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To ditch baseball cap wearing date

154 replies

Bubblegumicecream · 28/04/2019 20:08

Currently sitting in a nice bar on a first date arranged through mutual friend... and said date is wearing a fucking baseball cap.

Smart shoes. Smart jeans. Smart top. Well groomed. Handsome. Then polishes it off with a bright white baseball cap which is almost burning my eyeballs.

I know for a fact he's not bald. Imo baseball caps are reserved for baseball fans, playing tennis, playing golf, children, chavs.

I just imagine him laying his outfit out for tonight and thinking 'yes, this finishes me off nicely. She'll love this cap!'.

Seriously thinking of making a dash for it when he goes for a bathroom break. Could write 'baseball cap?' in lipstick on a napkin so he gets the message.

Wwyd?

OP posts:
HollowTalk · 28/04/2019 21:36

How have you managed to post this, OP, when you're on a date?

cabcab · 28/04/2019 21:37

@MyKingdomForBrie she says he is not bald......alopecia is not always totally bald!

In fact totally bald is sometimes easier than the extreme fluctuating patches.

PriscillaLydiaSellon · 28/04/2019 21:38

The only redeeming feature of XH was that he didn't wear a baseball cap.

Sunshineface123 · 28/04/2019 21:39

Leave immediately. I once had to do the same as date had turned up in...a fleece...to a cocktail bar.

ChipsAreLife · 28/04/2019 21:42

I wear a cap loads currently as it helps my hayfever ... worries I look like a chav now

mumsiedarlingrevolta · 28/04/2019 21:42

Is he American?

MissParple · 28/04/2019 21:42

I once went on a date with a man wearing a t-shirt that said 'if you're not living a dangerous life you're wasting oxygen' or some tripe like that.

Grin

Baseball caps toe a fine line. Some men can carry them off. Some can't.

LipstickHandbagCoffee · 28/04/2019 21:46

Can’t see the problem myself,so long it’s not manky it doesn’t matter

Orangeballon · 28/04/2019 21:48

I never dated anyone in a baseball cap, they are awful.

BritWifeinUSA · 28/04/2019 21:50

My husband wears a ball cap all the time. But he’s American. And he wears the one if the team he has been supporting since he was a small child. I don’t have a problem with it as an item if clothing. But if this person is wearing it because he want people to think he’s American or thinks it makes him look cool then I’d ditch him not because of the hat itself but because of the reason for wearing it, if that makes sense.

StarbucksSmarterSister · 28/04/2019 21:58

Ask him if his head is cold.Grin

Is he American? I once stayed at a 5 star resort in the far east I ate for 3 nights in the hotel and an American guy at the next table wore his bb cap at dinner every night.

It's totally naff.

Hohofortherobbers · 28/04/2019 21:58

Don't sweat the small stuff or you'll be lonely a long time. He can take the hat off if you get serious, give him a chance, what's he like?

LipstickHandbagCoffee · 28/04/2019 21:59

I don’t think people wear baseball hats to appear American,it’s a style choice
It’s a pretty regular clothing item,available many stores,all colours all costs

ItsWitchingTime · 28/04/2019 22:08

Its a hat, what's the problem?

shrumps · 28/04/2019 22:10

Where I'm from, it screams chav. If otherwise he looked nice, I might tell him; but could not fancy someone wearing one in a restaurant/pub.

sweeneytoddsrazor · 28/04/2019 22:18

Any OP - Hi MN I am on a date but the bloke is typing away on his phone.

MN - how rude, run for the hills.

ghostmouse · 28/04/2019 22:20

I like my dp in a baseball cap Blush

He doesn't wear it to the pub or anything though, we are walkers and it's mainly to keep the sun of his face and to protect his balding patch at the back of his head.

Tightarseparent1 · 28/04/2019 22:21

Give him a chance. My Dh is a dreadful dresser but an ace human!

Divebar · 28/04/2019 22:25

Hmmmm imagine all the things women do that men may or may not judge as “ chavvy” - acrylic nails, super thick mascara or false eye lashes, fake tan, gloopy lip gloss, HD brows, VPL, chicken filets, shoes they can’t walk in and have to take off before they get home, huge sunglasses, tiny handbags, rhinestone anything, not paying their own way, gossiping, not being able to park.
No stereotypes here.... no sir-ee. It’s ok OP nice, single handsome men are ten a penny. Bin him off.

LipstickHandbagCoffee · 28/04/2019 22:26

maybe youll end up like the mn women who chose their dp clothes.creepy
Never encountered it til mn,top of their game men (aren’t they all) who need woman to buy their clothes
Really fuckin creepy to be adult woman choosing your partner clothes cause he defers it to you

Likethebattle · 28/04/2019 22:39

DH is wearing one as he has a skin problem causing photosensitivity and needs to protect his face from the sun. He is not chavvy.

NCforthis2019 · 28/04/2019 22:41

How shallow are you??!

KateyKube · 28/04/2019 22:44

In America cap-wearing is fairly commonplace across a broad section of society. In the UK they’re mostly worn by chavs. I wouldn’t judge solely on that but would be alert for other chav markers.

Gth1234 · 28/04/2019 22:51

But jeans aren't smart. IMO