Does your DH ask 'stupid' questions?

[Brightburn]

Urghhh! Please tell me I'm not the only one who gets fed up of their DH asking 'stupid' questions they already know the answer to but are to lazy to think for themselves so ask you to think for them.

Today's example... DH gets dirty chopping board out of dishwasher, what have you used this for this morning? ... Cutting sausages, as you watched me do it and asked me to cut yours too.

Very petty, very unreasonable but it just winds me up

Always!!! What shall I feed the baby? Where is X? (When he knows exactly where it is), waits until I'm in the middle of getting the baby ready for bed 'can you come and help me!'........ 'it's been a long Easter!

Ex-H : ' is this piece of cheese on toast hot?', whilst holding it in his own hand before giving to his child.

Thankfully I am no longer responsible for policing his senses.

Oooohh. This whole thread is making me twitchy.
All.the.fucking.time. Like a pp.
Why can't you use your own brain instead of wearing mine out. Seriously.
One day I swear I'll snap (and not fart) then end up on an episode of 'Killer Wives'.
The final straw was asking where the pants were....whilst standing in front of the pants drawer. Death by pants.

Yup, every day - what's for tea? - just for once I'd like him to take initiative and at least choose what I get to cook if he can't be arsed to cook it himself.
I'm hungry, what is there to eat?
Have you seen my x, y, z - literally the messiest person I know so hardly surprising he can never find anything 😡

My DH ALWAYS WITHOUT FAIL asks me the calpol/calprofen dosage when the bottle is IN HIS HAND.

"Hey cricket how much calpol can little cricket have"

"I don't know love, why don't you look at the fucking bottle that's in your hand!!!!!!"

Drives me insane.

The most common ones I get...
What shall I make for dinner?
Do I have any clean pants/t-shirts etc?

mabelsgarden

LOL. My husband does this occasionally too. He also has a habit of trying to talk to me/ask me things when I am 2 rooms away (so I am in the kitchen/diner, and he's in the lounge, and the hall is in between.) I have the microwave going, the fan, the washing machine, and the kettle, and he acts all surprised when I come into the lounge red-faced with annoyance, and say I CAN'T HEAR YOU!!!!!!!!!!
Yes to this, all the time!

If anyone shouts me a question from another room, i just either ignore or shout I'm in the kitchen (or whatever, but lets face it it is usually the kitchen) and make them shout louder or come to me- drives me mad that i am expected to stop what i'm doing, walk to a different room just to hear their question.

My dh also says "we" all the time instead of either taking some fucking responsibility or just straight out asking me to do something. "We really need to clear the car out", means "you should clean the car out" cause he will never do it unless its a joint effort.

I hear you with "whats the plan" pain. I recently went on a guided womens hike and it was so incredibly liberating to just follow the leader around a mountain and have to not think about anything she planned the route, rest stops, made coffee, facilitated chat, it was WONDERFUL.

DH once asked prior to taking a DC out for the day on his own: "Do you think he should have a coat on?"

I said, "Oh I dunno, DH, why don't you ask one of his parents?"

Worked quite well . . .

My DP is a chef. Sometimes when he has a day off and I'm at work he'll text me to ask what's for dinner. FFS!
Also "where are my trainers?" Where you left them).
and "what do we need from the shops?" (Looking in the fridge and cupboards you a-hole).

And I hate this learned helplessness where he is so proud of being able to fix car engines and complicated IT and phone problems, but is defeated by the washing machine every time.

Balloon Slayer "I said, "Oh I dunno, DH, why don't you ask one of his parents?"

Worked quite well . ."

The other day DH asked if we had any paracetamol. I suggested he look in the cupboard where we keep medicines. After much rifling of cupboard contents, he declares that we don't have any so goes out to buy some. While he's out I open said cupboard to see a packet of paracetamol sitting there.

Earlier today after being glued to his phone for hours, he asked me what time the recycling centre closed. I tersely suggested he use the magic of his phone to look the opening times up.

Have you seen my ...? Usually it’s keys or work ID. I used to stop what I was doing and start looking for whatever it was. Now I just reply “I have in the past”.

What’s the plan today? Are we doing anything today/tomorrow/next week? “Look at the calendar”.

Lots of other silly questions, but the ones that really bug me are the ones that start “what have you done with...?” Usually the answer is either nothing or put it where it belongs.

DH does have a habit of demanding to know what I want to do on a weekend.

I work FT he is a student.

Most weekdays he does,the school run then has a nap before getting stuck into —GOT— an essay.

He cannot comprehend that on a weekend I would actually sometimes just like to mope around at home doing sod all and not dash out somewhere like I do every fucking other day. And given I spend all my working day making decisions for people, I don’t want to do that on a weekend either if possible.

So no, I don’t want to get up at 8am and rush out of the house nor chose and plan all activities.

How can you bear to live with someone who asks you every morning “why is the kettle boiled?”, FirmlyRooted?! There’s stupid questions, and there’s that

“What’s the plan” is used here as well, for once I wish you (DH) could come up with a plan. Also when we try out a new restaurant or a takeaway “does such a dish taste nice”? How the eff am I meant to know it’s my first time here also!

Oh no this is me, I regularly ask DH if I'll need a coat, or a jumper when I go out, when he hasn't stepped foot outside the door

I had a boyfriend long, long ago who would respond to every question with a question, e.g.
“Are you going out tonight?”
“Am I going out tonight?”
“What did you do today?”
“What did I do today?”
Who else was I bleeding talking to on the phone call?!?

We are no longer together.

My dh asks many of the same types of questions as already mentioned but also seems to be incapable of filling out a form by himself without asking me how to do so - we recently changed drs: 'where shall I put to pick up prescriptions from' - wherever you want to pick them up from? 'What's our old drs full address/postcode' - Google it like I did? 'Shall I mention that I have asthma where it says about medical conditions?' - I should think so yes! 'What did you put for this?' Etc etc.

Usually I'll go and do something in another room and pretend not to hear :D

This morning DH went out for a bike ride.

He didn't take a key but he did take his phone. I knew this.

DS & I unexpectedly decided to go to the park.

I left a key in a hiding place & texted him.

Fast forward to his return & I got an angry phone call.

"I can't get in!!!! Where are you?"
"My message said we're at the park, key in hiding place"
"How am I supposed to know you've sent me a message?"

I wasn't sure how to answer that one?!

It's 2019, don't people look at the messages in their phones? I mean he'd called me from said phone...

When I was with my ex, we were travelling back from Ireland to East Sussex, and I suggested that we stop in the New Forest and find a B&B for the night. We got to the "Welcome to the New Forest" sign, and he stopped the motor bike and said "Well, OK, where are we going to stay?" When I said I didn't know, obviously not in the middle of heathland, he got really angry. I didn't really expect a grown man not to work out for himself that it might be a good idea to ride to a town or village and look out for a B&B sign!

My DH and DC used to drive me crazy doing this. Now, if its a question I deem stupid, I lie. For example of things I have said over the past month:

"how many days till Sunday?" asked by my DH. "3". "no its not, its 6". Shrug and walk off.

"mum where are my shoes?" "bathroom floor".... wastes their own time looking "no theyre not". Shrug and walk off.

I've been doing it for around 6 months and it does seem to be working. They now don't bother asking me :)

Tigresswoods DP does this, though admittedly doesn't get annoyed if it's his fault.

He also texts me and then comes to tell me face to face if he's in the house or tells me what was in the text when he comes from work. I'm not sure he knows how texts work actually . Though I don't mind this, if it works for him shrug...

It’s not quite the same but my DH will ask questions and then when I’m mid-answer he’ll wander off. When I ask him if he’s got somewhere important to be, he’ll tell me he’s busy doing a chore. So annoying. In response to general pointless questions I just tell him I’m not the manager.

We can be in a place new to both of us...where are the toilets? Where do we get the taxi from? Do you think the traffic will be bad?

What time is Brent Cross open till? Is there x shop in X town neither of us have been to. Worst thing is, is that then he looks irritated like I am trying to be awkward or difficult.

I have been asked how to empty the hoover countless times, literally doesn't engage brain. 'It won't suck'.... Try looking through the clear cylinder....it's full of crap! You need to empty it.....how do I do that?.... every..... single.....time