to think my friend is making a poor decision.

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My friend has a husband and a child who is seven. She wants another baby but he doesn't, so she's said that she going to leave him. This is despite (and I quote) 'I do love him, but I want another baby'.

My concern is her 7 year old. I feel it is just wrong to break up a family for something you want (not need) and the fact that she already has a child, so it isn't like she isn't experiencing motherhood. And he is a good guy too.

I have just said things like 'are you sure?' etc, but I can't help thinking its all a bit odd.

And I’d hope she never got pregnant.

And she'd be far, far better off with such a spiteful person who pretends to be a friend but actually secretly hates her and believes she deserves punished for daring to want another child.

He's allowed to change his mind. So is she.

Well then, she will have to find another stud who is prepared to father and provide for another sprog , not always easy?

Given your update it actually sounds like they have grown apart and want different things out of life. He wants to enjoy the freedom he didn’t have, she wants to settle down at home with a family. Neither is wrong but they are fundamentally incompatible. It’s sometimes better to separate than for either party to end up become bitter about sacrificing their needs for the other.
I have an only through choice but a blended family is better than parent’s staying together out of obligation in an unhappy marriage.

This isnt a compromisable situation. There is no meeting in the middle. Either she gives up completely the family she always wanted. Or splits up the family she has. For him he either gives up the family he has and has another one, or hopes she changes her mind. It's crappy-and I wouldn't judge. Theses no half a baby- one has to either completely change their feelings, live with the others, or end the relationship. If you can't know how it feels to desperately want another child and be told no- then you can't know the situation she's in- or him.

Well then, she will have to find another stud who is prepared to father and provide for another sprog , not always easy?

If the relationships and step-parenting boards are anything to go by, it's not at all difficult for some.

Ha ha I knew someone would mention the cycling!

Actually she's a brownies leader and is out almost as much as him, and away on camps etc in the summer.

But I see your point. They do have quite separate lives but the perspective I had was that they were separate but solid. But maybe not!

How old is she?

She's 33

He's 28