To smoke in my own garden

[LittleBear4]

I am a smoker. I smoke 10 fags a day and I'm not planning on giving it up yet (one day!).

In smoke in my garden, I've got two neighbours either side and one every time I'm smoking will come out and say 'it stinks out here' and will start to cough loudly.

It's really getting on my nerves, I can't move down the end of the garden because it's tiny and would make no difference at all but AIBU to hate the passive aggressive comments when I'm smoking in my garden?

[libra101]

Having been a smoker for quite a few years, the smell of cigarette smoke wouldn't bother me at all. In fact, I would enjoy the aroma.

These days I vape and have given up cigarette smoking completely. But I still enjoy the smell of cigarettes.

[Sugarformyhoney]

You’re entitled to smoke but they’re entitled to moan given that the smoke crosses unto their garden. We had this in flats, the people under us smoked and we had no windows, just patio doors.
In summer we used to have to sit in sweltering heat or have her smoke ( and chip pan fumes) coming straight into our home. So yes, I did moan loudly. I’m sure it annoyed her but her habits annoyed me

[QueenOfIce]

I used to live mid terrace, neighbours would sit outside and smoke. In the summer I could never have the back door or any of the back windows open as it came into the house, wasn't fun having to choose between a hot room or a house stinking of smoke. It is absolutely your right in your own garden but they aren't unreasonable to complain as it also affects them. Get a handheld fan or something!

[Havetonamechangeforthisone]

Hate to break it to you OP, but if you really care about your kids you'd stop smoking altogether.
My DH has just watched his father suffer horribly over a 10 year period and die due to smoking. He is full of resentment for the fact that his father chose to smoke (and should have known better - he was a GP for 50 years!). Our children have been frightened and distressed watching their grandfather struggle for breath (having increasingly extended coughing fits where his face would turn numerous shades of red and purple and veins would bulge all over his face and neck because he couldn't breathe due to emphysema) and been worried for most of their lives that he would die in front of them.
I've lost two uncles and a grandfather to lung cancer and our families have been forever affected by their choices to smoke - particularly their children. All of them said they wished they could go back and stop themselves from smoking earlier.
They all thought that they were somehow immune from the effects and the bad outcomes only happened to 'other smokers'.
On the other hand, I know many people who have quit smoking and all of them wish they had done it sooner.
It's hard when you enjoy something that is killing you, but please think of your family.

[isadoradancing123]

OMG it is a cigarette, one cigarette, the smoke is well diluted in the air

[Redpostbox]

OP of course you care about your children but you should still care about other people (your neighbours). Be kind. Do the nice thing for them and don't smoke in your garden. Think of others before yourself.

[bigchris]

Allthechickensihaveloved glad I'm not the only one with a typo
Ach I just live by live and let live, I wouldn't go out of my way to make snidey comments in my garden
If it really bothered me I'd go round and politely ask op to move up the garden or to the front
Not be bitchy 10 times a day

[brizzlemint]

I don't smoke but for fuck sake sake why donto they just go in when you are havinga fag?

Why the hell should they?

The OP should just smoke in her own house or give up.

[ContraryAnn]

So you don't want your child to breath in your smoke but everyone else can breath it in. Hey ho, top hypocrite of the day award

I believe there is a difference between smoking indoor in a closed space and smoking in the great outdoors.

[Nickpan]

why don't you smoke indoors?

[HoofWankingSpangleCunt]

Smoking indoors - contained space
Smoking outdoors- smoke disappears pretty quickly.

Ignore the anti smoke brigade calling you names. Op would only be a hypocrite if she smoked inside the neighbour's house. I doubt anyone will have an asthma attack from breathing in your fag smoke.
I'm a vegetarian and the smell of BBQ meat makes me feel ill but you know what, I'm not going to make a tit of myself complaining about the stink. That's just life in a community.

Sits back and awaits flaming.

[Nickpan]

(can you see where this is leading?)

[Prequelle]

I don't smoke, bbq or drive. I must be positively virtuous

It's a nice diversion smokers try to make though, the driving thing. As if needing to drive to get to work etc is comparable to sparking up something for personal pleasure.

[Persimmonn]

No sympathy from me I’m afraid. I hate smokers. When dc1 was a baby, we had smoking neighbours on both sides. It stunk. It’s poisonous air and making others inhale it should be illegal. If you want to die of lung cancer then go ahead, don’t make others who don’t have a choice go down with you.

[Thesnobbymiddleclassone]

Just tell them thy as it's your garden you'll continue to enjoy your cigarette in it, especially now with the lighter evenings a good weather.

[MrsMaow]

You have the right to generate a disgusting smell while making it more likely that your children will have to experience a parent dying young.

They have the right to complain about it.

[RedPanda2]

I'd rather have baccy smoke than the BBQ stink that happens everyday when it gets to April

[sweeneytoddsrazor]

A handheld fan? How will that help?

[user1511042793]

You have every right to smoke in your garden. But every time you did I would also comment on your cancer causing filthy habit if I were your neighbour.

[Prequelle]

Do people not realise that despite it 'being diluted', if you can smell it you are breathing in those dangerous substances. Really unfair for kids playing in their garden to be forced into that just for someone's few minute nicotine relief.

[OrdinarySnowflake]

Sorry OP, I'm another one who hates cigarette smoke smell. Its pretty unusual now to smoke, its dropped below 20% of the population smoking, if you are in a pocket of friends/family who buck the trend, it could be you don't view smoke as quite so anti social. People notice the smell more as it's such an usual one for many people now, and it does smell bad!

Smoke elsewhere, or accept the comments.

[RedPanda2]

All the posters saying 'you really should give it up it's bad for you' pretty sure the OP is under no illusion that fags are beneficial. It's the OPs right to smoke

[MrsCatE]

I cannot say YABU in your own space however, i hate it and would rather you pollute your own, internal environment. I bloody hate all the f''ck^&s that smoke outside - full stop. Outside offices, any green space, in pub gardens etc. You stink out everywhere you collectively entitled twatz!

[Prequelle]

Its pretty unusual now to smoke, its dropped below 20% of the population smoking

I'm pretty sure 18% are stood outside the hospital I work at, dressing gowns on, IV pole in one hand and fag in the other

[RomanyQueen1]

Prequelle

Not everyone who drives a car HAS to for work.
People are just lazy and don't care about contaminating the air.
I don't know anyone who only drives for essential reasons.