To ask WTH happened to me?

[LeukaeLucky]

Hi mumsnetters
The weirdest thing happened to me last night and I'm hoping to get some reassurance or guidance on what it could be.
So I'm about to go to bed but realise I have forgotten to take the clothes from the washing machine out.
I'm getting to the kitchen and my legs start feeling really heavy like I'm about to faint. I decide to not take any risk and lie down on the kitchen floor. My whole body feels heavy. I call my oldest daughter (14) to help me stand. I try to get up but I literally feel like I'm weighing 200 tonnes
Even talking feels difficult
She encourages me to sit but my left side feels even heavier than the rest of my body so every time I manage to sit I fall down on my left side. I end up soiling myself and somehow manage to stand and shower. I then go to the toilet and bang my head on the sink my entire body weight seems to be going toward my left
I ended up managing to go to bed with the help of my oldest child but I'm freaking out. What was that? Why couldn't I lift my body up? Shall I see a gp tomorrow?
TiA

Hi OP

So glad that everything turned out ok. Don't feel silly for not going to A and E last night. I think that it's really common as a mum for us to worry about our kids but downplay things when we're ill, especially if we're alone with our dc.

I agree with others that it's really unusual for a 14 year old not to know about ringing 999 but sometimes we just assume our dc (especially older ones) know things and we don't explicitly teach them. Eg I recently read about how many teens and 20 somethings can't tell the time on an analogue clock because Ithey use their phones to tell the time. I had to check if my teen could as it isn't something I'd taught her.

Some of the snide comments on here are nasty, unhelpful and completely unnecessary. It might be that your dd didn't know about 999 (and you've already said that you'll talk to her about it) or she might have known but was (quite naturally) panicking at seeing her mum in such a state. Either way, it doesn't make you a bad mum.

I hope you are ok OP. I'm not going to berate you just to re-emphasise when you get home perhaps best to teach the kids basic first aid tips with 999 at the top.

I had a complete understanding of the following by the time I was 4 years old (purely because my mother was a diabetic, had clinical depression, had unexplained blackouts, suffers from non-essential tremor and their were only the two of us. I wouldn't expect most four year olds to know this).

• 999
• ABC
• FAST
• how to count heartbeats for regularity
• the recovery position
• CPR and mouth to mouth
• the heimlich
• how to identify and dress different wounds
• how to stop bleeding
• how to clean wounds
• how to apply different slings
• how to stop bleeding
• how to give glucagon
• how to handle fire
• how to cook basic meals
• how to hoover, wash with a twin tub, set a fire etc
• how to change bedding
• to lock the doors
• how to clean a chimney

Hmmm. I see why people said I had a shit childhood but I wouldn't change it

Well least your in the right place now OP and it dosent look that bad thus far, still be intresting to see what did cause the orignal prpoblem.

Lay off everyone elsel I think that there may be a but more to the daughter not being able or did not call 999 in this instance she may well hae been terrified and lost it a bit

Mind you does anyone ever teach their children to call 999 or do we just expect it to be picked up from progammes like Casualty?.

Don't remember doing so but as each one spent some time with the St John service expect they know just what to do:).

OP I am wondering if denial played a part here for you and your DD. Sometimes when shocking things happen that we don't think happen to us, but only to other people we can minimise very quickly. Your need to be practical - get into bed - was as though you just had a headache or minor issue.

You writing on here may have been alarm bells in the back of the head - the confusion after denial and you needed to have a push to do something.

Reality and emotions can kick in later. Be kind to yourself and talk to friends and family. It's not just the practical side to think about.

On a practical note - put a number by the phone (trusted adult) and if you have problems and she's scared to phone 999 get her to call an adult!

@PotterHead1985 did you mean 4 or 14yo? I'm an adult and there are things on your list I can't even do myself (heard of fast here today for the first time) but duly noted and I appreciate the suggestion.

Still waiting... Hoping to be seen soon

Thank for the kind posters standing up for me. I do realise that it was silly of me to never teach those things to my children and will work on it ASAP because it was really scary and stressful to feel so helpless.
She hasn't had a sheltered life. We live in London she travels alone, goes to protest, taking part in the DOE and has been a police cadet a few years ago. I just think it was quite overwhelming and I was downplaying it because I didn't want to scare her.

Lesson learned

OP please don't be too hard on yourself. Your DD may know about 999 in theory but even if she does, it's hard to argue with someone who's opinion you respect in times of emergency if they're saying they're OK and just need to go to bed. Even grown adults struggle with this!

A police cadet who's never heard of dialling 999?

She did DofE but doesn't know about calling 999? Ridiculous.

Give the OP a break. She's in A&E FFS and she hasn't actually asked her DD "do you know 999" - she's just made assumptions.

Do you have nothing better to do with your bank holiday than hassle women in A&E?

Will you tell your colleagues / friends this is how you spent your bank holiday, if they ask, tomorrow?

If she's a cadet Then it's likely that she did know how to call 999 but likely she didn't feel confident enough to take control from you saying it wasn't a big deal and do it which is perfectly understandable.

She isn't the adult . You are and you we're saying you were ok etc etc .

Hope you find out what it was that happened. You're in right place now .

Can people not get that actually dialling 999 is quite a scary thing to have to do as you're grappling with your collapsed mother on the floor??

I'm a police officer. I had to dial 999 off duty other week and it still made my heart race . And I waffled and they had to shut me up and yet I talk police speak every day over the air! Give this poor woman and her CHILD a break for heavens sake!!

Jeez, there are some nasty people on this thread.
I agree with posters saying your DD wouldn’t have wanted to take control of you were reassuring her that you were okay. She’s still a kid no matter what cadet or DofE training she’s had.
OP, don’t give yourself a hard time here. I hope you recover and they find nothing serious. You can deal with teaching your DD about the other stuff when you’re all sorted

But she's not 10. She's 14. At that age, she should have some maturity and some ability to look at a sitatuon and think independently. Mum saying it's fine and what she saw... She should be old enough to realise the 2 things weren't going together.

@LeukaeLucky nope I meant 4yo . It was just necessary. Unfortunately.

Ok

How many of those berating have actually had to dial 999?

And how many as a child have done it?

And how many of those stayed calm enough to assess the situation responsibly while dealing with a family member in an emergency?

I was st S function a few months ago where a lady who is a nurse watched her dad collapse. She said everything she knew as a nurse went completely out of the window.

It took another relative who is an ex paramedic and myself and do to step in because when it's you in that situation you panic
I can't believe there is so little humility being shown here !

Well thank goodness people have a had a chance to display their superiority while some poor lady is sat in a&e after having an incident which left her incontinent and semi-paralysed, all of which was witnessed by her young and probably very scared and upset daughter.

Glad you are all bringing your kids up so much better though. How are you doing on teaching them about empathy and compassion?

Hope you are getting some answers o.o, scary times.

On my way home. Thank you to all the posters who can relate to being 14 and being scared. That's probably what happened. Will need to clarify that with her.
Apparently it could be stress related. The person who examined me, checked for reflexes and said I had excellent nerve responses so no stroke no TIA.
I had to smile, walk, lift my legs and he hit me with his little hammer thingy on my knees wrists and elbows.
I don't feel particularly stressed but he said stress can have such effects. I'm glad it's nothing more.
Again, thank you for the support, guidance and recommendations. I appreciate every single comment even the nasty ones.
Have a good Easter Monday

The point people are making isn't that the daughter didn't dial 999 at the time at all. Of course it was a very scary time for both mother and daughter, everyone can understand and sympathise with that. It's that she didn't know how to. The OP said "My daughter did want to call an ambulance but didn't know how to." That's different altogether.

Hate to say this my mother had a stroke when she was 31 and passed away. X

Sorry, cross-posted with latest update from OP. I can certainly understand if what actually happened was that stress and fear made the OP's daughter forget what she knew. IME adrenaline can either make you 'sharper' or can make you confused about things which would otherwise be clear and straightforward.
Anyway, I'm very pleased that you've been seen OP and hope that you and your children can relax and enjoy the rest of your day.

A police cadet?

Sorry for your loss Loopy
I've learnt my lessons today. I think, like a PP said, I was in denial. I hate being unwell especially after spending 2018 fighting for my life because of fucking cancer and I just can't wait to feel myself again.
Thank you @hellenbackagen and @domton for speaking up so many truths.

@CustardySergeant thanks
Time for some family teaching

OP you have had a hard time on here, especially after acknowledging that you will teach your children. Glad you are ok.