To think that this is incredibly rude of DH

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I usually cook all of the evening meals for DH and I during the week as I get in from work earlier than he does. DH will usually come home from work whilst I’m half way through cooking and will be moaning about how starving he is, asking how much longer the food will be and generally being an impatient child. This evening, after spending 2 hours cooking our dinner and listening to DH moaning about being “starving”, I served our food and watched him sit opposite me at the table moving his food around the plate without eating anything. I asked him what was wrong and apparently as I had used chopped tomatoes instead of passata, the sauce was too was ‘lumpy’
and he only likes a smooth tomato sauce. He spent the next 5 minutes dramatically sliding bits of food around the plate and attempting to pick out each individual slither of chopped tomato. He eventually announced that he wasn’t hungry and left a whole plate full of freshly cooked food. I would never knowingly cook a meal using ingredients that somebody didn’t like and expect them to eat it, but that wasn’t the case here. After spending a lot of time cooking a fresh meal, WIBU to expect him to be an adult about such a very minor issue (smooth/lumpy sauce!!) and eat it, despite the fact it might not have been made EXACTLY how he wanted it?! DH says I’m being ridiculously petty but I feel furious, it just seems so ungrateful. AIBU?

He's a twat. Obviously for lumpy-sauce-Gate, but more generally for 'moaning about how starving he is, asking how much longer the food will be and generally being an impatient child.'

Tell him he can cook his own fucking dinner from now on.

Mycat, you seem to have failed to understand what the dish was. Perhaps read the OP's posts again.

Sorry but he sounds like a total twat.

Pathetic. You are definitely NBU.

Give him tomato soup for a week 😂

Sorry, OP, but he is a brat and probably should not have left the breast.

I'd have emptied the plate into his lap

I'd have put it over his head!

I would be sooooooo pi**ed off with this. He's acting like a spoilt child. Tell him that you're upset about his attitude. That it's not your "job" to cook dinner every night but that you do it because you are in first and if you waited for him to come in before you did it together then dinner would be served even later. You are doing it to help him out.
If he doesn't see this as a big thing then offer him 2 options:

• tell him you'll wait until he comes in from work before you start cooking so that you can check he is okay with what you're having (and tell him he can help you cook it)
• tell him that in future you will take it in turns to cook. One week it will be your turn, the next week his.

Alternatively you could do what others have suggested - eat at lunch and only have a snack/tea in the evening so he has to cater for himself. Or serve him up junk food, microwave meals - and save the fresh food for you. If he says anything tell him you're not spending hours cooking for somebody who doesn't appreciate it!

I dunno OP, seems that not only can you not cook but that somebody , I wonder who, has done the shopping wrong too and bought chopped tomatoes instead of passata.

Seems to me you aren't to be trusted to get this sort of thing right so I suggest you pass the shopping and cooking duties over to your OH while you get on and finish that Open University degree you've always wanted to do.....

l've got a small 1-2 person slow cooker l don't use. l'm more than willing to donate it to him so he can cook his own food.

Farley’s rusk with tomato ketchup.
If he fusses, warm it up in microwave.

YANBU
He can cook for himself next time, then it'll be just the way he likes it!

Just out of interest - what did you cook that took 2 hours? By the way - he’s being a total arse.

Just out of interest - what did you cook that took 2 hours? By the way - he’s being a total arse.

The OP has already said, way back in the thread.

Jamie Oliver Lamb is what the op cooked

DH and I have a system whereby we only really sit down to a meal as a family 3 times a week - the weekend and one weeknight when everyone's home and hasn't been fed by the childminder weekend meals can be elaborate and take hours, but the weeknight meal is generally a quick fix. Otherwise we just sort of graze on bits we like or create something from what's available. We love this life maybe adopt it for yourself and see if Diddums becomes more appreciative of days when he gets a meal cooked for him?

His behaviour is absolutely pathetic. What an arse?
My stbxh was a bit like this. I started going to the gym in the evenings to avoid him. I also used to sit in my car down the road to avoid going home in the hope he'd sort his own food out. He did but he managed to trash the entire kitchen every time.
If he's going to be so ungrateful he can make his own food AND tidy up properly afterwards

@mycatiscalkedElvis you may want to actually RTFT before you cast aspersions on the OPs cooking skills

OP - how was he today?

Its not about the food.

My DH is like this & it’s rubbed off on my kids too, so instead of 1 meal to make I now make 4 separate meals each night I usually just make myself a sandwich now, my 16 yr old DS says it’s abuse I make him eat something he doesn’t like, my DH expects a cup of tea each night at 10pm when he gets home from the gym then complains it’s like tastes like dish water!

Hopefully this will make you laugh:

Many years ago then DB, nor BH and I bought our first house. In lawas wanted to come and take a look. Entire family, mum, dad, brothers, cousins, aunties etc but they also expected feeding.

I made huge spag bol (mince, tinned toms, mushrooms, onions, chopped peppers etc) with garlic bread chips and pasta.

Auntie 1: My kids will never eat that. They only eat it from a tin from Asda.
Me: They're on their second bowl full.

BIL - spends 25 minutes picking out every identifiable bit of veg and placing it round the edge of his plate in coordinated piles.

Needless to say, apart from BBQs, I have never cooked for them again.

Arghh! Dear Boyfriend, now DH.

What a giant baby. I second what a previous poster said. Eat dinner at lunchtime so he just gets a sandwich in the evening.

Yes that's rude and a bit pathetic. If it was me and hadn't had an apology I wouldn't argue, I'd tell him I'm hurt by his behaviour and for the next few days cook very bland and possibly sauceless or dry food - served with salad or something a bit boring and very safe. After all, you wouldn't want to risk "getting it wrong again". He might well apologise after that.

He’d be wearing it if he’d done that to me!

By God, he’d get the bum’s rush from me !

The meal would have gone on his head if that was my DH! You’re definitely NBU, how childish and rediculous! Get him to do ALL the cooking next week the ungrateful sod!

Ella's pouches tonight! Make sure they're smooth pureés. Swirl two together on a plastic plate to look arty and give him one of those nice rubbery spoons. Or do what a PP suggested with the liquidiser, if you can be arsed. Serve with a sarcastic smile and a meaningful glance at the clock.