Does your DH ask 'stupid' questions?

[Brightburn]

Urghhh! Please tell me I'm not the only one who gets fed up of their DH asking 'stupid' questions they already know the answer to but are to lazy to think for themselves so ask you to think for them.

Today's example... DH gets dirty chopping board out of dishwasher, what have you used this for this morning? ... Cutting sausages, as you watched me do it and asked me to cut yours too.

Very petty, very unreasonable but it just winds me up

Mine does it all the time - so intensely irritating. He asks “Where is......” and I now say “Put away in its proper place and you know where”. Amazingly, me saying those words can usually empower him to find what he’s looking for! The other day he plummeted new depths though. The landline phone was ringing and he asked me “Who’s that then?” Before I had even walked across the room to answer it!!

‘What’s the plan?’
I get that too.... translates as ‘organise my schedule for me, schedule activities and entertainment so I don’t need to think.’

This weekend I also got ‘did I (him) pack anymore underwear?’ I couldn’t possibly know, you packed your bag.

And when we did a trip to a cute nearby town ‘so what is there to do here?’ I don’t know because I have never been here, same as you as you know.’

I always have to do the googling and planning and it’s pure utter laziness.

My relationship ended over a jar of pasta bake sauce.

Obviously there was years of stuff running up to it, but the jar of pasta bake was what did it. I had been so ill but still doing everything until that night and I asked him to make dinner. I even got a jar of sauce, which I would never do, just so all he had to do was cook the pasta, dry the chicken and stick it all in a dish with the sauce.

16 questions later and I knew the relationship was over. I just couldn't do it anymore.

@AmphetamineGazelle - what a nasty man. He has absolutely no respect or love for you.

Why did he want you to take down the gazebo and put it up again?

TheInvestigator- i can totally see how that would happen.

Yes we have

• whats the plan
• what time is tesco open until today (while staring at an ipad)
• whats for tea

I started saying "oh i dont know" a lot!

Extreme laziness that i refuse to facilitate!

What are you doing?
What are you doing?
What are you doing?
Where are you going?
Why are you doing that now?
Do you have to do that now?

Fuck. Right. Off.

All. The. Time. And then gets irritated when I offer him advice

For example he'll ask me how to cook something, I'll tell him but midway through I might offer some advice such as turning the heat down on a pan. He then gets the hump I'm getting involved.

Any questions starting

Where’s my.....

Are banned. Use your fecking eyes

I get two questions in one! Do you want a drink or are you okay? Are you cold or are you okay? Drives me potty, I usually just say yes and then he asks me which question I am answering!!

He's also taking to saying "why what are you thinking" in response to ANY question I ask him!

Yes to all these. I think he is at his most irritating watching tv. What’s this, whose that, why are they doing that etc? we are watching the same programme so how does he think I know. I have to pause it to reply as I miss the next bit explaining to him. I can’t watch anything complicated like Line of Duty with him!

AmphetamineGazelle

Why do you make dh go to church?

Today it was "Do you think I should take a jumper with me?"

Me "I'm not sure, do you think you will need one?"

A common one is asking where X lives (usually by not saying the actual item), quite often while in another room.

Every night my DH takes off our kids clothes and asks me which are clean enough to be worn again and which need to go in the dirty basket. I've pointed out that I determine this by looking at them, and he also has eyes, but apparently he can't do it.

What really gets to me is that if I make a mistake and leave clothes out that do have food/grass stains etc that I missed, he makes a big deal of it the next day 'i couldn't put that jumper back on her it had food all over it!' - so it's clear he can see the dirt, but only when it's correcting me...

Slightly different from the other stupid questions on this thread, but my DH has this incredibly annoying habit of walking up to me when I'm clearly stood there ironing/cooking dinner/making the bed/etc and asking 'what are you doing?' I don't even bother responding anymore I just give him a look that I hope says 'what does it fucking look like??'.

I am the only person in my household of 5 who has working eyes, they cannot ever find anything. I used to fine them in chores every time I had to go and find something that was in plain sight.

Saturday I told DD1 (12) to put something other than shorts on for church.

Apparently it was too hot for jeans (fair enough) but she could find nothing else. I walked int9 her room, stuck my hand out and pulled her culottes off the top of the chest of drawers. Apparently I am a magician!

I'm single now so no longer get this. It's bliss

Dh does this but what's annoying is he will ask me a question to something I would literally have told him less than 15 minutes before, he just wasn't listening. So annoying. I ve stopped answering.

All the time. Usually because he hasn't listened to something I've just said. So his response either doesn't make any sense or he'll ask me something I've just told him.

I swear under my breath an awful lot and if I'm really pissed off, he gets it right to his face.

With DH it's semi-rhetorical things like watching an old film on telly 'Is that [actor who I have barely heard of and would never recognise]?'

Or, because I'm more into music than he is, asking me questions as though I know about every band ever - no, I know nothing about the music of Billy Bragg/the Grateful Dead/Led Zepplin/Guns n Roses etc

YES! All the time! Today I was spelling out the word ‘egg’ because I wanted to know where DDs chocolate egg was so she didn’t see it and want some when I took her into the kitchen for breakfast (last time I saw it was on the kitchen table) and he just looked at me so confused while I’m stood there saying where is the E-G-G? And I could see him trying to spell it out in his head and in the end I snapped and said egg and DD started saying I want my chocolate egg

It's strategic incompetence and it means that your partner doesn't have to think because you will do it for them.

DH runs a company, makes million pound project decisions, yet apparently can't work out what to cook the kids for tea if I am out. I refuse to entertain it and just give vague responses.

Mine is always start with 'did we...?'

Did we send Easter eggs to SIL (his)?
Did we get any cereal?
Did we wash any towels?
Did we send a thank you card to (his) aunt?
Etc etc.

No. Because I'm not a) psychic or b) your secretary.

Sorry to derail.
I think he was implying that I would be asking him to put the gazebo up for me and then take it down or help if a 2 person job.
I asked him to come to church because it was easter sunday and important to me.
I am getting ducks in a row, my mother is a but flakey re help so it's taking a while since I'm doing it alone. Only other concern is him wanting access to DD, not something I want to put her through but at least when we leave we'll be free.

Sorry for dedrailing again! His stupid question will be "why are you leaving me?"

What have you put in the wheelie bin, its far too heavy. Em i put rubbish in it ya fanny, most of it yours! Fuckwad