I have lost weight & started taking care of myself and I have lost every friend I ever had!

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In January I decided I was going to change my lifestyle for the better.
Starting January first I started doing things to make MYSELF happy. I lost a stone, started wearing makeup, bought nicer clothes, started getting my nails and hair done and wore makeup regularly. On top of this I started socialising more with my partner and together we went out more and over all and generally I was a lot more confident in my skin.
However, as of last night I have lost some of my closest friends. Women who I knew since high school. Many of them have been trying to lose weight for a while or I guess were used to be looking different but, my last original friend last night told me I just wasn't myself anymore.

I am obviously going to keep on the track that boosts my confidence but, it's been very very sad losing good friends.

If it doesn't make sense...

Sometimes in a friendship group people have roles - the married one, the mother, the single one etc. And sometimes if someone changes their role it changes the group dynamic. Perhaps that has happened here.

You'd notice if I lost a stone cos I'm titchy. About 5 lbs puts me into the next size up. It's shit.

All your friends
So unless just one group of friends who all know one other that means that separate and distinct friends have all decided to remove themselves from your life

Op, there is a problem and it’s you.

Agreed Herland - a stone is a lot of weight if you are short!

It seems unlikely they're all jelly just cos you lost a stone. Are they all trying to lose weight or something? Or do they like to meet up to do v unhealthy things and you don't want to anymore? (like meet at all you can eat places or something?)

Can I just say that I'd be really happy to lose a stone?

Totes mlm

You're not really selling it OP, are you? Must try harder.

Well, I suspect several people have hit the nail on the head. You are obviously proud of the loss, but you must be going on about it a bit too much and about your ‘new life’. They are probably sick of hearing about it, feeling judged and feeling your ‘new life’ doesn’t include them. While a stone is a lot to lose and can be a struggle, I don’t think it’s so much your friends would be so jealous as to drop you. Especially if it’s all of them. You are the common denominator, so I would also encourage you to examine your recent manner, conversations, and possible judgy-ness.

one poster after another has asked if MLM is involved. OP has not replied. There's your answer

OP can you PLEASE just put us out of our misery and tell us what you’re selling!?

Either..we were supposed to be gobsmacked, ignore the bit about the friends (that's just there to beef up the story) and ask what on earth she used/did to achieve it
Or....the expected response was 'aww hun' (wrong parenting website for that!) and what an awful lot of shallow bitches her friends are and how she must put herself first.
Didn't get either so gone.

I think a stone would be noticeable on lots of people but is unlikely to take you from obese to slender. Definitely not enough of a weight loss to trigger any major jealousy.

it depends what size u were at the start u wouldn t notice a stone off me but someone slimmer u might

but have u been going on about it or giving people lectures on what theyre eating

well this is weird lose 1 friend probably them lose all youre friends probably you

It's quite obvious they the OP is an MLM otherwise why no response

If it was all separate friends it might be her, but if they're one set group of friends she could lose them all in one fell swoop if the 'leader' turns.

I have come around to the MLM theory. She was desperate for us to ask her how she lost the stone...!

I wish she'd just tell us which MLM it is. Should I pretend to be interested?

Haha i am a shorty who would be over the moon with losing a stone! I put on about 6lb this year and it definitely shows!

I’m thinking it’s MI Lifestyle or some other similar lifestyle MLM, as I’ve seen those bots use similar wording on FB.

I have come around to the MLM theory. She was desperate for us to ask her how she lost the stone

Couple of sneezes?
Really big 💩?
Major haircut?

How curious 🧐🧐🧐

That’s what is so terrifying about MLM’s; even when every friend you have tells you that you’ve changed and they no longer want to have anything to do with you, you are so conditioned to believe it’s them but you that you don’t question it for a second.