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Do you post pictures of your children on social media?

252 replies

Leefygreen · 09/04/2019 19:28

I use social media quite a lot, I've been posting pictures of DC since I started to use facebook and then instagram so when my oldest was around 4 and there's pictures of my other children from birth to now. It's nice to have them there to look back on but I do wonder sometimes whether I should, I find some of my own childhood pictures a bit embarrasing. My DC aren't too bothered by it, youngest is too young understand, middle one couldn't care less, my oldest is a teenager now so she cares a little more and I ask her permission before posting anything of her. Most people I know also post pictures of their DC regularly, I only know a couple who don't at all

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Redcrayons · 09/04/2019 19:31

Mine are teens and have asked me not to so I don’t. I’ve also been hiding photos from when they were little when they come up in memories.
FB wasn’t a big thing when they were born so I don’t have them from birth.

moreismore · 09/04/2019 19:32

I have chosen not to. I don’t judge anyone who does and in fact I like seeing pics of my friends’ kids but once something is online it’s pretty much impossible to delete forever.
I ask friends and family to respect this but if my kids are in the background of someone’s wedding pics or something I obviously wouldn’t ever ask for those to be deleted.

SeasonalVag · 09/04/2019 19:33

I quit when my son started school. He deserves to grow up in privacy and we discussed it a couple of years ago. I gave him the choice. Also, I think its healthy to show children that you need social media boundaries. My sister shares everything over FB and it really gives off a terrible impression which has caused problems in the past with her work. I want my kids to learn self restraint and not to develop the idea of pleasing an audience which is what too much FB trains you to do.

ThinkingNotSpeaking · 09/04/2019 19:33

No I don’t either. But I wouldn’t judge anyone else for doing so.

SeasonalVag · 09/04/2019 19:34

I'd hate to turn my kids into somebody like this:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3554373-He-vlogged-our-date

codswhallop · 09/04/2019 19:35

I have chosen not to as well, in fact I came off Facebook years ago but my friends put photos of my child on it despite my wishes and my partners. I hate that they do it and have fallen out with people over it.

TomorrowsDiet · 09/04/2019 19:36

I don’t post any photos of my DC online. I think there are only a newborn photo of each. I take multiple photos of them everyday and they’re in our cloud. They show up on our google home hub screens and we share via family WhatsApp groups. None of the memories are lost.

I don’t like how open Facebook etc is and it’s so easy to track through a whole host of background info about random strangers. I’ll let them make their own SM presence

Theladylady · 09/04/2019 19:36

No their adopted

m0therofdragons · 09/04/2019 19:37

Yes, I love the "memories" on Facebook and sharing my dc with my family across the world (we're a very spread out family). I do ask dd1's permission now she's 11 (have done for over a year). My privacy means it's fairly locked down but tbh dc have featured in magazine articles and online re travel features due to dh's previous job so I'm clearly happy for my dc's pics to be used so long as they're happy.

katmarie · 09/04/2019 19:37

My DS is 14 months. I don't post pictures of him on social media, bar two very carefully selected pictures, one to announce his birth, and one to thank the people who came to his first birthday. Both pictures are very simple, and I would hope, in no way embarrasing. I wanted him to have the choice of how much of his life he wanted to share when he's old enough to do so. On the whole, people have respected that too.

InternetArgument · 09/04/2019 19:38

No. I don’t use social media.

Daffopill · 09/04/2019 19:41

No

skippy67 · 09/04/2019 19:42

Yeah I do. We lived abroad for a while, so it was a nice way of keeping family back home updated. They're 18 and 21 now, and I still do occasionally.

WorraLiberty · 09/04/2019 19:42

I never did, because it's quite difficult to teach kids that personality, kindness, empathy, hard work etc is more important than looks, when you've posting images of them online all their lives, so your friends can post love hearts and 'gawjuss' on their photos, to make the parent feel better.

Then that parent is baffled as to why their teen is so obsessed with how many Instagram followers they have, and how they ended up obsessed with their own image.

WorraLiberty · 09/04/2019 19:44

And I'm sorry but I've never believed anyone who says they post their kid's images on SM for family members.

It's just as easy to email them but of course there'll be no likes and love hearts that way.

Jackshouse · 09/04/2019 19:46

No, none at all.

MuchTooTired · 09/04/2019 19:48

I personally don’t, and have requested that my family and friends don’t either which they’ve all respected although not all of them understand my reasonings why. I don’t judge anyone else who does, and wish in a funny kind of way that I was ok with it, because my kids are adorable Grin

Bobbiepin · 09/04/2019 19:48

I do, but not excessively. I have very strict privacy settings and am only friends with people I am friends with, no colleagues etc. Photos go up as 'friends only' and no hashtags on Instagram. I share much more with family via WhatsApp.

GruciusMalfoy · 09/04/2019 19:49

I do sometimes, but not that often and I'm mindful of what I post. I don't post very much on Facebook anymore, in any case. I'm the annoying lurker who reads other people's stuff and likes the odd thing.

FilthyforFirth · 09/04/2019 19:49

No as my son can't consent to it. I ask others not to post pics of him. In my opinon social media is for you, let your children decide when they are old enough for themselves. Once it's out there, it's there.

Personally cant bear over sharers and loathe scan pics. Such a personal thing to share.

TunstallTansy · 09/04/2019 19:50

No, never.

GreenTulips · 09/04/2019 19:52

A classmate of DDs was bullied badly over FB photos her mum posted
DDs photo was used for something vile (one she posted and someone defiled it)

So no I don’t post pictures unless their faces are almost hidden

IHaveBrilloHair · 09/04/2019 19:53

Yep loads, with her permission though, she's 17 and posts loads herself too.

Sarahjconnor · 09/04/2019 19:54

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Sleepyblueocean · 09/04/2019 19:54

A few but nothing that I would find embarrassing if the photo were of me. Ds will never be able to give his consent so it is up to me to make the decision.