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Don’t want to go through with second part of termination!

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Superscaredx · 30/04/2019 19:21

Posted on here for traffic mainly but I need help.
I am currently 8 weeks pregnant and decided on a termination (please don’t judge, my reasons are completely valid) Today was the first appointment where I took mifepristone. The next appointment is on Thursday and I 100 percent do not want to go. I regret my decision so much and I don’t know what to do. I don’t even know if you can continue with the pregnancy after taking mifepristone, or what it does to the pregnancy! I hope to God it hasn’t effected the baby but I’m worrying so bad. I really want this baby and if I could turn back time I wouldn’t have took the tablet. Anyone with experience on this or works in the industry...please help? Loads of American website say you can have progesterone shots to try and reverse it..but I don’t know anywhere in the UK that would do that. I am so lost.

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IHateUncleJamie · 02/05/2019 16:11

I’m so sorry, OP. Sending hugs. xx

StoneofDestiny · 02/05/2019 16:16

A heartbreaking time for you OP 💐

LudoFriend · 02/05/2019 18:34

I'm so sorry OP. Remember you made the best decision you could at the time. I know that it doesn't help right now, but it will in the future if you remind yourself of that. Be kind to yourself, and please don't struggle alone. Ask for help if you need it, comfort yourself with chocolate or wine if you want it, and take painkillers if you need them. Don't punish yourself.

If you want to talk, I'm only a PM away. Flowers

RubberTreePlant · 02/05/2019 19:32
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SnipSnapSnip · 02/05/2019 19:49

So sorry OP, be kind to yourself xx 💐

Whatafustercluck · 02/05/2019 19:57

Be kind to yourself. Flowers

StepAwayFromGoogle · 02/05/2019 20:02

I'm so, so very sorry, OP. I came on to find out how you are. It may not feel like it now but I promise you will be OK. Just take time to grieve your loss and take all the comfort you can from the people who care about you. Go easy on yourself, please Flowers

Cathmidston · 02/05/2019 20:12

I came back to check on you too. We were all rooting for you, and I’m so sorry. Please look after and be kind to yourself, you made the decision that was right at the time xxxxx

Apileofballyhoo · 02/05/2019 20:18

Flowers OP. I'm sorry you're going through this.

mindutopia · 02/05/2019 20:24

Op, if you do still want to continue with the pregnancy, I would still wait it out. I had heavy bleeding with both of my healthy pregnancies. It doesn’t mean anything is wrong and it doesn’t mean your pregnancy is no longer viable. With my youngest, I bled like a period for 2 weeks between 7-9 weeks, and then it stopped. Perfectly healthy pregnancy that was otherwise totally straightforward. It doesn’t have to mean you give up hope if it’s what you want.

HiTomyFamily · 02/05/2019 20:27

Yes will they scan you before you take the second tablets?

Wrybread · 02/05/2019 20:37

OP sending you some unmumsnetty hugs.

Things may feel pretty awful for a while. But if you get some professional counselling support, it'll really help.

JaneEyre07 · 02/05/2019 20:38

Please don't give the OP false hope. She's taken a drug that has a strong success rate in ending pregnancy, especially taken before 9 weeks. It's bordering on cruel to be honest.

I'm really sorry OP and hope you are looking after yourself Flowers

mary91 · 02/05/2019 20:52

So sorry op Thanks

Emily1091 · 02/05/2019 21:03

Hope your okay op I was once in a similar situation and regretted my decision after I had made it, as long as you have a good support system around you you will be okay and there will always be time to try again. It’s so hard at the beginning you will pull through though sending lots of love to you xx

AtrociousCircumstance · 02/05/2019 21:08
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Justaboy · 03/05/2019 01:13

mindutopia I had wondered if that might have bene the case course after the first drug the process can start and the likelihood of miscarridge is increased but as many have siad it can go on full term. Some normal pregancies do bleed sometimes as you say.

I'd expect or hope she would have bene told that at the clinic.

Do hope your OK Superscaredx.

OkPedro · 03/05/2019 01:35

Sorry to hear you are in this situation op
It’s possible your bleeding has nothing to do with taking the pill. It’s also possible your pregnancy can continue.
I took both abortion pills. I was told the first pill stops the production of the pregnancy hormone. The second pill dilates the cervix which leads to the foetus being expelled.
I was warned that if I didn’t take the 2nd pill it was still possible for the pregnancy to end.
Good luck with whatever decision you make Flowers

PulyaSochsup · 03/05/2019 06:25

I'm so very sorry. I wish I could say something more helpful. You did the best thing you knew how to do, please take great care of yourself Flowers

crispysausagerolls · 03/05/2019 08:21

What a devastating update for you OP. I am
Also wondering if they scan before the second tablet, just in case? We are all here for you xx

vacanthellhome · 03/05/2019 08:25

Don't be hard on yourself OP, take care Thanks

NorthernBirdAtHeart · 03/05/2019 08:52

This is heartbreaking OP.
Sending virtual love Flowers x

surrealreal · 03/05/2019 09:03

So sorry to read your update Thanks

Branleuse · 03/05/2019 09:21

Im sorry OP, I hope you can be at peace with this. For all you know this could have happened anyway. Please be gentle with yourself xx