AIBU to ask what happened to you in your life that you never thought would?

[Flyinga]

Good, bad, ugly etc.

I never imagined I'd live in such a nice house (grew up in a rented flat) - well, I'm much more privileged in many ways than I could have expected.

My child being a sexual abuse victim. That happens to other families not ours. I was trained in spotting the signs and didn’t. Breaks my heart daily.

The good - passing my driving test in my 40’s.

Never thought I’d be raped.

Never thought I wanted children, then fell pregnant by accident, difficult pregnancy, lots of problems, pregnancy ended at 6 months. Never thought I would feel total desperation to have another baby. Now have 3 children. But I will never forget the pain and heartache of giving birth to that first baby. I’m still traumatised. I Never thought all my children would have ASD of varying degrees.

@timesout

Life seems to just go by and when you reflect it’s a total rollercoater: Getting pregnant at 20 whilst at uni and finding out at almost 13 weeks. Didn’t expect to still be with the father, who’s now my husband. Relocating permanently hundreds of miles away from my childhood home. Hugely grateful to still have great careers due to amazingly supportive families.

Now, TTC to no avail.. when you don’t plan for it, it happens, and when you want nothing more it doesn’t seem to happen.

Forgiving my husband for his affair.

Severe depression at 21 that lasted 2 years with all the ugly truths sucidal, anti social, weight loss, mood swings etc

Now 4 years on much better

Will never go back to that place, upwards and onwards 💪🏻💪🏻

Never thought going to uni would be a waste of time for my career. Never thought I would have children (didn't want them). Never thought when I got pregnant I'd have twins. Never thought one of my children would die. Never thought the one person I thought I could rely on would turn out to be the complete opposite and leave me to pretty much deal with everything by myself yet still hang around meaning I have to deal with the crap I get from him too.

My dh dying when I was 21. He was 26. Meeting my beloved 2nd Dh two years later. Having four kids, didn't want any. Becoming a nurse after being told , whilst working in a factory, I wasn't intelligent. Leaving nursing to work as a receptionist.

The bad : my baby died, my marriage ended & I lost a lot of 'friends' in the process.
The good: I made some real friends, my DD2 is my sunshine & happiness, and with all the shitness, life could be a whole lot worse.

Dontknowwhatyoumean

Never thought I would meet so many brave women on MN. XXXX

Feeling grateful for what I have now got. A little bit of happiness in my corner of the world.

@duffeldaisy thank you, your post was really encouraging

Everything that’s happened - I never planned any of it

I never thought I would end up with a husband who routinely ostracised me for weeks on end. I also never thought I would end up so traumatically divorced, which I now am.

Feel like there must be something really wrong with me.

Never imagined I'd meet the love of my life at 15. We're getting married this year 11 years later.

I also never imagined I'd still be living in my home town. I had dreams of moving to London after uni but here we are. Seriously considering making the big move next year.

Easy, moving to Australia and becoming a dual citizen. My early-twenties self would have never considered moving abroad.

After being told at 18, after an ectopic pregnancy and a polycystic ovary syndrome diagnosis, that it would be unlikely that I would have children naturally did I imagine that I would end up being a mother of 4 very close together children. 3 of them conceived naturally and a Clomid baby.

Have a stillbirth. I always confidently thought when I was ready for dc it would come easily as I come from a huge family. 1 mmc. 1 stillbirth. 1 second trimester mmc. But now I have my beautiful amazing dd and the horrendous road to her was worth the heartbreak.

1-Losing all my immediate family by the time i was 30.
2-Having DC..never thought id want kids!!
3-Being a (happy)single parent
4-Emigrating overseas to live as a citizen of another country.
5-Being self employed&making a decent living doing something i love enabling me&DC to have a lifestyle never thought possible.
6-Being totally happt with never having a 'DP'..Yep been single parent for 10 years&wouldnt change a thing.

Only realised looking back what a poor start I had in life with quarrelling, divorcing parents, a neglectful, semi-abusive home, a Mum with nine consecutive men friends and a drink problem, having to attend fourteen schools in thirteen years and having to be virtually independent from about the age of twelve.

So it is with astonishment that I find myself retired from a long career as a teacher, happily married with two smart successful children and with a sound financial footing due to prudence, self discipline and frugality.

I am also a bit surprised that those who knew my poor circumstances ignore my dogged determination to pull through all the disadvantages and, instead, pretend to see my success as something that was given to me on a plate. Jealous people have called me ‘lucky’. I am only a bit surprised, however, because my long life struggles have made me an observer of human nature and this is what people are like!

I never thought I would

Get divorced
Get married a 2nd time
Relocate
Have a good job

Good- marry DH and have DS. We've been together since we were 19 but that was never the plan.

Bad- cancer.