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AIBU - to think this is too much?

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Harveyrabbit76 · 15/04/2019 14:58

My MIL has offered to buy my DS (nearly 3) a micro scooter (about £60)for Easter as I don't let him have easter eggs (obviously they are comparable?! :-)). AIBU to have said no as I think its too much money and missing the point of Easter? I grew up going to church on Easter Sunday and maybe having a couple of chocolate eggs.
Easter for me is more about being with family having a meal with maybe an easter egg hunt (plastic ones or something similar), not making it into Christmas part 2.

I know I have probably hurt MIL's feelings but I have said this would be a very generous gift for his birthday in August. What do you think?

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Huskylover1 · 15/04/2019 16:30

I just don't think spending loads of money at Easter is sending the right message?

To a 2 year old? Hilarious.

Ithinkmycatisevil · 15/04/2019 16:30

No.. a scooter is wayyyy too much for an Easter gift.

But let the poor kid have some chocolate. I really don't understand parents who are so against them having chocolate or sweets here and there. So they may get a bit hyper, is that so terrible? Surely you can handle an over excited slightly hyper kid for one day? And kids love chocolate, it won't kill him. Seriously.

notharryssally · 15/04/2019 16:31

Why the assumption that OP doesn't know her own child?! Hmm If she says he doesn't get on with sugar, then he most likely doesn't get on with sugar!

Honestly OP, I would let your MIL buy it. I do see where you're coming from but he won't understand the value or remember it for next year. And he'll enjoy it! There's no need to tell him it's in lieu of eggs.

Bluntness100 · 15/04/2019 16:33

In your OP you said ‘meal and a plastic Easter egg hunt’ and suggested she just get him stickers, now you are saying ‘loads of presents’, makes it quite hard to no anything if you are going to drip feed or change the story

This. It went from we will feed him and let him do a plastic Easter egg hunt and maybe have some stickers if I must, to he will have an avalanche of gifts.

Wonder which version is the truth.

Nuttyaboutnutella · 15/04/2019 16:37

Just let her get him a scooter or an egg.

My son is 2, I don't like him having a lot of chocolate so he has a little a few times a week but I absolutely do not banish it, just everything in Moderation. He's still get through Christmas chocolate. I've got him 2 small eggs (the £1 ones) as he's also getting eggs from his uncles, grandparents and great grandparents. His dad's side have given money and my mum paid for a new pair of shoes for him

Sauvignonblanket · 15/04/2019 16:37

Scooter sounds like a great idea and a very kind thought - lucky grandchild! Maybe call it an early birthday present? It's perfect for a child that age and they'll get much more use out of it if they have it now rather than August.

dustarr73 · 15/04/2019 16:40

Let the granny buy him the scooter.Its not heroin.He can have the hobby horse for the house and the scooter to go to the park.Win,win.

You sound a bit joyless,hes 2.Let the child have a bit of fun.

Candymay · 15/04/2019 16:41

I hope when I’m a grandma I am allowed to buy what I like for my grandchildren! A scooter is great. Why can’t she buy a lovely gift? I love buying gifts for children. How fortunate to have a grandma like that.

user1494055864 · 15/04/2019 16:41

Let him have an egg, then when he gets hyper, let him burn off that energy on his new scooter! Win win.

Greatbigterribleshart · 15/04/2019 16:45

You know your own child and if he won't get any use out of it then there is no point in having it until you know he will. Otherwise it will take up space and possibly get broken before he gets a chance to use it.

I get fed up with being bullied into taking home all sorts of sweets and rubbish. I cleared DS room out and he gets so much from my side of the family that there were uneaten, old sweets that he decided he'd rather play with. When I asked him why they were all hidden he said he didn't want to be rude and seem ungrateful. We end up with the same problem with toys.

I've just come back from a visit with 6 chocolate eggs with the toys in, 4 large easter eggs, a chocolate bunny, an entire bag of polystyrene easter decorations covered in glitter (think the little chicks and eggs) and about 30 of a variety of lollies. All from one person! for one small child!
It's ridiculous and "D"M thinks it will make DS like her more than even his own parents... needless to say he does enjoy visiting but he's desperate not to be left there because he gets bored so it clearly doesn't work.

ChocChocButtons · 15/04/2019 16:48

For my nanny charges under 2 I buy them a book and over 2 a small chocolate egg

SnugglySnerd · 15/04/2019 16:49

I agree it is too much but please rethink plastic eggs - environmental nightmare (I realise that's missing the point of the thread entirely!)

Siameasy · 15/04/2019 16:49

A scooter is a good present as it’s practical and will last
This year I noticed that there is a trend to buy Easter presents and give Easter baskets. Which I do find annoying because I now have to go and buy Easter presents for said people and make four Easter baskets because four people are giving to us🙈

SheChoseDown · 15/04/2019 16:51

Micro scooters are ace. Please let him have one. He'll get loads of use out of it before August

Combopanda · 15/04/2019 16:52

I think a scooter is a lovely gift for spring. It may be a little more than you would spend but she's his Grandma, thats the wonderful thing about grandparents they get to buy treats & spoil you. Don't be a fun sucker.

Thesnobbymiddleclassone · 15/04/2019 16:54

Unless he's allergic to chocolate or something in the ingredients one egg or one day of chocolate idnt going to hurt him.

DD gets loads we just hide them a pace them over weeks, we don't let her just eat them all in one go.

Thesnobbymiddleclassone · 15/04/2019 16:58

Posted too soon.

It just all sounds very miserable.

What will you do when he has cousins that he celebrates with? Will they all have to hunt for plastic eggs too to make your child feel better.

By all means don't buy and egg but don't limit others in the family enjoying the fun. You can still teach him the meaning of Easter and so on

I'm the first one to NEVER back the Mil as mine is annoying, rude and disrespectful but in this case she just wants to make up for what he misses out on.

If you don't like lots of sugar and that's fair, then why not just say a small pack of mini eggs will do.

downcasteyes · 15/04/2019 17:01

This is one MIL thread where I am firmly siding with the MIL. (I hope you are watching Bertrand Russell Grin). The woman just wants to buy something and £60 is presumably not ridiculous for her budget. Surely it's better for your kid to have a scooter to be active on than a chocolate egg? You're being a bit controlling, and I don't really see how she can win!

Pinkyyy · 15/04/2019 17:02

You are literally begrudging your own 2 year old of a scooter.

Oysterbabe · 15/04/2019 17:02

Just give him a single turnip, same at Christmas. We can't have these children being spoiled.

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pudding21 · 15/04/2019 17:08

I reckon my boys get more excited over Easter than Christmas because I chuck loads of little chocolate eggs around my garden and house and they run around for 5 minutes finding them, have an argument over who has more, then spend the rest of the day scoffing said chocolate. I loved getting easter eggs as a child.

Let him have at least one chocolate egg! I am sure there are low sugar versions.

AhhhHereItGoes · 15/04/2019 17:08

Could MIL or you for that matter - get a nice Easter bunny / egg to point/decorate? Fun, but not extravagant.

Oysterbabe · 15/04/2019 17:09

FWIW my MIL has spent about £50 on a gift for each grandchild. She likes buying them gifts, they like getting them. I don't see the problem with adding a bit more happiness to the world.

RedBerryTea · 15/04/2019 17:11

On Sunday he will be surrounded by the whole family who give him loads of attention and love and yes, loads of other presents - so Christmas part 2 then.