To smoke in my own garden

[LittleBear4]

I am a smoker. I smoke 10 fags a day and I'm not planning on giving it up yet (one day!).

In smoke in my garden, I've got two neighbours either side and one every time I'm smoking will come out and say 'it stinks out here' and will start to cough loudly.

It's really getting on my nerves, I can't move down the end of the garden because it's tiny and would make no difference at all but AIBU to hate the passive aggressive comments when I'm smoking in my garden?

It smells rank. I wouldn't be happy if my neighbour was smoking in the garden because, presumably, she doesn't want to stink her own house out.

It's never going to happen though because I know ONE person who still smokes. And he's in his mid 70s. Nobody I know aged 50 or under smokes. It's dying out, which I'm very pleased about.

Neighbour smoking really pisses me off and I curse them in my mind every time I have to close window or move I doors to get away from it. But I also acknowledge that they are allowed to do anything they want in their garden and I have to suck it up.

So you don't want to inflict the smoke on your children, but you want to inflict it on your neighbours?

YANBU OP, it’s your garden. They ANBU to dislike it but there is nothing they can do about it.

Presumably you have DC which is why you cant smoke in your house? Smoking outside is totally different to smoking in a confined space as the smoke disappears. They are being PA, just ignore them.

or perhaps you could give up smoking and invest in a noisy musical instrument like my neighbour did. I preferred the smoking....

Ah don't worry about it, stick on some headphones when you go out so you don't have to listen to their whining. I can guarantee everyone does something that pisses off the neighbours, whether it be smoking or having bbq's. listening to music, talking, cutting grass, breathing. If people don't want to have to deal with other people they should fuck off to a house in the middle of nowhere.

I have children, I'm not smoking in my house

So basically it’s a grim habit you don’t want to inflict on your kids, but are happy to inflict on your neighbours.

You can’t really be annoyed at them commenting

The anti smoke brigade are out in force today

So it's fine to subject someone else to your dangerous second hand smoke stench, but it's RUDE to comment on a garden smelling? As if.

I'm an ex smoker, I hate the smell of smoke nowadays, but I couldn't get that upset by someone having the odd cigarette in the next garden. It's only for a couple of minutes, not like it's 24/7.

Smoke in your house where nobody else has to put up with it!

I agree with pps; you are entitled to smoke, but your neighbours are entitled to make whatever comments they like, within reason.

I’m weird and am a non smoker who rather likes the smell of smoke and I don’t think that them being exposed to however many fags you smoke in the garden is going to have a major impact on their health. But could you not go out the front and walk around? My neighbour does this and I’ve had a neighbour in a previous property who did the same. The walking about is key as it seems to dissipate a bit more and doesn’t waft into other people’s properties.

The anti smoke brigade are out in force today

It's a thread in AIBU and the main topic is antisocial smoking. What sort of answers were you looking for?

Why is everyone sayimg smoke indoors! She might have kids ! Do what you like in your own garden op, your neighbours sound fucking rude

Neighbours might have kids, so why is it ok to inflict passive smoking on them (or adults for that matter) but not her precious ones? Rude is doing something that negatively effects other people, smoking is minging and second hand smoke is a genuine concern.

So you don't want your child to breath in your smoke but everyone else can breath it in. Hey ho, top hypocrite of the day award.

I find it quite amusing that their passive aggressive comments have needled you when you are forcing them to be passive smokers!

YABU. Smoke inside where you're not infringing on their basic enjoyment of fresh air that most people desire when they step into their garden.

OP isnt smoking in her own house because it smells and is bad for the health of her DC, but she is happy to pass her second hand smoke onto her neighbours despite the health risks and the smell. I'm not surprised that her neighbours don't like it, why would they?
She is free to do this, they are free to not like it.

But smoking does stink? The smell is very strong and is vile. You are absolutely allowed to smoke in your own garden but it will be affecting the neighbours too, they aren't exaggerating. A non smoker can smell a cigarette from quite far away. If I'm in my garden I can easily smell if anyone on my street is smoking. So you can continue smoking, and they can continue to mention to each other that it stinks.

Obviously there's nothing you can really do about the smell, short of quitting smoking, which you have said you don't want to do. Absolutely fair enough as it's your garden. If it makes you feel uncomfortable when they moan about it maybe you could put headphones in? Then you won't even know that they've said anything. Headphones with loud music are always my go to when I want to pretend that other people aren't there.

So you’re a hypocrite OP? Nice.

" your neighbours sound fucking rude"

Why are they rude for stating a fact?

I'd also cough as I have asthma.

You have children but you smoke?! Surely they should be enough of a reason to quit?

YABU - I'd probably do the same if I was so unfortunate to live next to a heavy smoker - I'd know I couldn't say anything so passive aggressive comments would at least let you know how anti social they find it. As previous posters have said - you're doing something annoying in your garden but that is allowed, and so are they.

You’re entitled to smoke in your garden, they’re entitled to moan when the smell wafts over into their garden. You choose to smoke, you have to accept that it’s a stupid and antisocial thing to do that people will moan about.

It’s your garden so there’s nothing they can do, your allowed to smoke outside.

I hate the smell of smoke but wouldn’t comment if someone was smoking in their garden. One of my neighbours smokes weed and it often drifts over to my garden.

So you couldn't possibly light up indoors because of your DC but you're inflicting the smell on your neighbours.

Yabvu.

I live next door to smokers and for most of the summer I can't use my garden or have my back windows open because of the smoke. Smoking is antisocial, and the fact the smoke drifts means it's affecting everyone else around you.

If you're that worried about the effect on your kids I assume you're changing your clothing and washing throughly to prevent them inhaling third hand smoke?