To skive off work tomorrow?

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I know I'm being massively unreasonable! So I'm hoping you'll all say yes you are but do it anyway! I need random strangers to justify it to myself.

I've had the past 2 weeks off with the kids over Easter, we all go back to work/school tomorrow.

I'm a single parent and haven't had a day to myself throughout the whole holidays, don't get me wrong, it's been fab being off with the kids and doing lots with them, but mentally I need some time to myself!

The weather is glorious tomorrow, would I be unreasonable to skive off work and go for a walk up a mountain with just the dog for company?!

Oh just do it! One day won't make a big difference in the scheme of things, the world keeps turning, and you will be nicely rested for work the next day!

Well in that case then yes you should take it off but you can't do it once you are qualified so I'd take advantage this once.

Do it ...life too short ...you need time for you too xx

It's one day, there's no harm! I don't know why some people are acting like you are being completely unreasonable because you aren't.

Do it and enjoy your day off

As tempting as it seems to stay off I'd go in & get the work done. I'm back at school tomorrow, & the thing which will help me get up is knowing its PPA in the afternoon! I love the kids, but I love the planning time too, I'm a single parent as well. I've been teaching 21 years now & have DD10. But when I was doing my BEd my older 3 DC were young, & I was single. It was bloody hard so I get the temptation for a "you" day off, but wouldn't it be better to get the planning etc done tomorrow, then the rest of your week will be easier.
Getting back into work mode doesnt get any easier no matter how long you have been doing it. But by break time it will seem like we have been back forever!

Unless you've changed a lot of details in your post I'd be far too worried about being caught now. There won't be many schools with a trip on the first day back with an ill trainee teacher!

I'm a teacher too btw. I'm exhausted after Easter as my dd is in term time only nursery. Loved spending time with her, but I'm always either with my child or someone else's.

If you do it you need to make sure that nobody ever finds out about it. Your training year is the last time you might get away with it, in the future you will have to set cover and make more work for your colleagues.
Skiving is heavily frowned upon in teaching, one of my colleagues was actually disciplined for it. Another colleague reported them to the headteacher and the consensus in the staff room was that they deserved it.

Yanbu
Go for it.
I'm the grand scheme of things I'm sure it won't make a difference to your employer.
By virtue of the fact that you are even asking the question, tells me that you are loyal and hard working.
Take a break. Get the kids off to school and go back to bed with a magazine.
I shall think of you when I'm sat in work tomorrow morning 😫😫

I’ve been considering the same thing single mum of two myself. What are you planning to do once your contract ends? If you don’t have another job lined up you’ll have time to yourself then. As much as I’m desperate to be off work as much as possible, it makes it 10x harder when you do go back and I loathe my job. Not to mention faking illness/sick days on reference/ risk of being seen. You can do it, only 4/5 weeks until the next half term!

Get yourself into work!

Do it. As a teacher, no one will look out for your wellbeing unless you’re prepared to go rogue once in a while. It’s a crazy culture - there’s so much pride in turning up even when you’re falling apart. It’s far too early for you to buy into that already plenty of time for that later.

Sorry I know it’s tempting but if you were my trainee I would be pissed off about it and suspicious as we would know exactly why you had done it. Also far less likely to be supportive next time you need time for an actual genuine reason. If you can spend the day planning then schools out at 3 ish sun is still out for another 5 hours. Also if you’re finishing in June then you have the whole of July to enjoy too. I wouldn’t do it, head down you’re nearly there!

You mentioned that you have 100% attendance so far - that looks good on a reference so don't throw it away unnecessarily. You have a long summer break to look forward to, and will hopefully find a job you want to do in the new school year. If you or your child are not actually ill or with some essential, unchangeable or urgent appointment that you could present as an acceptable reason for being off, you should honour your placement and attend.

Well i’m on the train heading to work, feeling shit that I didn’t take it off!
My ds was feeling down in the dumps about going to school this morning and I thought if I’m making him go in then I definately should!

Kinda wishing I’d just taken ds out now and we had a day together! He’s a bit older than dd, so easier to do stuff with!

Good decision.

Honestly, I am disappointed with many of the trainees that are coming through our doors these days. Lack of professionalism and work ethic are evident in so many of them now. But I guess that is what happens when teaching is now so unattractive to many candidates we should be trying to get in instead.

I’m glad you’ve decided to go in. I mentor trainees (have done for years) and I wouldn’t be impressed. We’d like an extra day too you know

You’ll get days where you end up teaching very little sometimes. It just means you can mark or catch up on planning. I bet some of your colleagues have a light day today, but they’ll still be in. Nature of the job.

Chin up though- it’s a short term, only 5 weeks til May half term! And I live this bit (assuming you are secondary?) as the Year 11 exams approach it feels so worthwhile!

Oh and I’ve had the fear every single holiday!(and I’m 15 years in!) it’s normal!

Thanks! Yeah I’ve always had a high work ethic, I work hard and try to pass that on to my children. So I’m not too sure atm why I’m feeling unmotivated. This was supposed to be the start of a new career but I feel like I’m dreading it rsther than embracing it! I really enjoyed my last career, which was also in education, this is the natural next step up so I don’t understand!

Tbf, I am enjoying being here today, I’ve just observed the yr 13s and they’re lovely 😊

Good for you (from someone who suggested you take it off) Your commitment is commendable and you will definitely feel better this evening knowing that you did the right thing,

You do need to take care of yourself too though. Is there any way you can get a few hours child free in the near future. Even an hour of total you time is better than nothing.

If you are a 24/7 parent and working full time as well, life is hard and you need to take care of your mental health.

you are a star

Bravo! Glad you got to observe something.

How do you feel about teaching in general? You don’t seem hugely convinced by it? That’s completely fine, but you need to find something that makes you happy. Would going back to your old job be something you’d consider?

Thanks hecatah it is hard!! My mum’s coming over in May so will steal some time away then

Thanks Thezeppo I think the issue is being fulltime!
I’ve been teaching outdoor education for years, the last 10 being self employed so sometimes full weeks and others just one or 2 days. I’n finding 5 days a week tough and so are my children! We’re out the house at 7:30 every morning then back at 6pm. It’s draining on us all and they dread going to school because of it.

I know most people are in a similar boat though so mustn’t complain

You work in a school. Hope my child doesn’t go there!

Oh do fuck off decormad

Well done OP! I wfh today

How much work did you get done minkies?