To hate the its nice weather so you must be outside brigade

[Arrowfanatic]

I'll start with a bit of back story. As kids if the sun poked out even a little bit mum was in the garden & we had to be as well. We were not allowed back indoors except to use the bathroom all day and i have memories of feeling unwell from the heat and like i couldnt escape.

Now as an adult i enjoy nice weather but equally i dont feel the need to have to be out in it. My kids enjoy being inside as well, but they can come and go as they please too so they might take themselves off to the park or draw in the garden.

However it's amazing how many times I've been told "you should be outside with the kids, the weather is lovely" to the point that i feel guilty that we're not outside.

Add to this i get horrific, debilitating hayfever so outside can be painful....literally & my children are all very pale redheads so i worry they'll burn despite sun cream.

I actually quite liked last summer as because it was sunny for so long my mum especially let off some of the pressure of saying we should be outside as the weather was here to stay. But now we're expecting rain again in a few days shes shocked I've told me kids they can have a movie day indoors as thats what they've asked for.

[Asta19]

Any time the sun comes out like this my mood dips. Last year sent me into a deep depression because it stayed hot for so long. It’s the constant brightness as well. I can’t stand it being light until 10pm. I have thick heavy curtains everywhere and shut them by 7:30! I was the same as a kid, always preferred being inside to outside. I don’t care what people think anymore. I’m plenty old enough to know my mind and do what I want to do.

[EmeraldShamrock]

There is a balance. It is fine to decide as an adult to stay in doors, it is when your a parent you need to do both.
My neighbours DC are in summer and winter with the curtains closed.

[BarbedBloom]

There was a really long thread on here during the summer filled with people who don't like the warm weather. I am one of them, the sun is nice but I dislike heat. I often find myself having to justify this by explaining I have rheumatoid arthritis which flares up in the heat and the medication I am on puts me at higher risk of skin cancer. Even then some cannot accept that others feel differently to them, but get grumpy when I say how much I like the dark nights. I do love gardening so will be out later but I won't sit out for hours and hours.

People should enjoy their time as they see fit providing it isn't hurting anyone. Your children are popping in and out, go out on other days and today to be in. Listen to your mother less and stop justifying yourself to her. It is fine to give advice, but banging on about something endears you to no one

[Ihatehashtags]

Yanbu! I was forced outside as a child. I am very fair and used to get so burnt in the sun. My parents insisted it was good for me and eventually I’d tan up. Ummm nope! 45 and still pale as anything.

[bordellosboheme]

I think I agree Op. There's always a pressure to be having fun when it's sunny but in reality, especially as a busy mother, life still has to happen. Housework and chores still need doing, work etc... Short bursts at a time outside are better IMHO.

[BrazenHusky74]

I find this weather hell and I am fed up with people who assume that we should all love it.
As a fair skinned child of the seventies I have memories of forever being covered in Calamine lotion to sooth my sunburn. My parents never used sun cream and mum's favourite phase was "You won't go brown unless you burn." I never went brown, I just peeled. I am far more careful with my own children, both are currently outside with the right protection.
In my early 30's I was diagnosed with malignant melanoma so now have the perfect excuse to hide in the shade.
Not wanting to fry should not open me up to being bashed for not enjoying the sun. I am in and out throughout the day, I am just careful and honestly prefer a walk in the drizzle.

[Springwalk]

I love the warm sunshine, fresh air and eating al fresco as much as possible. I could live outside happily!
However there is no way anyone should feel guilty for staying in. Your mother has too much influence in my view op. It’s your life and you do as you see fit. If she feels so strongly about your dc being outside all day, then she should come and collect them for the day.

[Crisscross82]

No YANBU. My parents are sun worshipers and will come round and say why aren’t I sat in the garden whilst it’s nice, and god help me if I have my blinds closed ever so slightly. I don’t like the sun never have as it gives me head aches and even with sun glasses it makes my eyes hurt. I have dc so I’m always out and about with them but on days like today (26 degrees here) I’m happy to sit indoors and let my kids play in the garden. Sorry if that’s weird but that’s just me.

[HellonHeels]

YANBU at all. And you no longer have to do as your mum says. I lime sunny weather but hate being hot. I burn easily too and sun cream gives me a horrendous allergic reaction. The one i can tolerate is very thick and messy, tiresome to apply and feels awful so i generally go in the sun for brief periods without the spf and then keep to the shade or go inside.

[Holidayshopping]

As kids if the sun poked out even a little bit mum was in the garden & we had to be as well. We were not allowed back indoors except to use the bathroom all day and i have memories of feeling unwell from the heat and like i couldnt escape.

Am I the only one who thinks this is borderline abuse?!

[FloofyDoof]

I'm not a summer person either. I quite like going out for a walk in the morning when it's cooler, or being out and about in the early evening but I'd much rather not be outside in hot sun, and avoid it wherever possible. If I do have to be out I stay in the shade as much as I can. I burn very easily and I get migraines even with sunglasses on, I have hay-fever and am allergic to wasp stings. Summer is not fun for me.

Spring and autumn I really like, no wasps, no hay-fever, and comfortable temperatures.

[FloofyDoof]

My mum used to try and make me tan as a kid too, used to put oil sunscreen with low spf on us in places like the south of France in August when it was 40 degrees, I had several really bad sunburns, blistered skin and all.

[DrCoconut]

I'm sure it's generational. My DS1 hates being out in the sun. He is miserable in it so I don't force the issue. He's old enough to stay at home if I take the others out. It's not a pleasure to drag him round a park or farm with a face like a slapped arse and constantly asking how long till we go home. My parents go on about it and say he should be out and I should force him to go on family outings. My ex was an outdoorsy type too and could never understand me not being. I like outdoors and nice weather, in fact I hate winter and get depressed, but I don't think everyone has to go hiking and have wall to wall picnics and beach days.

[ssd]

Agree with you op

I hate the sun and it hates me though so I'm biased

[ssd]

And I agree with holidayshopping as above, that sounds utter hell u to me and should be viewed as abuse

[Pinkblanket]

Pah, I was home alone for a brief interlude on Friday. I shut the curtains and watched my favourite TV program in peace. If other people are that bothered they can go outside. Me, I'll do what I want.

[Purpleartichoke]

My dd ended up having the worst asthma attack of her life because her PE teacher thought it would be fun to have class outside. I know I am irrational in my anger towards him and all people who push for outdoor activities right now, but it was terrifying, so I am going to sit here holding in my irrational anger and not yelling at her teacher.

We are headed to A family lunch soon that will inevitably be outside. We will all come home miserable with hay fever and I’ll be lucky if I avoid spending the night covered in hives.

[labazsisgoingmad]

not an outdoorsy person hate the bugs the noise from neighbours being hot and bothered so im inside quite happy

[Amongstthetallgrass]

My dd2 is sat inside with all the windows closed as she is scared to death of bees. We live rurally so there are plenty!

I’m hiding from every one at the bottom of the garden enjoying the weather

[MrsMaow]

YANBU at all.

There’s a bit of park right near my office and during the summer my boss likes us to have meetings outside to ‘make the most of it’. Lovely, I’ll make the most of having hideous hay fever and my skin getting covered in blisters thanks to my sun allergy then, thanks for that.

[youarenotkiddingme]

Another hay fever suffered here.

I'm worse before 8am and after 6pm,

I don't go outside all day either because I'm 'moley'.

Have walked past 2 days for a few hours so have been out in it.

Off to bbq in an hour so will have a few more hours in it.

I build up slowly. In summer we spend a week in Spain and even then I like to sit in shade and read at times. I like being in sun if walking or swimming. But not reading or eating.

I lived for 6 years in the Canary Islands - sun just doesn't spark my interest as much anymore!

[redexpat]

Ive had a lovely time outside today but now Ive had enough and would like to enjoy the cool of my house.

[Arrowfanatic]

I do enjoy a sunny day, however I'll avoid anywhere like zoo's, country parks, etc as the crowds are too much for me.

We've been out on bike rides, picnics etc. But just because its sunny do we have to spend EVERY day outside.

My girls have gone off on their bikes for a bit now, my son took his toys into the garden. I dont stop them going out, but equally i dont force them to stay out. I've got a couple of windows open, except my bedroom as i have to be careful about pollen when i sleep.

Its the pressure of "PEOPLE OF THE UK , THE SUN IS OUT. YOU MUST ALL HENCEFORTH LEAVE YOUR HOUSES UNTIL THE CLOUDS RETURN LEST YOU MISS IT!" I like chilling on the sofa reading or watching tv. I'm currently plowing through the huge pile of kids laundry as i can dry it outside for free

Sun worshippers make it sound like those of us who arent are weird, recluse hermits. They'll be other sunny days, dammit if i dont want to go out that doesnt make me weird and i dont need to be told "you should be outside".

For the record my favourite weather is insanely heavy rain, i love the sound of it, the smell of it, how it feels stood in it, how nice everything looks with water splashing of it.

[MissClareRemembers]

When I was growing up, my dad used to stride around saying “the sky is blue! The sun is shining!“ in an attempt to get us outside. I used to wake up on sunny days and feel guilty that I wasn’t already up and out.

So, now I’m a parent I feel constantly guilty that the DCs aren’t outside enough. It’s exhausting.

This is one of the reasons why I love autumn and winter. It’s so much more acceptable to stay inside!

[Arrowfanatic]

Haha, just as i pressed post my girls came back saying it was too hot. They're now eating ice pops in the shade of the garden.