To say mums of girls are smug

[TheMidiMitch]

Just been at a party where my son along with the other boys have been repeatedly told off for fighting (quite rightly so and largely by me). Whilst the girls are busy braiding hair and pretending to make cupcakes, the boys are looking like Lord of the Flies. Not meant to be a goady post but please let me know there's light at the end of this tunnel...anyone...

MenuPlant no wonder that the daughters of the posters who so transparently prefer boys are less affectionate!

My teen DD and youngest DS are both very affectionate. My kids are all different but DD is as tall as me and still very cuddly.

I'm a mum of teen boys but teach in an all girls school. Teenage girls are bloody hard work !

My DS was way easier than my DDs.

I feel sad for a lot of children being raised by mothers and fathers like those on this thread. They don’t have a hope really do they? The girls are all drama obsessed bitches who’ll amount to nothing more than...I don’t know, bitching about?

And the boys are uncomplicated and non emotional. If that’s the case why’s there an epidemic of young men killing themselves? Or is it that no-one is listening?

I have both. Dd2 is high maintenance and I am dreading puberty. The girls argue over everything and a lot of our time is taken up mediating petty arguments. Dd1 has had issues with bullying in school similar to Mari50 and I am not looking forward to the secondary school years at all. DS has ASD but is easy to parent in comparison.

I also think my poor mum went grey due to my behaviour as a teen.

Just look at all the people claiming that young girls are bitches. I despair.

Me too, this whole thread is so bloody depressing.

No not all, DS is quiet and shy but dd, she climbs, jumps, makes a mess and generally gets into mischief. I wish she would do those things you described. I’m wishing she’s bad now so that means she will be good as a teen, wishful thinking in my part 😩

My dd had a shit in the garden yesterday

sticky But if you work in an all girl school then how do you know boys aren’t just just as hard work?

It’s bad enough mother’s come out with all this sexist crap but when teachers start, it’s time to hide the thread.

Lizzie I agree.

bye bye then

O goshly goodly - the don't stereotype girls brigade is out in force now; not quite sure where any of you would have placed 'me' in your understanding of all things girlish.

My point is, like it or not, gender bias or not, boy-born boys do tend to be more boysterboylike when they are younger - it doesn't mean that girls aren't - just most girls aren't so when they are younger.

However, purely anecdotally, and based on my own personal experience of being a girl and having met a few girls in my over 50 years of life, and met a few boys too along the way, there is a difference.

If there wasn't why do so many girls want to be boys and boys want to be girls? It's ';nature' not 'nurture'.

Anyway a 'wayward' teenaged boy is more likely to end up in prison than a 'wayward' teenaged girl - maybe because there are too many 'wayward teenaged girls' than prison places?

Or?...

I have 4 dds and I have to say that they are all completely different. They don’t fall into one stereotype. 2 have ASD, two don’t. At various points in time, it would look like I have motherhood totally sorted, and at other times it would look like I didn’t know what the fuck I was doing. I imagine that it would be the same if I had four boys. Im certainly not smug. If my eldest daughter was my only child, I probably would have been very smug and annoying, but she is an easy child and that isn’t based on gender. I’d frankly be pretty annoying if she was my only child and I would have thought parenting was easy, thank good for dds 2, 3 and 4!

I’m dreading teen years with my son far more than my dd. How do you broach all the incredibly difficult issues with boys such as porn, consent, respect (I hope he’ll grow up with this by default)? It’s interesting that so many parents brush it off by saying teen boys are ‘easy’. Across general society it seems to me it’s the boys that have far more documented ‘problems’.

I have 2 boys and never wanted a girl. I love having boys, they are so adorable, cute and cuddly. I could not imagine having daughters. I am a teacher and occasionally little girl's asks me to tie their hair back as it has come loose and I am at a loss as I am not used to fiddling with girl's hair. I also much prefer the little boy's on my classes.

How do you broach all the incredibly difficult issues with boys such as porn, consent, respect
to be honest, same way than you do with girls, but from the other point of view. They both need to know the same principles.

I agree that's it's much easier to be a girl than a boy in our world but they both need to have the same knowledge.

They say they are easy because perhaps they don't engage on an emotional level. I know ds has friends who spend most of their time gaming in their bedrooms. On the surface that must seem 'easy' to parent

Its just the child's interests and personalities that set them apart not whether they are boys or girls.

Ive got girls and they were sooo easy when they were little.

Totally different story when theyre teenagers though.

@Andanotherthingg 😂😂😂

If the OP tells her ds not to fight and he carries on doing it then he's badly behaved. Perhaps more parenting is needed.

I am at a loss as I am not used to fiddling with girl's hair. thank fuck my dd isn’t at your school. I work closely with children and I’m not such a twat that I am unable to deal with one gender more favourably than the other

I have two boys one girl. All give me a run for my money. Just laugh to yourself when you think those perfect kids may bring home your kids one day when they are adults. Who will be smug then.

Hear hear mari50