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To leave a 2 year old for 10 mins

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BlueSuedeStiletto · 27/04/2019 03:30

2 year old asleep in a cot they can't get out of. Needed to pop to the shops. 10 minutes away if that, child asleep the whole time, doors locked etc. Friend is horrified. WIBU?

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BitBored · 29/04/2019 23:16

OP, I don’t think you should feel unwelcome on MN and I hope you’ll stay.

I do think you posed a question that is likely to provoke strong feelings from many parents. As you’ve seen, the vast majority of parents who have replied would not dream of leaving a baby or toddler alone in a house. Organisations like the NSPCC say that it’s never safe to leave babies and very young children alone. Although people should of course be respectful when stating their views, I don’t think you can be too surprised that many people react with horror at the idea of a parent leaving a young infant unattended simply because they want to pop to the shops without their child.

JessieMcJessie · 29/04/2019 23:25

Sb74 have you actually looked at the range of topics on Mumsnet? TV, relationships, style and beauty, health, dogs, cats, horses, dieting, book club, politics, travel- none of these are things that you are more qualified to discuss if you have pushed a human out of your fanny. Perhaps you’d also like to ask for a ban on posters who are not the same colour as you because they couldn’t possibly relate to your life?

And both you and Hanywany have spectacularly missed the point that the childless OP asked this question on here precisely because she wanted to hear the opinion of people with children on the subject!

Hanywany · 29/04/2019 23:26

Thank you sb74 again totally agree it would be nice to actually come on a forum which had valuable advice from actual parents what a breath of fresh air that would be!! Speaking to parents who fully understand and that can comprehend how important and priceless your childs life is!

JessieMcJessie · 29/04/2019 23:29

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Hanywany · 29/04/2019 23:34

No she didnt she posted this thread making it sound like she was about to leave a 2 year old on their own! And as for you saying Sb74 is racist and me aswell because we merely stated common sense of being a parent is utterly dispicable!! Its a terrible world when it comes to stating a very important guideline of parenting and you get blasted a racist!! Its nothing to do with creed,colour or race its about being a parent and when you are one you are thwn able to relate to other parents! I dont have to justify my parenting opinions to you!

IvanaPee · 29/04/2019 23:41

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BitBored · 29/04/2019 23:43

Who are you directing that to Ivana?

JessieMcJessie · 29/04/2019 23:43

I am a parent and I sure as hell don’t relate to you Hanywany.

Hanywany · 29/04/2019 23:45

Why is it because they actually have morals on there! Principals, decent parents who dont leave their 2 year old children on their own!! Is that what you mean!

JessieMcJessie · 29/04/2019 23:46

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Hanywany · 29/04/2019 23:47

Yes i gathered you wont relate to me as i am a good mum! Wouldnt dream of leaving my children on their own!

JessieMcJessie · 29/04/2019 23:52

Which is exactly what I said to the OP, which you would know if you had actually read any of my posts. The difference is that I said it politely and without outrage.

Hanywany · 30/04/2019 00:02

I havent spoken outrage so you havent read any of my posts! But you have persistently sworn at me and called me a bad mother, a racist, and stupid! So i kinda missed your point if there ever was one!

JessieMcJessie · 30/04/2019 00:08

And as for you saying that you would pop out for 10 mins if you did have a child christ on a bike i feel very sorry for your child if you ever had one!!! What an idiot parent you would make!!

Yeah, no outrage at all in that post. Hmm

Hanywany · 30/04/2019 00:14

Yea and?? Pretty much every other parent put something along the lines of that!! What about you swearing what a great mum you must be bringing your child up to think that your bullyish behaviour is acceptable!!

JessieMcJessie · 30/04/2019 00:18

He can’t read so I’m not too worried about him being corrupted by the language in my Mumsnet posts.

Hanywany · 30/04/2019 00:19

Because i didnt agree with what you and your little clique were sprouting you thought you would try and bully me into thinking your way but unfortuntely for you i am no sheep i know my own mind, know whats right and wrong and i have morals, principals and will bring my children up to know right and wrong and to not budge when you know that you are right! Stand there ground and not be easily lead unlike you!

Hanywany · 30/04/2019 00:20

You are a hypocrite!

JessieMcJessie · 30/04/2019 00:22

Once again- I agree that a 2 year old should never be left at home alone. Not sure what exactly I have been “sprouting” that caused you such anger? We are arguing now because you said to someone else that only parents should be on Mumsnet. Not because we disagree about parenting.

Hanywany · 30/04/2019 00:37

You started being snotty saying i was racist and a bad mother and i am nothing of the sort!

JessieMcJessie · 30/04/2019 00:50

Nope, never said you were racist. Literally the opposite. I compared you and sb74s suggestion of restricting Mumsnet use to a group of people with specific characteristics ( ie being Mums) to insisting that all posters share your skin colour. This was in order to demonstrate how ridiculous your suggestion was. The whole point of the comparison was that someone who is NOT racist (ie. you or sb74) should realise that their “restrict access” suggestion was ridiculous when they saw that the same logic applied to racism.

And please show me where I called you a bad parent?

Hanywany · 30/04/2019 00:52

Im bored of reading your poor excuses for your behaviour! And i will agree that your behaviour is unnacceptable and im going to bed because i have to get up tomorrow morning and be the best mummy i can be!!

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BlueSuedeStiletto · 30/04/2019 00:53

Sb74 I'm not sure you can be a terrible potential parent. That's a bit of an oxymoron. I have already said that I may potentially feel differently when I have my own child- but then I may not. Each to their own. This is one small thing and I don't think it sums up anyone's overall abilities as a parent.

Bitbored don't worry, I've been here over 10 years, I'm not going anywhere, especially not based off of the opinion of 2 (I suspect maybe actually one) posters who feel parents are a different ilk to the rest of us.

Jessie is correct, she was polite in her posts, even when disagreeing. And I'm sure she'll agree I was polite in return. That's how adults communicate. With open minds and respect. Maybe you two (or just you) could try it.

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Hanywany · 30/04/2019 00:55

If you go back and read your own posts you will see you called me racist and a bad mother!! Then you can apologise!

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BlueSuedeStiletto · 30/04/2019 00:58

Hanywany She's agreeing wit u bbs. She thinx its wrong to leave a precious lil angle all alone. She is living her mummy life and is da best mummy she can b. Probs doesn't even have a first name now, shes just "Jessieskidsmummy"

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