To say mums of girls are smug

[TheMidiMitch]

Just been at a party where my son along with the other boys have been repeatedly told off for fighting (quite rightly so and largely by me). Whilst the girls are busy braiding hair and pretending to make cupcakes, the boys are looking like Lord of the Flies. Not meant to be a goady post but please let me know there's light at the end of this tunnel...anyone...

My 2.5 year old DD will happily play with boys and doing "boy things" but then will cuddle her dollies.

So best of both worlds there.

@ladyrannaldini you shouldn’t be a teacher with misogynistic attitudes like that. I went to an all girls school and none of us ‘flashed the male teacher’ or spent the whole time ‘bitching’.

To be frank I feel sorry for all girls and boys with the amount of stereotyping and plain sexism on this thread. No wonder young girls lack confidence and young boys are killing themselves in droves. Let people be individuals not poorly constructed stereotypes

Dd's idea of a horrible party would have been the doing of hair, she'd have been in with the boy getting in trouble. I loved having little boys, they grew up too fast.

Yep, 5 girls here and smug as fuck but would be the same if they were all boys.

My 6-year-old dd will sit and colour nicely but suddenly have a tantrum because her pen has run out of ink, or she has coloured over the lines. She has a terrible temper and often overreacts. Her younger brother is silly and boisterous but he is much easier going.

I love my boisterous boys!
They are also super loving and cuddly

Insertinspirationalquotehere exactly.

I expected better of Mumsnet, thought I'd accidentally openned Netmums...

My DD is 7 and is usually instigating rebellion. Examples include the time she just marched into the middle of some yr 5s boys playing football and made them let her play, the time she started a "battle" of girls v boys at breakfast club, the time she screamed at my dad that gardening isn't a boys job because you don't need a willy to do it....My DS is 9. He plays rough and tumble, but certainly doesn't assert himself or start arguments half as much as my DD

How depressing. Have you stopped to think WHY your daughter does these things but your son doesn’t have to have arguments about being included/ being capable? Perhaps something to do with his sex and prevailing attitudes. It’s not ‘rabid feminism’ ffs

Oh for fuck sake.

Quit with the gender stereotyping.

I have two teen girls and they’re fucking amazing. But I have never expected them to be difficult, bitchy, or a nightmare and guess what, they aren’t. They’re just people who have normal people ups and downs.

According to my mum I was a moody hormonal nightmare teen. When in fact that’s what she expected so it’s all she saw. If i dared complain or go against her i was hormonal. If i was tired or a bit quiet i was moody. If i wanted to talk through a difficult friendship i was bitchy and endless dramas.

If you expect girls or boys to behave a certain way that’s what you see. Teen boy in bed- lazy. Teen girl in bed, no doubt in a mood or on the phone to friends.

It’s been shown to start in utero. A kicking boy= footballer. A kicking girl = bitch who’s giving her mum grief already.

Just stop it.

What about those who have both sexes? Am I destined to a horrific toddlerdom of fighting boys followed by a horrific teenagedom of bitchy girls?
FWIW my oldest two are girls and are about as different from each other as it’s possible for two human beings to be. If they were boy and girl everyone would say their differences were down to their sex I imagine.

ladyrannaldini can't seriously be a teacher, one hopes...

I'm a barrister/social worker/ midwife/ neurosurgeon/ child psychologist myself obviously... We're all what we say we are on anonymous forums...

I wonder how many people who complain about their boys always play fighting let them watch a lot of boys fighting on TV?

we only have 1 tv, so all mine watch exactly the same programs... I get what you are trying to say, but in many families the kids are treated the same. Nothing wrong with differences between boys and girls, they really are obvious.

not everybody starts life in pink or blue nursery, dressed in a fluffly dress or a set of joggers.

Very interesting thread. I have 2 boys- age 4 and almost 3 and they spend every second of every single day fighting and killing each other. I’m knackered and can barely have a wee due to the constant supervision.

I ve also observed my friends with girls as the girls sit and colour or whatever and felt very envious as I’m rolling on the floor trying to control my boys!

I ve been hoping there was some kind of trade off later on!😁

Their time will come op, wait until the girls hit puberty, the bitch-fest will begin!!!
I have a dd and a ds and I'd rather have boisterous boys than the bitchy girls!!

Genuinely shocked by the amount of stereotyping and sexism on this thread, in 2019. I have boys and girls and I don’t recognise any of the lazy gender stereotypes on this thread - they have different personalities, on some days or in some situations one’s behaviour might be more challenging than another’s -and in a different set of circumstances it might be a different way around - but I really don’t think it’s got anything to do with what genitals they have.

My girls aren’t bitchy and my boys aren’t boisterous.

Smug McSmug of Smugsville here.

And ALL of mine are lazy.

Nothing wrong with differences between boys and girls, they really are obvious

If they are that fucking obvious why has my 15 year old been mistaken for a boy all her life? People like you so convinced boys behave a certain way that when they see a girl behaving a certain way they must be a boy.

I feel sorry for kids these days. So boxed in to stereotypes no wonder some are feeling like they don’t fit.

Pimmsypimms are you a woman? Do you see yourself as a bitch? Is your partner a man? If so is he boisterous?

Wtf is wrong with 3/4 of the posters on this thread? Is it 1st April?

Pahahahahaha wait till they're teens. It all goes tits up.

This thread is really depressing. Children aren’t thought of as individuals. Just placed into boxes.

It doesn't all go tits up when they are teens.

It might have for you but not for everyone.

I have a boy and 2 girls. The boy is easy, sweet, chatty, calm. The girls are emotional, boisterous, physical and much less cuddly. They are amazing, but such hard work.

Pimmsypimms are you a woman? Do you see yourself as a bitch?

I was going to ask this. I wasn’t a bitchy teen. I’m not a bitchy adult. Some of the girls I went to school with were bitchy, most weren’t.

I always wanted a boy and a girl, was lucky to conceive DS and won't be in a position to have any more, but I have not had any issues with DS - he's been a delight at every age. Same with DSS, he never gave us a moment's worry. I think a lot of it is down to the personalities of the child rather than their sex. I was a pain in the arse growing up.