To think this colleague is a knob and to tell her to wind her neck in

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I work in a small team so maybe she’s getting on my tits cause there’s nowhere to deflect it to but....

I’m a vegan, I’m not a preachy one, my DP eats meat my lodger eats meat my sister eats meat. I don’t care, I’ll get proper milk in when I’ve got people round, I just choose not to eat it. and it went unnoticed at work until someone arranged a work meal and I had to mention it.
My.fucking.god. You’d think I’d mentioned I only eat live puppies to one woman. She doesn’t like me much anyway but this has weirdly been something for her to sink her claws in about. Everything I do is fussy/something she whinges about, asking for a black coffee on the brew round gets an eye roll, having an apple as a snack “oh that would never fill me,” offered her a slice of toast from the bread I brought in “oh no I bet vegan bread is disgusting” couldn’t be bothered with the argument that most bread is vegan so left it.
Today she had a massive go at me after I perfectly politely turned down a chocolate biscuit she offered me, going on about how I’m being pathetic, I should just eat it it’s not like cows die to make milk. Decided to not mention the problems of the dairy industry and just politely say “no thank you” again.

She also has recently taking to deciding everything I eat is SO unhealthy and having a go about me about everything because I need chicken...
WIBU to tell her I’m not taking diet advice from someone who eats pot noodle and share size bags of crisps for lunch and to wind her fucking neck in?

You would not. Go for it and report back.

Omg what a dick! Yes you should say that.

She’s jealous or insecure.

Are you quite fit / slim?

How frustrating! I’m not a vegan so haven’t had quite the same experience but a woman I used to work with would comment on every single thing I ate, her head would pop up every time. “Oh that’s not very healthy, oh I see you’re eating that, blah blah blah” it gets so wearing feeling like you’re constantly being monitored! And I couldn’t say anything cos everyone loved her, they didn’t realise how hard she was to work with. No advice, just sympathy.

@M4J4
I distance run to a decent club level so I’m pretty slim and she is... well, not. But I don’t comment on what she eats...

Do it OP!

I've lost a lot of weight and get comments on what I am eating from a family member. It irritates me. I also can't eat oil as oily stuff triggers my reflux so of course I avoid it.

Tell her to leave your eating alone or you'll take a grievance of her bullying you about your life choices.

I agree sounds like she’s jealous and projecting her annoyance at her own inability to have willpower round food at your discipline.
It’s childish bullying.
Say something if you like to put her in her place but I would probably just rise above it; she sounds miserable enough already.

I get that it’s really wearing and YWNBU to tell her to give it a rest.

Some people are just very uncomfortable around anyone who challenges their norms. It says more about her than you.

You’ve chosen to lead a healthy lifestyle. She hasn’t. She will be the one who pays for that decision.

Aren’t some pot noodles vegan?

I would just calmly challenge her back and ask her why is she asking/ saying that, rinse and repeat until she gets bored.

Under no circumstances rise to the bait.

I actually think you should start educating her in animal welfare, vegans etc preferably in a really long monotonous lecture. She might think twice before criticising you again.

She is jealous plain and simple.

If she comments on what you do or don't eat while she's tucking into something unhealthy like a Pot Noodle, just nod your head at her lunch and say "Maybe you should pay more attention to what you DO eat (slight curl of lip in distaste) and less attention to what I don't eat"

Yes a lot of pot noodles are vegan.

I might start droning on about the environment. Shell really hate that

I'd call her out on it. Every. Single. Time.

"black coffee on the brew round gets an eye roll"

Hey you, what's the eye roll about? (While smiling, tinkly laugh!)

"having an apple as a snack “oh that would never fill me,”

Really? It's fine for me. But I like to keep myself healthy. (Big smile!)

"oh no I bet vegan bread is disgusting”

Nope, it's fine. Most bread is vegan, but I won't go on, as talking about other people's diet choices is soooo boring, isn't it! (Tinkly laugh!)

"she had a massive go at me after I perfectly politely turned down a chocolate biscuit she offered me, going on about how I’m being pathetic, I should just eat it it’s not like cows die to make milk"

Oh, XXX! I can't believe you just called me pathetic?! (Fake laugh!) Wow, that's not nice!

Take her to one side and say: Seriously though, can we not pick apart my life choices, sorry but it's just making me feel really uncomfortable. We all have our differences. Thanks, knew you'd understand.

I work with someone like this, she's pathetic and obviously has her own issues. I on the other hand keep smiling and keep batting away her twatty comments...i think that may annoy her

I've nothing atall against Vegans, my close friend is one. Live and let a live I say.
But we have a vegan at work who comments on everything that everyone eats! she tells us all how many calories/fat etc etc is in someone's lunch.
I've come so close to telling her to stf up. Not because she's a vegan but because she's an annoying no it all!!
YANBU OP

*know not no

Get her told

On a serious level though if this is affecting you I would really advise you speak to your line manager as this is a form of bullying.

I’d pretend to look baffled and say ‘I really don’t get why you’re always going on about what I eat.’ Perhaps add in something about your doctor saying you’re in perfect shape. I have a feeling that will deflate some of the wind in her sails.

She sounds like a massive knob!

I’d call her on it every single time.

“Ooh that would never fill me up” ... well yes Karen there is an awful lot of you to fill

Oh God what a wagon, fair play for not telling her where to go. I’d try not lower myself to her level. Smile and ask her if she is ok is an overly friendly tone. Or just stare at her say nothing then walk away.

She sounds so annoying and rude! Poor you.

Start bringing in chocolate bourbons, digestives, hobnobs, ginger nuts, oreos... then tuck in and watch her face implode because she can't scold you for not making 'normal' choices I sympathise, but have thankfully been very lucky as a vegan in my own workplace so have never had to deal with anything like this! Will watch for tips....

She’s jealous & annoying.

Most offices have one of them

A loud “F**K OFF” should silence her and make her rethink commenting on your dietary choices in future