Not going on date if he won't pick me up?

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It's my 3rd date with this guy.
He suggested on Saturday to go for a drive into the country and go for lunch and look around this village.
I thought that sounded great.
I live 25 min drive from him or 50 min train journey to his local city.
He said can you meet me at (his local train station) so that's a extra train and another 20 mins.
I said can we not meet in your city centre train station (as only 1 train for me) he said he couldn't park easy there.
So I have to get two trains and a 1hr 10 min journey to then go on a drive.
It's just putting me off.
Aibu here if I didn't go.
Then after a hours drive in the country he will drop me off at the train station for a 1hr journey and he drives 5 mins home.

YANBU and he’s being thoughtless. That’s a LOT of effort from you and he should be trying to meet you half way or at least make it as easy as possible for you. When you said there was a rail replacement bus involved too, I’m not surprised you’ve told him ‘no thanks’ because those things are hideous.

Have you told him?

what a nob

Oh he’s horrible! Plenty will put up with that sort of lazy shite, good on you not being one of them OP!

May the next man you meet be an improvement.

Dont bother with the prat. If it was me I'd pick my date up. I always did in the past.
He's either ignorant and lazy or not really bothered about you. I bet he's never had any ltr in the past bar maybe a couple of month.

To the immortal words of Arianna Grande “thank you, next!”
Not worth the effort.

That's exactly what I was thinking @Henrysmycat

Definitely not. As you've travelled to him the other times he could easily pick you up from the main station so you only need one train. But actually you seem to be making all the effort - seems if you suggest meeting near yours or halfway he'll say no.
Next!

He's either ignorant and lazy or not really bothered about you

I would also add that he may be trying to manipulate a situation where he gets 'no strings' sex with a woman of low self-esteem who will ask very little of him.

Just to clarify, I'm not saying that's you, OP. But, if a woman was to do what he's suggesting and then go back to his because it's easier etc etc...

This is why I won't date anyone that doesn't have their own car. You might think that it's "only" a five minute drive away, but you're not taking into account local driving conditions, finding somewhere to park, etc, etc. If it's like my city centre, a five minute journey could easily take well over an hour.

I'd be wary of dating a non-driver. But the OP had a car until recently and does drive so she understands the issues. And most of the reason the traffic is so bad and journey times so unreliable is because of all those people in their cars

Told him about the situation and then at first he suggested the megabus???? I'm assuming that's like the national express
He went on to say but if I have to il come to you.
Not sure I'm keen with "if I have too"

He sounds keen! 😂😂😂😂😂

Ugh, it’s the third date and he should still be trying to impress you.

This kind of “can’t be arsed”-ness doesn’t get better, believe me I speak from bitter experience.

Suggest a Megabus for him. To Nowhere.

The Megabus?

Oh for goodness sake, tell him to sling his hook!

Dump him op, he sounds very lukewarm about you, look at what he is saying to you, he can't be bothered now in the 'honeymoon' stage, he never will! You are doing all the running for him!

Not sure I'm keen with "if I have too"

Read something great once years ago. It was about women who just naturally lose interest in a guy if he is like this. Other women (like me) try and make it work, fix things, go overboard trying to people-please and so on. Then there are the women who just very naturally lose interest in this kind of nonsense from guys. It's not even being angry or punitive, it's just they think "Oh, what a pity. He's not what I was hoping for. I've really lost interest in him now." Then they answer the phone to another date with friends or a new guy.

Megabus😂😂😂😂😂

Told him about the situation and then at first he suggested the megabus???? I'm assuming that's like the national express

Like National Express but with added crackpipes under the seats.

OP if I were you I’d nip this in the bud now - just tell him that he’s clearly not willing to put in the kind of effort that you look for in a relationship so best to call it off entirely. You’re just going round in circles now with his utterly ridiculous Megabus suggestion.

Omg. 'If i have to.'

The only reply to that I would put is a cry-laughing emoji. Then ghost that fucker, doesn't deserve an explanation/ending and by sounds of it wouldn't come looking for one either.

Just cancel the whole thing.