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The Ten White Horsemen Of The Apocalypse Wedding Part 2

844 replies

jessicawessica · 23/04/2019 13:27

I've never had to start a second thread so no idea if I've done this right.
I couldn't resist the title.

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TapasForTwo · 06/05/2019 14:43

There is a thread in a similar vein here

It seems to be the silly season for weddings.

ahtellthee · 06/05/2019 16:05
Shock
BabyDueDecember2019 · 06/05/2019 16:26

So glad I found this thread again!

PJMasksAreOnTheirWay · 06/05/2019 17:25

Been looking for this. It had fallen off my page.

LannieDuck · 07/05/2019 13:29

It does seem as if her side of the family is being prioritised. Has anyone counted up guests on her side, and guests on your side and pointed out how unequal it is?

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jessicawessica · 07/05/2019 17:40

Ha ha yes we have counted the guests on each side and it is unequal.
Even more so now that the only people going on DN's side are his dad, his brother and his mum.
My mum has pulled out now so it's a good job it's not in a church because one side would be empty.

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7salmonswimming · 07/05/2019 17:50

I can't believe the bride phoned you to bollock you! No idea, but you must be a fair bit older than her - like, a respectable it (not suggesting you're aged Grin). Who would telephone their groom's aunt and give them a bollocking about their own wedding?? What did she think that would achieve?? She's mental!

TapasForTwo · 07/05/2019 18:37

His 10 groomsmen can be his "family"

RebootYourEngine · 07/05/2019 19:10

Who are the 10 groomsmen, are they his friends or her family or both?

LondonJax · 07/05/2019 19:21

I think you should be gracious and buy them a wedding gift to be honest.

'The CFs guide to cooking Sunday lunch' would probably be a well received present! Wink Grin - add a map of their kitchen to it as they obviously don't know where anything is. They'd be grateful. Honest.

Honeyroar · 07/05/2019 20:36

Time to let this go now. You've made your decision . So has your mum. Going through their guest list and counting how many are on each side is not really healthy! (How do you even know who is on their guest list anyway?)

GiveMeFiveMinutes · 07/05/2019 20:38

Oh well, @Honeyroar has decided that it's time to let it go, so I guess that's that 😂

IvanaPee · 07/05/2019 21:14

Until the next dramatic installment at least...

Anniegetyourgun · 07/05/2019 21:20

So it appears that spending all the potential deposit on a wedding may have been part of a cunning plan to weasel DN's mum out of her home. She can't very well throw them out on the street, child and all, when they don't have enough money to get their own place. The fact that they could have had enough if they hadn't blown it is neither here nor there - they haven't got it now. And now they're starting to behave badly so she spends less time in their company. Result! Why pay for a house when they will have effective, almost exclusive use of someone else's?

Or maybe they're just feckless rather than Machiavellian. But it does seem to be working out rather well for them, provided they don't mind ending up a bit short of relatives who are still speaking to them.

StillCoughingandLaughing · 07/05/2019 22:32

Is anyone else picturing the OP crashing the wedding and shouting ‘I’m a blood relative. BLOOD!’ at the other guests a’la Monica Geller?

ArgyMargy · 08/05/2019 07:18

But how are we going to get a full report of the wedding itself? Frankly that's why I'm still here.

MachineBee · 08/05/2019 08:26

Me too. An update about the wedding would be fab. How long do we have to wait OP?

Bunnybaubles · 08/05/2019 08:59

People saying time to wrap it up really annoy me! Who made you thread monitor!

I've been following from the very start and definitely hanging around till the divorce wedding Grin

TapasForTwo · 08/05/2019 09:18

They can always hide the thread can't they Bunny.

I don't know why I am so invested in this. Perhaps it is because I want to see if the CFs get their come uppance.

Bunnybaubles · 08/05/2019 10:25

@Tapasfortwo that's what I do. It would never occur to me to take time to actually post and criticise because I personally had finished with the thread. Its bizzar.

I've been following since the OP first posted. Of course there are comments saying she should do this, say that etc but it's mostly just banter amongst the OP and posters to try and make light of a hurtful decision.

I personally continue to follow because I want to see these two finally realise what they have done and that the op is ok by the end of it all.

i want DB1, DN and his fiancee grovel for forgiveness at OP's front door after they are shamed by all the other guests at their wedding Wink

TapasForTwo · 08/05/2019 10:29
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Happynow001 · 08/05/2019 10:37

Actually these two self-centred silly young people are making a car-crash out of their own lives.

It's a shame his parents in particular don't seem to have given better guidance. I'm particularly sorry for DN's mother who seems to feel so hounded out of her own home she spends most of her time at her partner's. Sadly, I feel this will just make the young couple feel more entitled in her house. What incentive do they have to move out when their next child is due - if ever?

Nofunkingworriesmate · 08/05/2019 15:24

It’s not the bride and grooms job to sort out transport for guests other than groomsmen and bridesmaids
It is however a perfectly good reason to decline an invite

MachineBee · 08/05/2019 15:30

NoFunking I agree up to a point. But draw the line for very elderly close relatives. And very poor form for the B&G to decide which guests are giving lifts without a) them even being invited at the same time and b) being asked (politely) first

Hadalifeonce · 08/05/2019 16:47

Oh goodness, when did weddings become so horrendous? When my sister and I got married, the budget was affordable without taking out a mortgage, the numbers were worked out, the groom's parents produced a guest list of x number, the bride's parents did likewise. Children were invited, and a few evening guests.
There was no such thing as wedding favours; stag nights and hen nights were a night out a couple of days before the wedding usually a pub crawl or a restaurant. The wedding meal was affordable, as prices for everything weren't doubled because it was a wedding, wedding planners and fayres are the work of the devil!!!!!!!!!!!!!