help settle a debate - Alpha male misogynist type men

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to ask you help settle an argument.

If you know any Alpha male misogynist type men (misogynist maybe unfair but using it for short hand) - very self confident men who tend to be high achievers, high earners and take no prisoners, what hobbies the ones you know do and where would you find them socially?

I have a theory that there is something that almost all these men do without exception... my friend disagrees. I don't want to skew my (highly scientific!) survey in advance...

Anything that doesn't involve team work

Strange how true that is. Lot of these high achiever men are also sociopaths.

Camping and campervan related activities.
But the ensuing holiday is just an extension of their controlling tendencies and the whole thing is a miserable existence for anyone that has to endure a week in a bus with a boring bastard controlling where you go/ how you maximise space/ how you clean it/how you sleep/breathe/ shit etc

Cycling! They're all at it now.

I don’t know any men like this who are actually successful. I don’t think you can be anymore (baring in mind that I can quote young so most men I know are under 50).

No. Or high earners or successful.

Oh yes and camping - how could I forget that one.

I’m not sure why you conflate “Alpha / high-achieving” with “misogynist” though OP. That’s very peculiar thinking. If a man is a misogynist, it’s irrelevant whether he’s high-achieving or not, surely? Some if the greatest misogynists might be unemployed couch potatoes, watching porn all day.

Used to be golf - so the older ones it still is. Younger ones it's either cycling - running marathons or extreme fitness, like cross-fit

As someone wisely said, anything that isn't a team sport

I know many alpha male types and the only thing they seem to have in common is ambition and monetary success. They have a variety of hobbies, none common to all, which they take seriously.

If I had to choose one thing they all do, fine wine collecting and eating at the top restaurants worldwide is the only thing they all do.

I have see the over fifty version too.
Usually they choose activities that involve as little team work as possible.
(Build a grand designs house in rural isolation anyone?)
Purely because they can’t sustain normal relationships.

I think for misogyny read arrogant and superior - to everyone, but especially women

Cocaine

I think of 3 typical ‘alpha males’ I know well (although I wouldn’t call any of them misogynistic).
One is in the TA
One volunteers for local mountain rescue and is big into hiking
One is a youth army leader for cadets (not sure what it’s actually called!)

OP - are you trying to 'bag' one yourself ?

They are pretty high maintenance!!

Cocaine

I don't think many of the cycling type are super bright. The cycling/rugby/pints/gym type is usually something like an electrician or a plumber.

Working.

There were a few in my family parents generation - mainly golf or squash.

I'm not sure now - cycling, rock climbing and sailing but I don't know many though ones I do about my age 40 ish do these.

@Pa1oma why are you (still) married to a misogynist?

@Snuffalo she didnt say she was

One tried to pick me up in a hotel lobby earlier this year , not sure what he thought I was. He was quite displeased to learn I was only waiting for a friend and didn't have any services to offer

The ones I know in their 30s = cycling. Older ones usually golf.

OP - are you trying to 'bag' one yourself ?

OP has a spreadsheet going and is looking up clubs in her local area.

I wouldn’t agree with your description of ‘alpha male’, you are describing the kind of guy who wishes he was an ‘alpha’ - these guys are all well and confident up until they genuinely have to show some balls - and then watch them run away from any real life danger!
They see themselves as the main event - genuine ‘alpha’ types (male and female) see themselves as the leader of a pack - there is an distinct difference between looking out for yourself and looking out for your ‘pack’ .

Golf.

Golf.

The women married to this sort are often pretty annoying too