Creepy behavior from uncle

[Springtimesnow]

NC'd as this could be too revealing.

I am in my mid 20s, single female. A few months ago I visited my uncle for the first time in years (he lives very far away). He is in his 60s and has children that are older than me. He is very religious and did preach to me with bible in hand a few times. His wife gave me a card and said it seemed I was 'coming to the truth'. I was polite and just explained that I was spiritual but didn't attach myself to any form of institutional religion.

Ever since, he has been texting me daily. Initially it was just generic 'how are you, how is the family' type messages. He would send religious type things too but he does this to other family members and I thought nothing of it. Since then these messages have become far more frequent and if I don't reply he keeps sending them until I do saying he 'feels like a child waiting for his mother to come home'. I just get text after text asking if I'm okay and why have I not replied etc. He messaged me yesterday saying he hopes I won't be uncomfortable but he feels he can speak to me about anything and I am the most important person in his life. He has a wife and children so I find this quite odd.

He then sent me a text saying he had been looking at my graduation photos and that he had noticed how young I was and that I was 'really something' and he loves how I think and loves me so much it makes him cry.

I have politely tried to tell him that these messages are making me uncomfortable to which he replied 'but you understand it is because it is you and you are so special to me, I am in tears now'.

AIBU to be creeped out by this? He doesn't seem to have any issues re dementia that I am aware of and I've tried to be sensitive in how I approach things as I don't want a fall out but this type of behavior isn't normal surely?

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Yes he is trying to manipulate you and play on emotions. He expects your female socialisation to kick in so you start apologising for making him feel uncomfortable about you being uncomfortable, then he's back in and getting closer to what he's working up to.

His texts read as those to a girlfriend (whom he had an argument with), definitely not to his brother’s daughter! He gets a kick from you explaining, trying to ‘make him understand’, any response in general. I would respond ‘you are embarassing yourself, my dad would be ashamed of you’ and then stop responding, block. Just stop engaging and feeding him. And never see him again.

Uhuh. Tell your older rellies that the "Good Christian man' that he is should be Godly enough to gently tell you your are encouraging , And That It's NOT right.. And that is was an Honest Christian He would guide you from Afar and say he cannot contact you anymore, for fear of Unchristian relations

He should be leading you in Honesty. Purity.

Do It .

Have you heard anymore from this creep?

I like WhoamItotellyou’s phrase:
you are embarassing yourself, my dad would be ashamed of you

Religion can be creepy when somebody tries to force it upon somebody else.

If only religion was 'all' he was trying to force upon her.

Op he's crazy in the coconut, proper bonkers -and yes extremely creepy.

No more texts thankfully. I have tried googling how to block on my phone too but no luck. If it carries on my phone provider might be able to help. I just feel so violated that he has taken advantage of how polite(and naive) I've been.

That phrase re my dad being ashamed of him is what he will be told next if there's any more of it. Oh and I've warned him I will be forwarding the texts to his wife. We had some JW material through the door and they have been calling a lot lately. I can't help but think this is not a coincidence as they have never called before. He lectured me about donating blood (started quoting Leviticus at me) - so I told him there were far more serious things in that book that should worry someone like me who is gay. Not even this deterred the creepyness!

Thanks for all the replies x

I see you have told family but I would also try to ensure he does t have access to other young/vulnerable people and let him know that you will involve the police if he continues.

Please detail his activities to the police, they will tell you what illegal, and what you've experienced.

The very fact that you use the language of the abused, as in feeling stupid or naïve, that somehow you could 'know' better than him how wrong what he's doing is.

If you are now getting new contact from jw then that is further info you need to pass on, because its not just info, its actual harrassment against someone who has said no.

Please don't waste your time trying to control this yourself with threats to him. Just ask the police. They will tell you clearly what he's doing.

And no, its certainly not because you are stupid. It's because of a lot of things,but not that

Agree report him. At least it’s on record.

That's gross. Block him. Contact your mobile provider and they should be able to help, look on YouTube too to see if you can find a tutorial on how to block numbers from your device

I'm aware that in the UK, you can contact JW and state that under NO conditions are they to knock on your door or post material through your letterbox. A family member has done this so I know it can be done

Reading these updates has made me want to have a bath.

Can you afford to change your phone to one that allows blocking? Much less hassle than changing your number.

@Springtimesnow Did he leave you alone in the end? Hope so! Poor you it's horrid feeling anxious every time you look at your phone :(