To skive off work tomorrow?

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I know I'm being massively unreasonable! So I'm hoping you'll all say yes you are but do it anyway! I need random strangers to justify it to myself.

I've had the past 2 weeks off with the kids over Easter, we all go back to work/school tomorrow.

I'm a single parent and haven't had a day to myself throughout the whole holidays, don't get me wrong, it's been fab being off with the kids and doing lots with them, but mentally I need some time to myself!

The weather is glorious tomorrow, would I be unreasonable to skive off work and go for a walk up a mountain with just the dog for company?!

I worked for an online bank. I had never had a single headache before working there (this is in the days of monitors not flat screens).
I kept waking up with migraines so bad I could not lift my head of the pillow.
A few times I had to call in sick. I say me, my DH put the phone to my head when through to the right person as the ringing made me scream.
On 3/5 occasions I went in once the migraine cleared and worked the late shift instead. Hugely inconvenient to me. I got pulled in for every absence despite coming in late and actually working a full shift.
No point.
Just skive. The time doesn’t matter. I was 100% genuine and once they changed the monitors to flat screens I had not one absence in a year. They still thought I had skived!
Take your perks where you can. Doing the right thing gets you nowhere... bitter

Life is short, and this time next year, no-one will remember!!!

@polarbearflavour you’re so right! It doesn’t matter a jot. Think I’ll follow your line of thinking and skive Friday.

Of course, that means that at least 8 people will have to have their surgery cancelled, meaning a longer wait and reschedule. One of those people had family flying in from overseas for post op help, but they won’t mind having their flights and time booked off work to be not needed, and I’m sure they will be able to afford more leave and flights for the rescheduled dates.

The reschedule required will mean that other people get their surgery delayed while we fit in the cancelled patients, which may lead to a significant deterioriation in their quality of life.

But hey, it’s just a job right? Doesn’t matter at all in the scheme of things.

Just do it. Many years ago whilst working in Pre-school i used to take a day off in early july before the end of term so i could go offh on my own, working with children and having 3 of my own meant i never had anymore than half an hour without a child by my side so i felt justified in my 1 day a year. Every woman should take that time

i used to take a day off in early july before the end of term so i could go offh on my own, working with children and having 3 of my own meant i never had anymore than half an hour without a child by my side so i felt justified in my 1 day a year. Every woman should take that time

Every woman is perfectly entitled to book a day of annual leave.

Women aren’t entitled to pull a sickie because their partner is a bit shit at giving them equal leisure time.

I would definitely skive off. Our mental health is more important sometimes, and having that day to yourself can be hugely beneficial.

@HicDraconis there’s no need to be sarcastic. Most people, like the OP don’t have jobs like yours. Most people have jobs that are largely pointless.

I have never had any qualms about taking a day off as my jobs have never meant anything.

Even using your example, well no, in the whole scheme of things, nothing actually matters. In x amount of years the Earth will no longer exist and nothing will be left. 🤷🏻‍♀️

blueskies I don’t have a partner.

I suppose if you lost your job because you skived ,you’d have every day free to walk on a mountain?
I’d just be bloody grateful to have a job in this climate
Having had over two weeks off for Easter where you could have booked childcare if you needed a day alone ,I think it’s an absolute pisstake frankly!

Hic, no it doesn't matter. Your duvet day is more important.

I’m with Hic - there is no hierarchy of who gets to skive and who doesn’t. If you are employed to do a job then you turn up and do it unless you are unwell.

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Agree

If I did that in my job, I would put my work colleagues under extreme pressure which I’m not prepared to do.

Surely it depends on the circumstances surrounding your job? Putting your colleagues under extreme pressure or having to cancel life saving surgery? I'd say no. Sitting in a staff room doing a lesson plan because all your students are on a school trip? I'd say go for it.

Not everyone's situations are identical to others. I've taken days off for myself before like this OP. Not with enough notice to book AL so have had to call in 'sick'. I don't care at all. I didn't leave anyone in the shit, work hard and my attendance is great.

I get that on MN work is life and you're a horrid person for daring to disagree and (shock horror) ever be off without being admitted to hospital but, in the real world, I wouldn't judge!

Is nobody just really grateful to actually have a job? I have crippling anxiety, and some days I am in tears on the bus on the way to work... but I still always turn up because that is my reasonable duty to my employer. They are being kind in employing me.. I'm not being kind by turning up. It's their right to expect that of me.

While I agree with your very last bit, they're not being kind in employing uou. They employ you because you're needed a cm d they pay you for the work you do

Yes, they employ me because they need me to do the work I do - but they don't need ME specifically -they could employ a million others to do the job .. so it IS a kindness on their part that they chose me rather than someone else.

It isn't kindness. They need employees to make money just as much as you need an employer to make yours.

Why on earth would anybody be grateful to have a job? They pay you for your services, it’s a business transaction. Any employer would lay anybody off if they have to - even with a perfect attendance record.

It’ll be interesting to see what happens in the next 20 years as automation increases and jobs become fewer.

I think you understand the point I am making. That those of us who have jobs are very fortunate to have them. There are many people who would like to have one, but for whatever reason don't, and would happily swap with us. So we shouldn't take that good fortune lightly.

Nope - employers need workers. Nothing to be grateful for. We are after all just “human resources.”

While I disagree, you're saying it's an employers market, and you're not wrong about that

Would you feel the same if you were the employer

Life and the universe don't owe you employment. It's not a difficult concept. Employers can always employ someone else instead of you. Therefore if you have a job you are in fact very lucky. Again, not difficult.

Get off your knees MalevolentPrawn.

By your logic, employers aren’t owed employees either.

Seriously - it’s just a job. On your deathbed it won’t matter. Heck, the week after you leave a job it doesn’t matter, nobody will remember you.

Being grateful is being on my knees? I feel very sorry for you if you genuinely believe that is the case.