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Friend dropped my baby

174 replies

katers85 · 26/04/2019 04:17

I had a play date today at my house for my three year old, with another friend and her three year old. We were all sitting on the sofa. She asked to cuddle my 4 month old baby while I went to get cookies for the older kids.
When I walked back into the room, she lost her grip on my baby and baby fell from her arm onto the sofa. Luckily baby was uninjured and swiftly picked back up. Friend said she had wriggled and sort of laughed it off and said sorry. She had baby in upright position, over her shoulder, I think with one hand low on body and I don’t feel she could have been supporting her particularly well, I was out of the room for maybe one minute and was stood at doorway when it happened.
I didn’t say anything at the time, as I was a bit shocked. I now feel guilty for putting my daughter in that position and wonder if I should have said more. Do I just accept it was an accident or should I say more ? I just keep thinking how much worse it could have been and can’t help but feel responsible.

OP posts:
Ceebs85 · 26/04/2019 07:39

It's a non event.

CircleofWillis · 26/04/2019 07:39

I gasped in horror too in defence of a PP. possibly because I did a term on traumatic brain injuries in children and just imagined the baby's brain knocking forward and backwards if it bounced on the sofa.

Artesia · 26/04/2019 07:44

I gasped with horror when I read this,

Don’t suppose you’ve been to Rome recently CharlotteLV. Tour of the Sistine Chapel maybe? Wink

ItsBloodyFreezingg · 26/04/2019 07:44

I know you're upset OP but I can't help but roll my eyes at the gasps of horror and having actual nightmares because a baby fell, probably not much more than 30cm considering your friend was sat down, onto a soft sofa. It's all very dramatic.

She apologized and did a nervous laugh. Move on, it's really not worth losing a friendship over.

EdWinchester · 26/04/2019 07:54

No big deal. Forget about it.

GlendaSugarbeanIsJudgingYou · 26/04/2019 07:56

Oh God. -.-

Please, any new mothers or fathers stop reading now for your own sanity.

Kez200 · 26/04/2019 07:57

Accidents happen.

Ali1cedowntherabbithole · 26/04/2019 07:58

I’m sorry you are upset, but your baby is young and wriggly and about to become a lot more mobile and accident prone. As gently as possible, it might be your fault next time. (And you will feel terrible).

Be thankful for a soft settee and that for the most part babies bounce back better than their mothers Flowers.

olivetreelane · 26/04/2019 07:59

Was her laugh more along the lines of feeling embarrassed? Baby had a soft landing and she apologised. I don't think there is more you can do.

HotChocolateLover · 26/04/2019 08:02

This is far less of an exciting thread than the title would suggest. ‘Baby falls on sofa’ It’s fine OP but not earth shattering news. My DS fell off the bed once when he was about two months old and lived to tell the tale.

ZippyBungleandGeorge · 26/04/2019 08:06

Trying to hold my four month old is like trying to wrangle a honey Badger, he wriggles and fidgets, is surprisingly strong (pound for pound stronger than an ox according to R4), he also has a knack for being calm, still and cuddly and then suddenly trying to launch himself out of your arms. It probably took her by surprise and yes a second arm would've been better, baby wasn't hurt, friend was probably a little shocked. I'm sure she'll be more careful in future.

bethy15 · 26/04/2019 08:09

Accidentally scratched,yes, but dropped, no way. Dropping a 4 month old baby from shoulder height to a sofa doesn't sound like a 'these things happen' sort of thing.

From the first post it seems the friend was sitting on the sofa, she held the baby on the sofa and the baby came off her shoulder (on the sofa) and fell onto the sofa, so a couple of inches in all, she more moved from one spot to another rather than a sheer drop.

AlexaShutUp · 26/04/2019 08:10

So your friend was sitting on the sofa and the baby fell from her arms on to the sofa?

MsTSwift · 26/04/2019 08:11

I dropped a large wriggly baby when I was about 10. She started crying and my lovely mum who hadn’t seen what happened explained how sometimes babies cry for no reason Blush. Never admitted it sometimes see her on fb she is gorgeous and successful 30 something living an international life but still feel abit guilty about her Grin

budgiegirl · 26/04/2019 08:11

I have several physical issues and drop everything but i have never dropped my baby

Maybe you’ve just been lucky. I’m almost scared to admit this, but I dropped all three of my DC when they were babies. They were all fine. Two of the times were due to me tripping up, once was just a wriggle that took me by surprise.

I’m not saying it’s ideal, but babies are generally tougher than we think. I can imagine it must be a bit of a shock though, to see someone else dropping your baby.

Mumberjack · 26/04/2019 08:11

Your friend probably nervously laughed it off, then spent the rest of the day feeling terrible.

Bibbidyboo · 26/04/2019 08:15

Can’t believe you even took the time to post this. It really is no big deal at all, babies are robust and falling from something soft to something else soft is nothing to worry about at all. I certainly wouldn’t stop letting people hold my baby or fall out with a friend over a silly accident where no harm was done

WhiskersPete · 26/04/2019 08:21

Eh? She’s 4 months old so I’m presuming can support her own head. From what you described she slipped onto a soft surface.

You sound like hard work. As for posters who gasped in horror. Seriously? How do you function in day to day life?

CircleofWillis · 26/04/2019 08:23

From the first post it seems the friend was sitting on the sofa,

Blush I hadn't read the OP properly and thought the friend was standing with the baby over shoulder.

Sparklesocks · 26/04/2019 08:23

Sounds like a nervous, break the tension laugh more than a ‘hahaha I dropped your kid lolz’

KidLorneRoll · 26/04/2019 08:27

I wonder how the people who 'gasp in horror' at a 4 month year old falling a foot onto a sofa cope with day to day life.

Bookworm4 · 26/04/2019 08:28

@artesia
I do wonder how Sistine lass is 😉
OP and the other hysterical mummy's, god help us if your child falls outside as a toddler; you'll be demanding medivac.
@parma
For you to be recalling drunk Mil 'dropping' baby is basically a lie, the baby slid off her lap onto sofa; no dropping at all.

Ihatehashtags · 26/04/2019 08:28

What exactly will you say to her that won’t end the friendship? She said sorry, obviously she didn’t mean to drop your baby. The baby isn’t harmed, doesn’t have broken bones or any other injuries. You need to chill out.

SoyDora · 26/04/2019 08:34

I have a 15 week old and he’s pretty robust, he’d probably laugh at being dropped on the sofa and think it was a game!

BlueSkiesLies · 26/04/2019 08:34

I wonder how the people who 'gasp in horror' at a 4 month year old falling a foot onto a sofa cope with day to day life

The same ones who are on the bluebell wood thread saying they wouldn’t let their 16 year old go for a daytime walk in woods to break up revision.

People generally a bit shit at life.