To hate the its nice weather so you must be outside brigade

[Arrowfanatic]

I'll start with a bit of back story. As kids if the sun poked out even a little bit mum was in the garden & we had to be as well. We were not allowed back indoors except to use the bathroom all day and i have memories of feeling unwell from the heat and like i couldnt escape.

Now as an adult i enjoy nice weather but equally i dont feel the need to have to be out in it. My kids enjoy being inside as well, but they can come and go as they please too so they might take themselves off to the park or draw in the garden.

However it's amazing how many times I've been told "you should be outside with the kids, the weather is lovely" to the point that i feel guilty that we're not outside.

Add to this i get horrific, debilitating hayfever so outside can be painful....literally & my children are all very pale redheads so i worry they'll burn despite sun cream.

I actually quite liked last summer as because it was sunny for so long my mum especially let off some of the pressure of saying we should be outside as the weather was here to stay. But now we're expecting rain again in a few days shes shocked I've told me kids they can have a movie day indoors as thats what they've asked for.

[InadvertentlyBrilliant]

@Dana28
OP's children were out all day on Friday and eldest was outside yesterday drawing. 2 youngest were indoors but did go outside for a bit and want a movie day today.

You have decided the youngest should be out today and "that's not good" if they have their movie day today because they were in most of the day yesterday.

Why isn't it good? Because it doesn't fit in with your view of how often you prefer to be outside? Even if the children have stayed in for 2 whole days, so what? They were out all day on Friday. They might be out again all day tomorrow.

You haven't even said why "That's not good". You've just started it as a fact as if you know better than the OP. You're the annoying type of person that OP is talking about, the type who think they know best and everyone else should do what you do. I think they call that behaviour intolerance.

[adaline]

I love being outside but not all day long.

I've been at work all weekend and it's so galling hearing people tell me how lovely the weather is when I've had no choice but to be stuck indoors.

However I have come home each night and headed straight for the back garden for an hour or two!

[dementedma]

just waiting for the wish it was autumn threads now with talk of snuggling, rosy cheeked dcs and hot choc....
when you live in Scotland, you appreciate sunny days as a gift from the Gods.

[insomniacsdream]

Personally I like being inside but with the patio doors open and all the fresh air coming in. I don't like to sit in direct sunlight to the point I feel hot and bothered and start sweating. I always preferred towards the end of the afternoon sitting in a shaded part of the garden where you can still see all the flowers and trees in the sunlight

[RottnestFerry]

just waiting for the wish it was autumn threads now

I absolutely hate autumn. The only thing good about it is the colours of the landscape. Everything else, damp dismal days, no daylight, cold etc., stinks.

[AnnieMay100]

I had the same upbringing as you OP wasn’t allowed in during hot weather, one of the reasons I hate summer now because of memories of sun stroke, dehydration and sun burn. I’m definitely an indoor person but on nice days like today I’ll sit outside in the garden for a bit and enjoy the fresh air and My children will sit outside and read or play but generally prefer being inside too. We have big patio doors always open when it’s warm so it feels like you’re outside sometimes. The only trips we look forward to in this weather is the beach and water parks everything else we do all year round anyway.

[TellySavalashairbrush]

I saw the images of packed beaches in the uk newspapers earlier and it made me shudder. All those sweating bodies in close proximity, fighting over parking spaces, long traffic jams on the way there and back. I painted the garden fence for 30 mins and despite wearing sunscreen still got slightly burnt . Much prefer autumn.

[cardibach]

I love the summer, love heat and sunshine. However I don’t like to sit in the sun - if I’m utside I’ll be in the shade.
I go out sometimes in the sun - walks or sitting in the shade to read (confused about the app with a kindle they can’t see outside - mine isn’t backlit and I’d never get one that was, as what’s the point?). I don’t feel guilty when I’m inside. I just enjoy the warmth and the fresh air through open doors.

[cardibach]

The OP, not all! Silly iPad!

[cardibach]

Argh! Not app! We need a short editing period so badly...

[kmc1111]

Agree. I’m an indoor person. My interests don’t change with the weather. If it’s a perfect Spring or Autumn day I might go for a walk I otherwise wouldn’t, but beyond that I don’t suddenly develop a dozen outdoor interests the minute the sun comes out.

The few outdoor activities I enjoy I’d rather do in the cold anyway. On a ‘nice’ day I have to worry about getting burnt, sweating like a pig etc. I’m much more comfortable on a cold, wet day.

[Arrowfanatic]

InadvertentlyBrilliant thank you. That is the exact attitude from the PP that I'm talking about. Why they feel the need to lay on the guilt and say "thats not good" like I've got the kids chained indoors, never to see the sun.

For the record both the kids & us parents have had a mental busy few months with school and clubs, gradings, trips, daddy is having to work 18 hour days (thank you London protesters ) and i honestly think the kids just want to stop & chill with a movie.

As it so happened they watched one movie, my 10 & 6 year old went out on bikes for a bit, my 7 year old son made a movie on his kindle in the garden using lego. Granted they were only out for 10 or 15 minutes but still, why do i feel like I've had to point that out?!

[MyShinyWhiteTeeth]

I'm a vampire. My skin doesn't react well to a lot of sun. I get brown skin discolouration/hyperpigmentation very easily. My skin reacts with most sun screens so when I'm outdoors I really need the shade and total coverage.

I also get hayfever and my asthma generally plays up. I like rain and snow. The idea of sunbathing is abhorrent to me.

I'm inside, happy in my air conditioned house.

[mabelsgarden]

@ArrowFanatic

Stay in then! Killjoy.

[Raspberrytruffle]

I'm fair skinned op and cant tolerate more than 1 hour in the hot weather otherwise I end up burnt like a lobster, I agree with you though I hate the idea of being. Ade to go outside all day because it's hot I like to mix it up

[Prequelle]

How is she a kill joy. Is her going out in the sun important to other people's you

I don't know what it is about some interests that get people so riled up if others don't share them

[Curiousmum69]

I hate wasting the beautiful weather by not planning something that would be less fun if cold/wet. But I like being outside in all weather's.

At these temperatures though I'd be inside/in the shade during the main part of the day.

[mabelsgarden]

A killjoy is someone who poo-poos and slags off what other people do.

'I hate the nice weather so I must go out brigade.'

WTF has it got to do with the OP if people want to go out?

As I said, stay in then killjoy!

[mabelsgarden]

Very few things are worse than people who hate certain things, and berate people who do it.

Live and let live. Just because YOU don't enjoy something, there's no need to slag off those who do!

[Prequelle]

mable she is saying that in reaction to those who are trying to guilt her into going out

[mabelsgarden]

Oh I didn't read the OP properly.

Sorry OP. Ignore my shitty little posts! YANBU!!!

[wildwildwest1]

YANBU

I am suffering too with hayfever - we stayed indoors today because I have had enough of not being able to breathe!

I am hoping my hayfever clears up by mid May as it usually does so I can try and enjoy any nice weather we have from then onwards!

[Raspberry88]

mabelsgarden

I think you've misread the OP.

[Raspberry88]

Whoops, X post. Sorry!

[mabelsgarden]

@Raspberry88

I know I misread the OP coz I'm a eejit!!!

I did say sorry, a few posts before yours!