Don’t want to go through with second part of termination!

[Superscaredx]

Posted on here for traffic mainly but I need help.
I am currently 8 weeks pregnant and decided on a termination (please don’t judge, my reasons are completely valid) Today was the first appointment where I took mifepristone. The next appointment is on Thursday and I 100 percent do not want to go. I regret my decision so much and I don’t know what to do. I don’t even know if you can continue with the pregnancy after taking mifepristone, or what it does to the pregnancy! I hope to God it hasn’t effected the baby but I’m worrying so bad. I really want this baby and if I could turn back time I wouldn’t have took the tablet. Anyone with experience on this or works in the industry...please help? Loads of American website say you can have progesterone shots to try and reverse it..but I don’t know anywhere in the UK that would do that. I am so lost.

I didn’t proceed with termination but I was told no going back after first tablet. They actually went through it a lot as it must be common for people to change mind at that stage. It is definitely worth checking by phoning nhs helpline now or contact your doctors first thing. I’m sorry you are going through the regret, heartbreaking for you.

You will regret an abortion but you would also regret if you had chosen to keep it.So be safe in the knowledge that u did what you did was best for YOU. It’s been years for me and the guilt I feel is horrible. I still have nightmares about it. God bless x

Sending hugs at this difficult time

Or as a pp said call the bpas line now. I hope they talked you through all this at the appointment you had

Can everyone PLEASE STOP offering "No going back" advice that they're not qualified to give and may well be wrong?

It's not supportive of constructive.

So sorry your in this position. I really hope your ok x x

It is inadvisable to continue to the pregnancy after the first dose of mifepristone, posters here saying the odds are in your favour are wrong. There is a chance you will miscarry at some point in the next few weeks (up to around a 40% chance), if you don't miscarry then there is a high chance of foetal abnormalities some of which may be incompatible with life.

You need to speak to the clinic or ward where you are being treated so that they can discuss this with you properly, I would advise you to give them a call tomorrow morning.

@RubberTreePlant, that quote only deals with whether mifepristone on its one will result in abortion. It doesn't deal with the potential effect on the foetus.

You need extra progesterone in America and Canada there are clinics that offer this am unsure about UK.

@Acis fair enough. It's why she needs professional advice.

Sorry - my post should have said "on its own", not on its one.

Op I feel so much for you but you will not be able to continue with this pregnancy.

Be kind and gentle on yourself. Ring the clinic tomorrow and explain your feelings. They may well ask you to come in for a chat. If not, confide in a friend or close relative

You will get through this

Sadly OP the damage will have already been done, and the pregnancy will stop developing.

You need to phone the clinic and they'll talk you through it all, I'd imagine this is a fairly common reaction. You're just panicking, and the reasons why you chose this path won't have changed in a few hours - you said yourself they are still valid.

This may be helpful. Speak to someone tomorrow. Best of luck whatever you decide

@Ewitsahooman - I can't stand that term "incompatible with life" I was young and pregnant and after seeing baby on the screen and hearing heartbeat I was told it was "incompatible with life" my only option I was steered towards was a medical termination. I was fearful, confused, pushed into a corner by all the medical staff. Tried so hard not to swallow that pill... it was horrendous. Ended up with a retained placenta so had to have a procedure. Bled for months. Yearsss later I've seen articles of babies with the same condition, yes they don't live long but I feel I was pushed into that decision and i regret it daily. That term has scarred me!

Sorry @ewitsahooman but you’re wrong. The odds are very much in her favour if she doesn’t take the second tablet. Not guaranteed no and not risk free but more chance things will be fine then not.

Not on my usual name here but I am medically qualified and here is the research to prove what I am saying.

obgyn.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1111/1471-0528.12147

Call clinic IF the progesterone thing is correct you might be able to get some privately (I had progesterone when going through IVF) but I am not medical person so no idea.

If your reasoning was valid then remember that, as unless circumstances have changed, the reason you decided this still stand so remember that!

That's encouraging @sodonesooverit

So sorry you're going through this. I think you need to talk to someone as you said that you jad/ have very valid reasons for wanting the abortion in the first place. Do the reasons still stand? If yes, then I feel that you may regret not carrying on with the abortion.

The first tablet will have done its job I’m afraid. I miscarried without having to take the 2nd. It’s not a nice position to be in. No one should ever have to make such a decision and just because you have to follow that path doesn’t mean you ‘want’ to do it.

What were your reasons for wanting an abortion in the first place, if you don’t mind me asking? That might help focus your mind a bit

@Superscaredx I have sent you a pm.

@GlitteryPoopooplop has a thread running and might be a be to help OP?

I work for an abortion provider and was discussing exactly this last week. Please call your provider and ask to speak to one of their nurses for advice. They will be able to talk you through it.