AIBU - to think this is too much?

[Harveyrabbit76]

My MIL has offered to buy my DS (nearly 3) a micro scooter (about £60)for Easter as I don't let him have easter eggs (obviously they are comparable?! :-)). AIBU to have said no as I think its too much money and missing the point of Easter? I grew up going to church on Easter Sunday and maybe having a couple of chocolate eggs.
Easter for me is more about being with family having a meal with maybe an easter egg hunt (plastic ones or something similar), not making it into Christmas part 2.

I know I have probably hurt MIL's feelings but I have said this would be a very generous gift for his birthday in August. What do you think?

She just wants to do something nice for her grandchild and you’re needlessly making it difficult for her. He is two so won’t understand what Easter even is, either let her get him a chocolate egg or let her spend the £60 on a scooter.

The Op doesn't want her Ds to have chocolate eater eggs - absolutely fine, her choice, certainly while her DS is young enough that she can control it.

OP, if you don't want to build expectations (and I totally get that - Easter is not Xmas or Birthday) why not suggest to your MIL that she buys one of those fillable eggs (lots on Etsy) and buys some nice little Easter themed things to go in it e.g fluffy chick, stickers, maybe some socks if you want it to stay practical, etc...

Apple cakes and spring gardens, yep thats the way to do things at easter. Wish I knew this when my kids were smaller

@MrsTerryPratchett - OP said her son doesn't get on with sugar, that's why I suggested a sweet alternative.

My dd gets eggs and is allowed a set amount every day.

Actually she gorges herself the first day.

God almighty, let your child have a bit of fun in his life. And sugar does NOT make kids go crazy. Certain E numbers, yes, but a bit of chocolate, nope.

Small egg. Job done. Take him to church, egg after.

And, technically, Easter is the high point of the Christian calendar so therefore lots of celebrating is appropriate.

You'd rather pollute the planet with plastic eggs?

What do you imagine will happen when he goes to nursery and they make crappy Easter cakes decorated with chocolate mini eggs!?

Chocolate isn't the devil incarnate.

Let the poor kid have a small Easter egg! One tiny chocolate egg a year will do no harm.

What's he going to do with a bunch of plastic eggs anyway? I don't think I'd have even bothered searching for them when I was a kid

YANBU, Easter isn't a present giving holiday so I'm not sure where that has come from. But the simple idea of her buying him a mini scooter isn't so bad, is it? What if she gives it to him for his birthday or something? It might be good fun for him.

@Harveyrabbit76....... www.onemedical.com/blog/get-well/sugar-make-kids-hyperactive.

The Op doesn't want her Ds to have chocolate eater eggs - absolutely fine

Whilst I disagree with banning chocolate completely as the OP has done, (and for some dubious reasons) you're correct she has the right to say no.

However, she doesn't have the right to then turn down the alternative gift, or dictate what is bought.

Trust me - my DM didn't let me and DBro have Easter Eggs at Easter - well we did have some but not nearly as much as we could have had - as he had a cow's milk allergy.

There was also the issue of no sweets as she spent her childhood eating sweets and then had lots of fillings later.

Reader - we rebelled and bought all sorts of sweets and chocolate behind her back.

Let the kid have an Easter Egg!

Easter isn't a present giving holiday so I'm not sure where that has come from

It is an Easter egg giving holiday though. Mil probably feels sorry for the poor kid.

Oh - let him have the scooter too. FFS what a killjoy you sound OP.

PurpleDaisies - actually since I was a kid but more an adult my DM always got or gets me something extra for Easter as well as an egg whether it be jewellery, clothes etc - something sn=mall generally. How can I refuse?!

PS - MNHQ - where is the Easter egg smiley please - I'm sure you had them before!

Poor kid spending the day hunting for plastic eggs

ZeroFuchs
I realised after I posted that I sounded a bit 'twee' posting about spring garden.
(I'll shut up and get back to my Jayne Eyre and embroidery)

OP said her son doesn't get on with sugar, that's why I suggested a sweet alternative.

@MRex my point is that they are chemically the same so if he reacts to one, he will react to the other. IMO it's probably a nocebo effect. People think sugar makes children hyper so they interpret it that way. Chances are they give their children sugar with caffeine (chocolate) or colouring (Haribo) or at exciting times and that's why the child is excitable. Which is why they think honey (sugar) and fruit (sugar) don't do the same.

I agree with the comments suggesting she give it to him as an early birthday present. I wouldn’t link it to Easter st all. Then on his birthday she can give him something small and inexpensive like a book, if she wants him to open something from her on the day

You are right OP it is easier to just let him have the Easter egg. It won’t kill you if your toddler gets ‘hyper’ once a year and stays up late. Sounds miserable, controlling what presents people can buy him, no chocolate on the holidays despite no allergies... it might be worth picking your battles to be honest!