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AIBU - to think this is too much?

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Harveyrabbit76 · 15/04/2019 14:58

My MIL has offered to buy my DS (nearly 3) a micro scooter (about £60)for Easter as I don't let him have easter eggs (obviously they are comparable?! :-)). AIBU to have said no as I think its too much money and missing the point of Easter? I grew up going to church on Easter Sunday and maybe having a couple of chocolate eggs.
Easter for me is more about being with family having a meal with maybe an easter egg hunt (plastic ones or something similar), not making it into Christmas part 2.

I know I have probably hurt MIL's feelings but I have said this would be a very generous gift for his birthday in August. What do you think?

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MrsTerryPratchett · 15/04/2019 15:58

And I loved the garden idea @BlueMerchant. My kid would love that. Or crafts. Or chocolate or a scooter for that matter Grin

MadameDD · 15/04/2019 15:58

Ok - the hyperactive on sugar stuff - DD can be a bit like this - I just let her have a small bit (e.g. sweets, chocolate etc) spaced throughout the day and not gorge on it - and I also let her 'let off steam' if I say give her sugar in the morning - so whether it's swimming or playground she burns the energy off.

LarryGreysonsDoor · 15/04/2019 15:58

My DS gets really hyper on sugar, so anyone who wants to come round and deal with him still being awake at 10pm then be my guest

The whole kids get hyper on sugar thing is a myth. The only reason he would get hyper is because he is getting something he’s never allowed.

There was a lovely experiment where they had two parties. At one party they children were given cake, chocolate, ice cream etc but did calm craft activities. At the other the children were given low sugar food like cheese and crackers but they had a disco, played games etc.

The parents were then asked which party had the sugar.
I’ll let you guess the rest.

Nomorepies · 15/04/2019 16:01

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Bluntness100 · 15/04/2019 16:01

Op is this all about making your life as easy s possible? So no scooter as you'd have to go out and supervise, no chocolate egg in case he gets excited and doesn't toddle off to bed and you need to look after him longer?

Get him a nice colouring book that will distract him and send him off on a plastic egg hunt, so he goes to bed with no excitement and your life is as easy as possible?

Dontsweatthelittlestuff · 15/04/2019 16:02

You can’t make a spring garden in spring as the bulbs need planting in Oct/nov of the year before? You could buy the bulbs already in the green but then the whole thing will die back within a week or so and I can’t see anything exciting for a 2 year old about watching tulips and dafs die back.
Let the child have an egg. He doesn’t need to eat the whole thing in one day you or even a box of kinder mini eggs so you can ratio them out a few at a time.

NunoGoncalves · 15/04/2019 16:03

Lol at everyone trying to pressure the OP into giving her kid chocolate. He doesn't need chocolate. There is no problem whatsoever with not giving a 2-year-old chocolate. Leave her be ffs.

BertrandRussell · 15/04/2019 16:05

We have a new clothes at Easter tradition. What about a hoodie with a favourite character or animal on it?

Joebloggswazere · 15/04/2019 16:08

nuno nobody “needs” chocolate, yet the shelves are full of it. It’s nice to have a treat now and again though.

BlueMerchant · 15/04/2019 16:08

Maybe a rabbit ? Smile
(Sorry)

DangerMouse17 · 15/04/2019 16:10

Give the poor kid an Easter egg Hmm

Most kids get a bit excited after some sugar...same with some adults! Small egg and he doesn't have to eat it all in one go. Why the drama?!

PutyourtoponTrevor · 15/04/2019 16:15

Clothes for Easter - how exciting for a 3 year old

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Harveyrabbit76 · 15/04/2019 16:15

Its not about the freaking chocolate ffs, its about a very expensive inappropriate gift. BTW my DS has a great life and has everything he wants. On Sunday he will be surrounded by the whole family who give him loads of attention and love and yes, loads of other presents. I can assure you that by looking the play area and the hobby horse I bought him last week, he is not lacking for toys, love or attention. Maybe its the overstimulation that makes him unable to sleep, i don't know but after 2 years of trying to get him to sleep properly, I try everything and anything.
What a nasty bunch some of you are, well done.

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Bluntness100 · 15/04/2019 16:17

He doesn't need chocolate

Are you confused? Who said he "needed it"

Let me clarify for you, kids are delighted at Easter to get chocolate eggs. It's part of the fun of growing up. A special treat. Children love Easter. The Easter bunny, going on egg hunts, it's all part of the memories of growing up. Even the op got chocolate eggs. And more than one.

This poor little boy isn't allowed any. In case he gets a bit excited about his treat. So he's forecast to go to church and on an egg hunt for plastic eggs.

Something I'm sure he will tell his kids all about one day as he lavishes them with the eggs he never got.

myidentitymycrisis · 15/04/2019 16:17

I used to not buy a chocolate egg because ds was getting one from granny, auntie etc and it was too much chocolate, but when he got older he actually explained to me he felt hurt because I didnt get him an egg. I apologised and got him a lovely one every year after that.

He doesn't go for sweet stuff anyway. I dont know if that's because I didn't give it when he was little or chance!

smallereveryday · 15/04/2019 16:17

Here's a plan. Whenever their grandparents offered ANYTHING I just said thank you. 7 kids in. They all have BMIs in the healthy range and a lovely relationship with their GPs.

Stop reading the 'how to be a perfect parent book (because it's not working) and employ some common sense.

derxa · 15/04/2019 16:18

How about a lamb?

Deadringer · 15/04/2019 16:20

If you ask for opinions you will get them, what did you expect, everyone to agree with you?

PutyourtoponTrevor · 15/04/2019 16:21

So he's not getting an egg from anybody then? So he can't even have a little bit of chocolate?

Love isn't all about throwing money at kids, let the kid have a fucking treat for once

MRex · 15/04/2019 16:21

@MrsTerryPratchett - honey has a lower glycemic index and it's sweeter so you can use just half as much in recipes. She didn't suggest he has an allergy, so I think it's a valid alternative.

Alb1 · 15/04/2019 16:22

In your OP you said ‘meal and a plastic Easter egg hunt’ and suggested she just get him stickers, now you are saying ‘loads of presents’, makes it quite hard to no anything if you are going to drip feed or change the story. A scooter isn’t inappropriate, the cost may be in your eyes but it’s not worth upsetting family over just so everything can fit in with exactly what you want.

Ihatemyseleffordoingthis · 15/04/2019 16:24

It's not an inappropriate gift for a grandparent to buy for a little child. It's lovely and will make them both happy.

If it is the link with Easter that bothers you, I'd not worry at age 2 that he will come to expect a gift bonanza every year.

LarryGreysonsDoor · 15/04/2019 16:24

Anyway, you know that eggs, chocolate or otherwise have bugger all to do with Easter right?

GreenTulips · 15/04/2019 16:24

So you brought him an add hoc hobby horse because why? It’s nit birthday or Christmas?

We always had new toys at Easter, one year my kids got a trampoline, lasted longer than chocolate eggs

Huskylover1 · 15/04/2019 16:27

You sound really controlling.