When I was a child and MIL was a deputy head though teachers were very respectable and had high ideals and values. I was shocked when my DC started school 20 years ago to find that teachers had tattoos, flip flops, did not necessarily support our values, certainly did not push an academic agenda or push v bright children, and took their politics to school. No behaviour issues there because of the intake and supportive parents who did support their children.
This is where I become cofused however because the staff at dd's state secondary (formall a holy grail school) appeared the diametric opposite of the primary yet whilst banging on about hard work and academics did nothing about behaviour but golly still took their politics to work.
We felt there was no alternative but to send the children orivately expectations were high, behaviour was superb, role models exceptional. Classes were not that small.
Like a poster above I think there is a signifucant issue about valuing vocational skills within primary and secondary education and the failure to recognis the value to society of essential trades: plumbers, carpenters, mechanics, hairdressers, beauticians, all small business people. Not forgetting bus drivers, cooks, porters, etc. Where would we be without those people? Where does education support those occupations or indicate any value or respect for them? Now consider that the majority of parents will hold those or similar occupations and it is little wonder there is a tension between the exoectations of teachers and parents but I'm not sure the issue can be laid solely at the door of parents.
Would I be prepared to pay more tax? Yes I would but I would have to be reassured that additional funding woud be spent on the academic needs of all children rather than the academic aspirations suited only to a minirity and made to fit all. And we wonder why childrens' mental health is on the skids. Common sense and reality check required says this bear of little academic brain.