Do you post pictures of your children on social media?

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I use social media quite a lot, I've been posting pictures of DC since I started to use facebook and then instagram so when my oldest was around 4 and there's pictures of my other children from birth to now. It's nice to have them there to look back on but I do wonder sometimes whether I should, I find some of my own childhood pictures a bit embarrasing. My DC aren't too bothered by it, youngest is too young understand, middle one couldn't care less, my oldest is a teenager now so she cares a little more and I ask her permission before posting anything of her. Most people I know also post pictures of their DC regularly, I only know a couple who don't at all

I think its only illegal in Italy if you don't have their permission. Not sure what age they can be deemed old enough to give permission though. In Italy the copyright of the phtograph lies with the subject, rather than the photographer.

I personally don't but I don't judge those that do. I want my little one to have control over his online life when he's older.

I don't, I have Facebook friends who I haven't seen for years. I don't put much about my personal life because my actual friends see me and DD.

Interesting reading these posts.

My DP has three kiddies and we've wanted to post pictures on social media for a while however his ex has said she doesn't feel comfortable with it.

His oldest DC has various social media channels (he's only 12), and the two other DC have pictures on school website/hobbies/play groups etc however when we recently shared pictures from a day out she hit the roof.

She also has old pictures of the kids on her profile. She did try saying how she'll take us to court for this (they have no court arrangements it's purely between the two of them) which is very pathetic but I think it's simply she doesn't like other people seeing her kids having fun with their Dad.

I don’t understand the issues around it all. I love sharing photos of my DD enjoying herself on days out so relatives and friends can be involved in our lives from afar. I would never get round to emailing photos to my family and her Dad’s family who all live abroad individually but I know they love seeing her having fun on Facebook. Each to their own but I also enjoy seeing photos of my friend’s children growing up too. It is all good from my point of view. And my DD 10 doesn’t mind either.

Occasionally. My profile is very restricted though. The only people who can see anything other than my profile photo are family and a very few friends.

Mummadeeze if you don't understand the issues around it at all, how would you like other people to post photos of you without your informed permission?

Your DD is 10 years old, she can't give you her informed permission either.

If your relatives are really interested in seeing images of your child, they'll ask you for them. Whether you get around to obliging or not, is down to you.

But what'll also be down to you, is trying to convince your child that her looks are not as important as her personality, work ethic, etc etc and that if she's not getting the likes and love hearts on Instagram when she's older, she's not to be bothered.

How can you do that when you've been posting her images for other people to admire on the internet?

Mummadeeze if I put pictures of my son on social media (or even myself in an easily identifiable area), I risk his safety as I have no idea what his birth mother (my sister) is capable of.

And I'm sorry but I've never believed anyone who says they post their kid's images on SM for family members.

It's just as easy to email them but of course there'll be no likes and love hearts that way.
In your view maybe. I have 32 relatives on Facebook but I haven't got an email address for any of them. I only tend to use email for business reasons, never personal.

I have a closed family group on fb that I post pics of the kids in. I once read an article about how, many photos can be cropped and photo shopped onto naked torsos which then end up on the dark web.

Ppl can post pics of me without my permission. I don't claim copyright over my image.

I don’t actually have any social media, and when ds was born we asked all friends and family not to post any photos.

I send photos via WhatsApp to family, and they’re welcome to take their own when with ds. Family have never had a problem with it (or at least they’ve never complained about it to us!)

I post pictures with my children in them sometimes. But not really pictures of just them.

Not really for the reasons that everyone else has stated but more because it's my facebook profile, not theirs. They're my children but they're not me. So it makes sense to me to have a picture of the four of us on holiday but not to have a picture of one of my children gazing at me across the breakfast table, for example.

No I don’t. But I don’t think it’s a huge deal if people do.

I share lots of pictures on WhatsApp.

@WorraLiberty i completely agree with your posts here. You have made some excellent points.

Im so glad i grew up pre internet. Though i know my parents would not have done this anyway.

Another thread where mumsnet is so far removed from my reality that I can't understand it at all.

Every single last one of my friends and family post copious pictures of their kids on Facebook and Instagram and so do I. Loads of them. The only one that didn't for a while was when she adopted a baby but 3 year on his social worker has said that it's fine for her to post his picture as he looks so different.

Do you post them publicly though or just friends only, SkaTastic? Most people I know share things friends only and that seems to be a common answer here.

'Interesting' that there seems to be a strand of opinion that says "I'll post until they tell me not to". Surely the better approach is "I won't post until they tell me it's OK". Given that young children won't have a clue of what you're talking about.

I'm glad too Helena

notacooldad - In your view maybe. I have 32 relatives on Facebook but I haven't got an email address for any of them. I only tend to use email for business reasons, never personal.

Then they don't necessarily want to see photos of your children, do they? If they did, they'd make sure they had a way for you to send them.

You are choosing to upload your child's images to FB for your own reasons, none of which prioritises your child.

That's a parental choice of course, but people need to own their choices, not blame Auntie Nora from Norway when their child eventually realises what's been happening with their personal photos all their life.

notacooldad - In your view maybe. I have 32 relatives on Facebook but I haven't got an email address for any of them. I only tend to use email for business reasons, never personal

Then they don't necessarily want to see photos of your children, do they? If they did, they'd make sure they had a way for you to send them
I didn't say I posted pictures of my kids did I? I saida I haven't got emails of any relatives as it's not something I use. I am more than happy to see my extended familiy and their children's photos, in fact I enjoy it.
I thought it was a ridiculous comment that people only put photos up for likes. Just another broad sweeping statement from someone assuming they know how everyone thinks.

You are choosing to upload your child's images to FB for your own reasons, none of which prioritises your child. Where did I say I uploaded photos of my kids. Can you highlight it for me? My kids are in their 20s now. The only photos I put up of them is usually a group one for my profile which I usually have to take about 10 times before I've got everyone's approval!

That's a parental choice of course, but people need to own their choices, not blame Auntie Nora from Norway when their child eventually realises what's been happening with their personal photos all their life if my SIL wants to put pictures of her kids up I'm pretty sure she isn't blaming me in the uk or sister in the USA

Any more assumptions you want to make about me and my family and our views about social media.

SkaTastic yes, this thread I think is one of those like the alcohol threads dominated by people who have strong views so not very representative of the general population.
Those of my friends who use Facebook tend to share photos of their kids occasionally (presumably using ‘friends only’ not public) and enjoy seeing pictures of their friends’ children occasionally too!

notacooldad, apologies for misreading your post.

If your SIL wants to upload photos of her children without their informed consent, then hopefully she's owning that instead of blaming other family members, not having their contact details etc.

This is the point I'm making. What should be a child's private photos are being posted by parents, for the 'good' of everyone but the actual children themselves.