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Original poster

To leave a 2 year old for 10 mins

726 replies

BlueSuedeStiletto · 27/04/2019 03:30

2 year old asleep in a cot they can't get out of. Needed to pop to the shops. 10 minutes away if that, child asleep the whole time, doors locked etc. Friend is horrified. WIBU?

OP posts:
midsummabreak · 27/04/2019 05:16

Waker her up and dont worry if she's grumpy, get her a small treat to take or buy at shops with you

midsummabreak · 27/04/2019 05:18

Unless its not urgent , then just wait

Bluntness100 · 27/04/2019 05:24

Reverse? No one does this or needs to ask if it's ok, it's clear it's not.

NowWeAreSuckingDiesel · 27/04/2019 05:32

I'm pretty laid back and I would absolutely not do this

TidyDancer · 27/04/2019 05:37

No reasonable person would think this was okay. Assuming this is a reverse and it's your friend who actually did this? It's neglect.

ItsAHardKn0ckLife1 · 27/04/2019 05:41

Nope nope nope.

Mummyoflittledragon · 27/04/2019 06:01

I wished sometimes I could do this with dd when she was little with her lunchtime nap but never would have - risk assessment too great. Your friend is right to be horrified.

butterflykiss00 · 27/04/2019 06:15

This is disgusting behaviour, as if u actually had to ask , poor 2yo

LesLavandes · 27/04/2019 06:16

No

TildaTurnip · 27/04/2019 06:18

It’s it just what could happen to her. It’s what could happen to you when out!

BasilTheGreat · 27/04/2019 06:20

You come across like irresponsible and uneducated about the risks.

Sculpin · 27/04/2019 06:22

No! This isn't an emergency situation - why not just wait till she wakes up?

imip · 27/04/2019 06:24

No. Also, if this is OK for you, I suspect next time you might need to go for 15 min, but it’ll be OK because you do it for 10 min. It’s a slippery slope. On MN, I suspect people are asking this when their child is 7, not 2!

Stopandlook · 27/04/2019 06:25

What did you need? 10 mins in an emergency if they are a good sleeper is ‘probably’ going to be fine but I can’t think of much from a shop that would be worth the risk?

ricepuddingme · 27/04/2019 06:25

Why on earth would it even be a possibility in your mind to do so?!?!

Pinkbutton85 · 27/04/2019 06:29

What the fuck? Is this real? Or a reverse?

What if she was sick and started choking?

What if you leaving woke her up and she cried for you until you were back? I know that would make me feel like shit!

What if you were hit by a car or crashed on the way?

What if God forbid a fire started?

ANYTHING can happen in 10 minutes. She's 2. Don't do it. And if you've already done it then you're very irresponsible and definitely need to take a look at your priorities. What is more important than the safety of your daughter?

notyourmummy · 27/04/2019 06:31

I think ywbu to leave a 2yo for 10 mins, if I go out to my car when mine is asleep I take the baby monitor! But in answer to someone upthread, not all 2yos climb out of their cots, neither of mine have ever attempted it.

Impatienceismyvirtue · 27/04/2019 06:37

Absolutely 100% not, anyone who does is a neglectful parent.

Starlight456 · 27/04/2019 06:41

Yes . I am a single parent many nights I would of been useful to pop to the shop when my Ds was 2 . I never did because nothing the shop sells is as important as my Ds.

SometimesIGetNervous · 27/04/2019 06:46

Reads as if you’ve already done it.

YABU. Of course you shouldn’t leave them.

All4114all · 27/04/2019 06:49

Wholly unacceptable!!!
I used to panic leaving a sleeping child in the car at the pump while I ran in and pay for fuel! Thank god for pay at pump.

bmbonanza · 27/04/2019 06:51

Totally unsafe - also reportable to social services as neglect.

InTheHeatofLisbon · 27/04/2019 06:53

I wouldn't, no. Because ten minutes is a long time, especially to a 2 year old.

What if she woke up and was scared because she was alone?
What if she tried to climb out and got stuck or fell?
What if she howled the house down and your neighbours saw you returning to the house and called the police?
What if, what if what if.

It's just not worth the risk. Ever.

Springwalk · 27/04/2019 07:06

You absolutely can not leave such a young toddler.
Your friend was right to be horrified. Ten minutes is a long time.

happymum12345 · 27/04/2019 07:06

No. It’s not ok to do this.