending the pregnancy. If the right thing is for you to continue with the pregnancy then I hope you can, but you need to calmly think through what you really want and if you aren't ready for a baby in your current situation then it's ok to continue with the abortion process.

Hope things work out as they are meant to

americanpregnancy.org/unplanned-pregnancy/abortion-pill-reversal/

I don't know if it's available in uk but it is possible to reverse the first part of abortion (the pill you took)

Remember that this is YOUR body.

I unfortunately do not have any advice as I am not medically trained. I have taken this pill before, I miscarried before I went back for the second though.

I wish you all the best. If this is something you really want, and you feel regretful, I'd call the early pregnancy unit perhaps at your local hospital and get advice.

Xx

I am medically qualified

Sure you are. Everyone on the internet is exactly who they say they are...

The odds are very much in her favour if she doesn’t take the second tablet. Not guaranteed no and not risk free but more chance things will be fine then not.

You have no way of knowing that.

@acis Unfortunately not, it’s not a hugely common occurrence so the effects are not fully understood except we know that ‘most’ pregnancies where the first abortion pill has been taken result in a live birth.

It’s difficult to accurately test and research something like this without risking those who want to end a pregnancy remaining pregnant or risking those who want to continue a pregnancy miscarrying.

You cannot do a RCT for example due to this and have to rely on outcomes of those who changed their mind to get results but as it’s not hugely common and not discussed much that tends to mean small samples.

As I said in my first post there is no guarantees but it is possible for the pregnancy to continue. I wanted to contrast those telling the OP it’s too late as the only available evidence contradicts this and it’s wrong to make the OP feel like she has no option but to continue the termination if this isn’t what she wants.

The clinic will not tell you you have to go through with it. They don't want you to have a termination, they want the right outcome for you. But it's your decision not theirs.

I’m not sure the pill is reversible. I had a medical abortion a few years ago and the second pill didn’t work, I was told something would happen eventually and it did about a week later. Sorry OP

@ewitsahooman read the evidence I posted and feel free to post evidence backing up your statistics. I would be very interested to see them.

You don’t have to have the second part, it may be too late, it may not.
The 1st part may cause birth defects (I’ve seen missing fingers/ toes as a result) but this does not always happen.
Don’t panic. Speak with your health care provider tomorrow for advice.

I’m so sorry for you OP I really hope you get the answers & result you want

What a dreadful situation - I am so sorry for you. Of course you do not have to do anything you don’t want to do! I would go ASAP to see a medical professional, and I really really wish you the best.

I thought the first pill stopped the pregnancy and the second was just to expel it from your body?

Whatever the outcome, please take some time for yourself and if possible speak to a professional about your feelings. Don't suffer in silence or bottle up anything.

Offering a handhold here

You have your plan of action now.

Wait until you speak to the nurse at the clinic before you speculate. Googling things is never a good idea - there is so much misinformation out there.

I think you're incredibly brave OP. You truly are and I really hope you get the answers you want and seek tomorrow.

Please keep us updated?

A close friend of mine went through this. She took the first pill and then changed her mind. She went on to have a normal pregnancy and a beautiful healthy baby girl. Strangely, the doctor warned her the baby might have black teeth.. I don’t know why. That didn’t happen though.

Ring the clinic tomorrow. There is nothing to be done tonight and 111 won’t have the expertise to help. What a hellish situation OP, I am sorry.

Do update tomorrow and let us know what the clinic say

www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/27865944/

This one is more recent but is testing exposure to misoprostol (the second drug) not the first.

I was in this situation 4 years ago. Noone, including doctors could give me answers, and to complicate matters further I am i. N.I. My cervix was open, I bled, the doctors monitored the situation, baby arrived healthy on her due date.

Sorry OP my screen froze and took so long to post I didn’t see your update. Good luck tomorrow

I really hope things work out how you want them to OP.