Does your DH ask 'stupid' questions?

[Brightburn]

Urghhh! Please tell me I'm not the only one who gets fed up of their DH asking 'stupid' questions they already know the answer to but are to lazy to think for themselves so ask you to think for them.

Today's example... DH gets dirty chopping board out of dishwasher, what have you used this for this morning? ... Cutting sausages, as you watched me do it and asked me to cut yours too.

Very petty, very unreasonable but it just winds me up

HalloumiMuffin - my dp does this too. He thinks I know everything, that I'm the human Google. I just google things, like he can.

SeaViewBliss
When eating out, if it’s anything other than knife and fork food he’ll say ‘how do we eat this?’
Try suggesting "with your fingers?"

In Pizza Express looking at the menu.

‘Which one do I like?’

Ffs. 👿

Yes! All. The. Time.
"is it cold out?" (when neither of us has been out yet)
"Should I wear a jacket?"
"What's the date?"
"What shall I have to eat?" (When choosing from a menu)
"Where's my keys/ phone/ money?"
"What shirt shall I wear" (then never wears the one I pick).
I often answer with "your guess is as good as mine"
I'm often yelled questions from other rooms too and I'm (a woman) married to another woman.

Oh I forgot the other thing DH does. If the answer I give to a question is “I don’t know”, he just keeps bloody asking as though my answer will change. We had a shouty argument about an actor once because he wanted to know who it was and I didn’t know, and he just kept going, “Yeah, but who is it?” until I had to shout “LIKE I’VE SAID SIX TIMES, I DON’T BLOODY KNOW!!!”.

He has a smartphone, he could have looked it up for himself right then and there.

I can second all of the above 'dumb question behaviours' but the one that REALLY gets me is as follows:-

He doesn't know something which he thinks he ought to know (how many left handed people in outer Mongolia, for example). He says, 'Do you you know how many left handed people there are in Mongolia?'

You see what he has done? He has signalled his amazing, capacious interest in the world but passed on the ignorance to me. I become the ignorant sap who doesn't even know the left handed related information.

The true answer to this question is, 'I don't know the answer to this moronic question that only a complete idiot would want to know about. If I did I would have Googled it like any other person on earth capable of thinking. And, what's more, if I had known I'd be subjected to this level of twattery I'd never have married the fool who was doing it in the first place.'

Obviously, I don't actually say these words. I have pulled him up on this many a time and oft but it still keeps happening.

Before DH uses his own eyes and employs his own knowledge of his own home to locate something, he will ask me where it is. It's draining and irritating. "Where is my baseball cap?" "Where are my brown shoes?" "Where is my head?" That sort of thing.

'Do you need me to put a wash on today whilst you're at work?"

Looks gigantic pile of laundry in the corner, rolls eyes

*In Pizza Express looking at the menu.

‘Which one do I like?’* 🤣

When I ask DH what he wants for lunch, he puts on his slightly befuddled look (perfected over many years despite my ongoing efforts) and says, "X, what do you want me to want?"

All of a sudden I have a new found appreciation for my DH. I thought he lacked initiative at times. He's basically a domestic God in comparison to some of yours

Not DH but my DP loves asking silly questions Haha

He has a habit for getting the scissors out of the dishwasher full of dirty pots and ask "did you use these?"

Ask me if the ham or cheese is okay in the fridge when he opened it yesterday

Ask me where the car keys are (in the key bowl)

Ask me the time when his watch is firmly placed in his hand.

Where did I put his shoes(You were the last to use them)

My favorite still has to be "what did you say?" then I start telling him, "oh yeah you are saying"
If you heard why did I have to repeat?

And other little quirks

**AmphetamineGazelle

That sounds awful I'm really sorry to hear it

I’m just realising my husband must have the patience of a saint. I’m always loosing my phone and ask him all the time “have you seen my phone?” Without looking first. Also “what’s the time?” But in my defence he wears a watch and I’ve put my phone down somewhere. I also talk to him when he’s in a different room. Oh dear, I’m going to make an effort to sort it out...

DP is almost very very good. He does the laundry, can feed himself, buys stuff when we need it. Very good.

Except he's always asking if I know where his X is... problem is I always do because it's always in the same place.

This is classic not-understanding-emotional-load behavior. See if you can get him to look up “emotional load” and get to grips with it. It’s real.

Reading all of these, I can honestly say my DH is lovely.

But... right in the beginning of our marriage, eleventy million years ago, he was always looking for his car keys in the mornings. He parked behind me on the driveway, so I would inevitably help him look so that I won't be late for work too.

One morning I phoned my work and told them I'd be late, sat down on the sofa and started reading a magazine.

He was getting all flustered and shouting that I should help him or I'd be late too. I said, nope. I'm good. And left him to it.

Never happened again

Omg! Good to know it's not just my husband!

Every evening, when i finally sit down on the sofa he asks..."what do you want to watch", like while i have been doing bed time and dinner I've had time to also analyse the TV guide for the hundreds of channels/on demand he has us subscribed to! What I really want to watch is TOWIE, what he wants to watch is a tv series about some superhero or other. We usually settle on watching th

...the news.

My DH does the 'what should I dress DS/DD in?' but to be fair it's because I've got form for looking at said child when he's dressed them and commenting along the lines of.... 'what on earth are you wearing? You can't go out like that...' so to be fair to him, he's quite right to ask

An ex of mine worked for an events company and when he was still young and anxious, he was given the task of looking after a very well respected, older female film star ahead of an awards show. (I won't name names, but think national treasure).

He was a bit nervous and after showing her to her dressing room, he asked if he should put a big bouquet of flowers which had arrived for her into some water.

"No," she said very seriously, "I think you should put them up my arse".

Whenever he asked me a witless question after that I always suggested a variation on that response

I have just been reminded of another annoying little quirk dh has. He will often ask me to guess things & means it. For example guess who has got a new puppy, guess how much this cost, guess who I bumped into today etc. I have no bloody clue and he doesn’t even give a starting point- drives me mad! I don’t ever join in but he still does it!

GreenDragon Can you wear him down with pointless wrong guesses? E.g.. look serious and say 'The Queen? Kim Kardashian? Nigel Farage? Simon Cowell?...' until he gets tired of it and has to tell you. Think like Mrs Doyle guessing the priest's name in Father Ted.

I do sometimes- other times, when I am busy I get annoyed and it just stops the conversation. I can live without knowing most of the time....

@spanishwife

From the sound of all of your posts, they probably ask questions before doing something because they're scared of being told off when they inevitably do it 'wrong'

DH says this. But that doesn't explain why I think we've had a conversation and a day or two later has no memory of it. It makes me feel what I say isn't important enough for him to bother listening to. I'm not Google. I'm not his mother.

As with loads of you - what really annoys me is when we have had the same conversation before!! Grr - why do they appear to listen but just not bother to take it in? I have learned now that I have to tell DH important things in BIG, LOUD, CLEAR words and ask him to repeat it back to me. Then I just might have a chance......

YES oh god

Where are the toilets? I don’t know, I’ve never been here either.
What are we doing tomorrow? That thing I’ve told you about three times already.
How much pepper does this need? Read the recipe.
What’s the date on the chicken in the fridge? I DON’T KNOW, I CAN’T SEE FROM HERE
Okay, calm down, I was just asking.
GRRRRR.

Love him to bits but my god, he drives me up the wall.