To ask how old you were?

[HarrysOwl]

When you got married? (If you're married!)

I was reading a BBC article about a woman talking about the judgement and negativity she encountered when she announced her engagement aged 22.

I was 32 when I married DH. We were together for 3 years, got engaged then lived together for another 4 years before having our wedding. I wanted to be as sure as I could be and felt no rush.

Is there a general judgement with feminist overtones about getting married so young? Are they doomed to divorce?

First marriage - 29 and divorced at 39. Second marriage 42 and still going on happily 20 odd years later.

Met DH at 25, engaged at 27 and married at 29.

I was 20 and we are still happily married over 20 years later. Most of my friends have married over the past 10 years if they have married at all though.

Met at 21 and married at 24

Met at 22 married at 28. Am now 34.

I do wish I had met him a little later as it feels quite young but I still went travelling on my own and did all that stuff so didn't miss out. I'm happy with him so wouldn't change it

Met at 16y
Engaged at 23y
Married at 25y
Child at 29y

Been married 20 years now.

Met DH at 21, moved in together at 23, engaged at 24 and married three weeks before my 26th birthday.

I was the first of all my friends to get married.

(We'll both turn 29 shortly)

Harry, I think it has a lot to do with changing attitudes, even in the early 80s in many circles it was seen as scandalous to live together without marriage and to have children was seen as dreadful, I think many couples got married just to avoid censure. I believe that contraception has been the game changer for women, it has given women time to do so much more.

20. Split just before my 28th birthday. We weren’t too young. He was a dick and I was mentally fucked over by my upbringing.

29. Been together, but not lived together, 18 months when we got married. Married 29 years.

Married at 22, with a one year old child. Divorced at 24.

Married again (to someone else!) at 32 - still together 21 years later.

22 been married for 30 years

Met when I was 15, he was 18. Married when I was 27 .
Marriage is tough I think having children is tougher .

Met when 17, married at 19, first child when 22 still together and celebrate our 40th wedding anniversary this year.

I was 27 and had been together 12 years.

I got married at 40. Had been together 14 years. Was divorced 6 years later

We were 23. Been married 25 years now. Had first child at 26, second at 30.

I was 26 when we met, I was 30 when we got married - I wanted to make sure he was the right one. Been married for 19 years, although he drives me nuts sometimes, I know we will never get divorced.

I know people who married young and divorced quickly, but I also know lots of people who married young and are still together. I don't think age has got too much to do with it, it depends on how mature you are.

Met at 19, he was 20. Moved in together 3 days later. Had to get married at 24, as we needed the tax rebate to replace our car, written off in an accident. (Very anti marriage, as a 1970’s feminist!)
Blissfully married until his death at 32. Still miss him 27 years later. Never remarried. Soulmates are irreplaceable.

I was 25 when I got married.

Met at 22 married at 25.

Got married at 26 after 8 years together.

22. Been married 40 years next month. Totally the norm at the time.

Met him at 26, married at 27 - far too young in my opinion when I look back! He cheated last year so we are currently getting divorced after 20+ years of marriage. Never again!