To take my child's house key away when

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... yes, when?
When they go to uni? When they set up in their own home?
Never?
I still have a key to my mother's house, but because I live in another country and only go for extended visits it's not like I ever go unannounced - does that make a difference?

I don't have a key to my parents house because I never lived there. They moved after I'd left. My sister does as she was living with them there, she's a fair bit younger than me.

I can't imagine taking DD's key away. At university she'll still need it in holidays and visits home. It's just feel strange taking it away after that I think.

Even if I had a key to my parents I wouldn't just walk in. I always visit with arrangement (they don't live in same city) and always knock when I arrive, even though the door is unlocked. I knock, wait a second and walk in.

I left home 20 years ago and still have a key. DP have a key to my house now too so it’s all fair!

I moved out 20 years ago and still have a key to my parents house. They only live on the next road so I do pop over most days. They also have a spare key to our house. My mum still has the key to my nans house and hasn’t lived there in 40 years!

I've got s key for theirs, they've got one for mine.

I have keys to my mum's, sister's and brother's houses and they have keys to mine.

Never. This will always be my children’s home if they need it.

I'm 37, I gave mine to my sister when she moved back in last year otherwise I'd still have them. DP is 40 and still has his.

I kept mine, and then when they got a new front door when I was in my mid 20s they gave me a copy of the new one too. I've never used it as I always knock when I go round but I wouldn't want to not have it.

In my 40s in a different country, still have my key I only use it when I visit home obvs.

We moved an I purposefully gave a key to my young adults dds to emphasise that they still had a home !

Why would you consider taking it away?? My DPs wouldn’t ever, if they need a spare key they’d just get another one cut. DS also still has hers for their house. She lives locally so is probably more useful than me having mine...

I still have a key, but I can't remember which one it is. I live 50 miles away so never turn up unannounced anyway.

I was asked to give my key back temporarily so it could be given to a builder who needed access why my parents were away. 19 years later I still don't have it back. DB has one though. I'm managing not to take it personally!

Joining the list of people who still have a key. And my parents have moved and had doors changed, they keep me and dsis up to date key wise.

I don't usually use it, but would if I was worried about them, wanted to check the flat was ok when they were away or was in the area and needed a wee. I know Dsis used it as a handy nappy change and cup of tea station when she was out and about.

I'd be upset if they asked for the keys back...

we have a keysafe and they all know the code, but they do all have keys of their own, or they did
...hence the keysafe. Plus I am very lax about locking up and dh is not, so the keysafe is mainly for my benefit

I also have keys to my mother's, at least that's where I think the two mystery keys belong! Next time I go I am going to take them and double check. After her last visit here she nearly had to test them herself as she sends her luggage up and down by parcel force so there is no wrangling of suitcases for her to do, and she suddenly thought she had packed them into the case that had been collected already. Anyway her keys turned up in her handbag!

I do not have keys to children's places as none of them are officially in their own places

I still have a key to my dads, he downsized after mum died but still gave me one. Either he or my sister has a key to mine (they live right by each other so just pass the key over if needed to get in although sis has been getting a long hard look after borrowing an item of furniture while we werr on holiday 😂). Have never actually used key for dads, tend to knock as i arrange visits with him. Have a key for sisters though and will stroll right in and put the kettle on

Never, why would you take it back?

I would probably have a key to my parents house if they still lived in the same house as when I lived at home 20 years ago, but they moved a few years ago. They have a key to mine - they don’t abuse it, always knock!

When your DC’s leave would you expect them to give you a key to their property.

I gave my key back when I left home to go to university at 18.

I've never had one since.

But neither have I been welcome there since either so...

I'm 34, haven't lived at home for ten years and still have the set of keys I was given aged 11 when I started letting myself in after school. I knock then let myself in when I visit. My parents have keys to my house as well.

I can't imagine my parents ever asking for a key back.

I had a key to my dad's house until he died at 87 (when I was 62). I always arranged visits, never just dropped in unless he missed his teatime check-in call or text. The key was a lifeline and anxiety-reducer for us both.

Why wold anyone take a key away from their child unless there was a serious family rift?

My adult children have keys to my house I wouldnt think about asking for them back. Why do you want them back?