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To ditch baseball cap wearing date

154 replies

Bubblegumicecream · 28/04/2019 20:08

Currently sitting in a nice bar on a first date arranged through mutual friend... and said date is wearing a fucking baseball cap.

Smart shoes. Smart jeans. Smart top. Well groomed. Handsome. Then polishes it off with a bright white baseball cap which is almost burning my eyeballs.

I know for a fact he's not bald. Imo baseball caps are reserved for baseball fans, playing tennis, playing golf, children, chavs.

I just imagine him laying his outfit out for tonight and thinking 'yes, this finishes me off nicely. She'll love this cap!'.

Seriously thinking of making a dash for it when he goes for a bathroom break. Could write 'baseball cap?' in lipstick on a napkin so he gets the message.

Wwyd?

OP posts:
Nomorechickens · 29/04/2019 06:14

Tell him a gentleman removes his hat indoors Grin

TheBulb · 29/04/2019 06:38

Well, I wouldn’t see him again. Baseball caps are repellent.

PositiveVibez · 29/04/2019 07:13

For everyone saying the OP is shallow and judgemental, she was on a first date ffs.

The whole point of a date is finding out if you like the other person, so of course you are judging them.

Her date turned up wearing a baseball cap indoors, of an evening.

It is bloody odd and off-putting. It's certainly out of the norm. She is ALLOWED to mention it and she is allowed to not date him again.

BuzzPeakWankBobbly · 29/04/2019 07:22

TanMateix I would, sorry, especially if worn indoors or at the table.

Yes, I can't abide people wearing hats indoors or when eating. It just feels poor taste. Especially those awful bog sock type hats that just hang off their heads.

BuzzPeakWankBobbly · 29/04/2019 07:23

Hah...

Yes, I can't abide people wearing hats indoors or when eating. It just feels poor taste. Especially those awful big sock type hats that just hang off their heads.

(In case anyone wondered what a bog sock was!)

NameChangeNugget · 29/04/2019 07:23

It would be a no from me.

ItMustBeBedtimeSurely · 29/04/2019 07:28

Strange behaviour. I'd be put off, by both the hat and his lack of awareness.

Ohyesiam · 29/04/2019 07:34

Hope you’re not breaking any rules yourself op.

kaytee87 · 29/04/2019 07:35

I reckon he probably has thinning hair he's trying to hide.

Leedsbean · 29/04/2019 07:47

I would say being on your phone on mumsnet whilst on a first date is a much bigger red flag than him wearing a baseball cap.

Innernutshell · 29/04/2019 07:47

Maybe it's not too much to worry about....
unless he wears it in bed.....Confused

Flaverings · 29/04/2019 07:57

I’m surprised that the main problem people have with this is that it’s a baseball cap. I’d assumed that it would be a problem of hats inside. I automatically find that rude, but then realise that norms are changing.

iano · 29/04/2019 08:19

What did you do?
My DH wore a hat when I initially started dating. I asked him why after date two. He has a skin condition and was worried about telling me/me thinking it was gross. It's not even noticeable and he doesn't wear hats anymore...
I can't believe how many women would be so judgmental over such a tiny thing.
He's had a lucky escape if you left.

ShatnersWig · 29/04/2019 08:23

Interesting first time post with no return by the OP.

llangennith · 29/04/2019 08:33

Bubblegumicecream update please!

IloveJudgeJudy · 29/04/2019 08:55

DS1 (24) often wears snap backs and sometimes a baseball cap. He's solvent, takes great pride in how he looks, irons all his clothes apart from gym wear and underwear. I'm sorry to say that he even wore a snap back at the table when we all went to dinner on Saturday.

I'd say don't bin your date off just for that.

ilovesooty · 29/04/2019 08:59

Perhaps he walked out on her because he thought that using her phone to communicate with others during a date is fucking rude.

Hadalifeonce · 29/04/2019 09:00

What's a snap back?

BarbarianMum · 29/04/2019 09:23

OP can be as shallow and superficial as she likes on a first, or any, date - provided she also doesn't wander around whining that she hates being single.

Moondancer73 · 29/04/2019 09:36

I'm so glad it's not just me! Something about a grown man in a baseball cap is just all wrong 😳

Dowser · 29/04/2019 09:37

I hate baseball caps and football shirts. Any sports clothes worn as casual wear.

I’ve had to concede to Dh wearing a baseball cap when sun is in his eyes or on his head.
He’s worn me down...he wouldn’t wear it with a suit though

ElektraUnchained · 29/04/2019 09:42

Hmm I wouldn't like it but if he was otherwise fine, I would see what he wore to the next date.

HoldMyGirl · 29/04/2019 09:50

Poor bloke. He was probably nervous enough, without realising that his date was posting a thread on the internet about what he was wearing, during the date.

Can you imagine the reaction here, if a man did that?

MaidenMotherCrone · 29/04/2019 10:06

As long as he took it off in bed though. And his socks for that matter.

DontVisitMe · 29/04/2019 10:26

Baseball caps are for children and baseball players, surely?

I used to know a man who had a collection of caps that he hung on his bedroom wall in a diamond arrangement with actual hooks. He left those giant shiny stickers on the peaks and wore them like it.