Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

Does your DH ask 'stupid' questions?

245 replies

Brightburn · 22/04/2019 17:38

Urghhh! Please tell me I'm not the only one who gets fed up of their DH asking 'stupid' questions they already know the answer to but are to lazy to think for themselves so ask you to think for them.

Today's example... DH gets dirty chopping board out of dishwasher, what have you used this for this morning? ... Cutting sausages, as you watched me do it and asked me to cut yours too.

Very petty, very unreasonable but it just winds me up AngryWine

OP posts:
Baggiegirl · 22/04/2019 23:25

I’m glad it’s not just my husband like this! His finest moment however has got to be when the doorbell rings and he says “ who’s that”. I may have many talents but x-ray vision or psychic powers are not among them 😂😂

Justkeeprollingalong · 22/04/2019 23:26

@User28817462737483899 I think we must be married to the same man. Mine does exactly this too. So bloody annoying, especially when it's something important.

Justkeeprollingalong · 22/04/2019 23:28

Also, as I'm coming downstairs ready to go out 'is that what you're wearing?' No dear, I just thought I'd put this on for a minute and then put on I'm going to wear 😤

123bananas · 22/04/2019 23:40

I have just had "do you know where my thingymybob is"? How the fuck am I meant to know?!! Confused

My pet hate is when DH wants to know something, but instead of coming to find me will call upstairs and expect me to come down to him with the answer. Like what he is doing is so much more important than whatever I am doing.

Also why whenever I go upstairs to work does he find loads of questions he suddenly needs answering when we have been in the same room for ages.

Also he is unable to Google to find out opening times instead of asking me what they are? Angry

CharityDingle · 22/04/2019 23:47

Also, as I'm coming downstairs ready to go out 'is that what you're wearing?'

That sounds very unpleasant of him. Sad

Justkeeprollingalong · 22/04/2019 23:51

@CharityDingle he really isn't being unpleasant, he genuinely thinks it's a reasonable question!

ilovebronn · 22/04/2019 23:54

Rang me up at work the other day to ask how long to cook a curry is got out of freezer for him earlier that day....he thought because I'd got it out I would know despite the fact he was at home with said curry and cooking instructions and I was 20 miles away at work. He does this type of thing often.

slappinthebass · 23/04/2019 00:11

I'm probably guilty of a lot of these myself tbh Blush. But the one DH is guilty of is having a mind block on where to find the kids clothes. 'Where are DC's pyjamas?' is the most common one. It infuriates me when I'm clearly in a rush getting ready to leave for work in the evening he often asks me to get the DC's pyjamas out for him Angry. He does an equal share of the laundry but doesn't seem to know where to put it away. Last week I'd been away for the night and he met me with the kids at an attraction near where I'd stayed. He was late, because he couldn't find any tops that fit for youngest DC. He said they were all in the size below. I was completely baffled at this because DC has about 50 tops in his wardrobe. I assumed it was because there are a few in the size below that came up big and still fit well, that I've placed all in the left of the wardrobe. So I explained this situation and heard nothing back. He arrived, youngest DC with odd socks on, and I reiterated that everything in his wardrobe fits. His reply? A rather sheepish, 'Oh... I actually hadn't thought until I saw your message to check in the wardrobe.' He also complains often about DC never having matching socks. They all have a place for odd socks and a place for paired socks. He cannot absorb this information and always selects from the odd drawer.

Menarefrommarsitwouldseem · 23/04/2019 00:15

" are the dc hungry"
" do they want lunch"
"What shall I do them"

I don't know
Ask them ffs!!

DC are old enough to decide if they want to eat/ what they want to eat and answer their dad.

It drives me crazy

Menarefrommarsitwouldseem · 23/04/2019 00:18

Oh and i asked him to put the washing in once, so I could hang it before I went to bed post night shift.

And he did just that.
I came home and went to hang it out and it was dry. I said oh no I think the machines packed in. Clothes are still dry.

He said " oh you wanted me to switch it on. I just thought you wanted me to put it in" Hmm

ACPC · 23/04/2019 00:22

What is a mandrake?
Have you seen my blue tie?
How many people died on Bloody Sunday?
What time is it?
He thinks I'm some sort of psychic/genius clearlyHmm

cstaff · 23/04/2019 00:24

@menarefrom See now that wasn't his fault. You obviously didn't complete your sentence Grin. What were you thinking.

Downunderduchess · 23/04/2019 00:57

When anyone asks me a question that they could find/solve for themselves, I say "I don't know".

HerRoyalNotness · 23/04/2019 01:12

Yes all the bloody time.

Me: friend is taking DS2 to sport thing tonight
15 mins later DH: are you taking DS2 to sport thing?
Me: NO mutter mutter

And kill me now DS1 has just asked me to help him make couscous

Me: get the packet out, instructions are on the back
dS1: can’t you just tell me the steps so I don’t have to .... read it
Me:

WinterSunglasses · 23/04/2019 01:22

Mine always asks me ‘what’s the plan?’ as though it’s solely my remit to decide what jobs need done, what activities we should do, etc.

I've had this and the next infuriating step where having asked, they critique your plan in detail. Well, if you had a better one all along...?

Happynow001 · 23/04/2019 01:39

Wow OMG! AmphetamineGazelle
There really doesn't seem anything remotely attractive about your "D"H.

And why did he want you to take down and re-erect the gazebo? What a twat.

I'm sending you good thoughts and a hug. 🌹

SecretLimonadeDrinker · 23/04/2019 01:45

I have found my people!

@BalloonSlayer and @Dontforgettheice both genius moves which I will be deploying in the future.

I was trying to complete my flexible working request, DH was clearing out the fridge freezer as it's bin day tomorrow. Every fucking item, 'is this ok?'

In addition to this DH couldn't find DS PE tshirt for tomorrow. He looked twice in the wardrobe. Went upstairs to look, open wardrobe and there it is! 🙄

MaisondeChats · 23/04/2019 06:53

Yes to the washing 'DH please put the dark washing in the machine.'

DH 'Do you want it on?'

Erm...

And 'What will DD want for lunch?'

At this point, I just turn to DD and say 'What do you want for lunch?'

cooksomeeggs · 23/04/2019 06:57

Omg yes!! All the time! Just yesterday, "love, I'm thinking of getting my hair cut, what time does the barbers open?"
Well, how would I ever know that? I've never been to a barbers before!

JellyBook · 23/04/2019 06:58

“Is this the bread?”

Or

“Is this the milk?”

After 20 years I just can’t answer these questions anymore.

BurrSir · 23/04/2019 07:05

I hate when DH asks what he should wear when we are going out! I don’t know, I’ve planned what I’m wearing. Got completely ready. Planned what the baby is going to wear. Got her completely ready. Packed the baby bag and you haven’t decided what to wear Angry

Coffeebean76 · 23/04/2019 07:23

My husband does this occasionally too. He also has a habit of trying to talk to me/ask me things when I am 2 rooms away (so I am in the kitchen/diner, and he's in the lounge, and the hall is in between.) I have the microwave going, the fan, the washing machine, and the kettle, and he acts all surprised when I come into the lounge red-faced with annoyance, and say I CAN'T HEAR YOU!!!!!!!!!!

OMG THIS !!!!!!!

He'll shout from downstairs or another room and the only way for me to understand what he's saying is down tools with whatever I'm doing and go to him. I've stopped it now and just ignore him.

Another one - I'll be cooking or unpacking groceries or something and he'll come in with something to distract me 'can you check this bruise on my back?' 'do you think this email I got is spam' etc..... he'll see my hands are full. SO annoying.

GummyGoddess · 23/04/2019 07:51

I have thought of another in the same vein.

We're at Ikea.

'That won't fit in the car!'
'Yes it will.'
'No it won't, and I'm not going to look stupid trying to fit it in'
'I'll do it.'
'No, it's my car!'
'OK, you do it dh.'
'When it doesn't fit, you're taking it back for a refund!'

It has never not fit in the car! I'm good at estimating this!

DSHathawayGivesMeFannyGallops · 23/04/2019 08:04

Partner does not live with me and I fairly recently moved, so I can excuse a lot of "where do you keep xyz" because he genuinely doesn't know or has used said item once in 3/4 months. But crockery, butter and bread are used practically every visit and do not move home between times. Especially bread... which lives in a labelled bread bin out on the counter top. Is it really that hard to remember 3 items!!?

SnapesGreasyHair · 23/04/2019 08:06

@AmphetamineGazelle - very best of luck As said previously, start your own thread in relationships for support. There are a couple on there that have been running for months that maybe worth reading

Swipe left for the next trending thread