Do you post pictures of your children on social media?

[Leefygreen]

I use social media quite a lot, I've been posting pictures of DC since I started to use facebook and then instagram so when my oldest was around 4 and there's pictures of my other children from birth to now. It's nice to have them there to look back on but I do wonder sometimes whether I should, I find some of my own childhood pictures a bit embarrasing. My DC aren't too bothered by it, youngest is too young understand, middle one couldn't care less, my oldest is a teenager now so she cares a little more and I ask her permission before posting anything of her. Most people I know also post pictures of their DC regularly, I only know a couple who don't at all

I never have. I want them to have control over what goes online. And they are too young (oldest is 8) to consent.

Anyone who thinks privacy settings actually mean anything is mistaken.

“I don’t know anyone who doesn’t post pics of their kids, and no one even blinks at it. In the real world it’s a completely normal thing to do and certainly nothing to do with ego or getting attention.“

Hardly any of my friends post pics. The ones who did back in say, 2009 don’t do it anymore. I think a lot more people are realising the long term impacts of these decisions and the possible future implications of these pics.

I rarely put pics of DD on social media (she’s 7) and when I do it’s usually either for a birthday or to celebrate something and with her permission. Because of the job I do my privacy settings are high but I don’t want to run the risk of over sharing.

I would probably a small number of times a year, on a big occasion maybe, that way people abroad etc get to see pics, but it's not overkill

One thing people don't realise is once you take and post a picture it doesn't matter if you delete it, its there forever my DH had a friend who could hack your phone with your phone number and see everything you had ever deleted, once I knew that I deleted social media and was a lot more careful of what I took pictures of.

I do but I'm quite strict with what I will post, I couldn't be one of these that has photos of them in the bath, nappy explosions I don't getthat it's degrading them online. although fb has enabled me to keep contact with members of my family daily who live far away, its nice that they can like, comment on my pics and vice versa.

why would posting cutesy photos to SM of your kids mean you can't instill self worth as there growing up? what a strange way to view wanting to share nice photos.

I used to put loads up but have really gone off social media lately so don’t any more.

My main issue is around why we use social media - it is designed to be addictive, to show off the edited highlights and I agree with worra, people are doing it for the likes most of the time. My in laws, in their 50s, will regularly mention how many likes a post has received. I’ve deleted the Instagram and Facebook apps from my phone...I do still check Facebook but haven’t looked at insta for ages and I don’t miss it.

So mine isn’t a consent issue (sorry DS, I’ve already blown that!), it’s more of a “social media is bad” stance and if I’m on it all the time, I won’t have a leg to stand on when he wants an account!

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why would posting cutesy photos to SM of your kids mean you can't instill self worth as there growing up? what a strange way to view wanting to share nice photos.

Because so many teens and young adults are already really body/image conscious.

As much as that's pretty much always been the case, social media has really magnified it and can cause low self-esteem, low feelings of self-worth, EDs, depression etc, as they're trying to look like the images they're constantly seeing.

So who's going to comfort and reassure them that they're worth so much more than their looks and that looks don't really matter?

The parents who spent most of that teenagers life posting their images online, so everyone could admire them??

Teenagers/young adults aren't stupid.

Not until she was a teenager and I asked for her permission to put a pic up. There’s 5 photos in total now my page is private. None of when she was small I don’t agree with putting images online without the persons permission

I do, but not too often maybe once every few months, both don’t care, the only one who cares is my sister (15) and as she’s usually with us I ask her first. I only have people I know and have actually met on my Facebook so no random people seeing my kids 😊

I don’t. I never announced a pregnancy or birth for dd. Most people online other than those I see have no idea I’ve got a child.

@Cottonwood that's a screenshot from google, I was going to use a screenshot from my IG but realised I'd need to cover the names

Sometimes I/other people will "react" to a story with an emoji or type a reply

www.harpersbazaar.com/uk/celebrities/news/a26940880/gwyneth-paltrow-daughter-apple-tells-her-off-on-instagram/

Oh ok older so not real names presumably

Astonishing that this question even needs to be asked. Of course you shouldn’t do it. It’s obvious.

I dont post photos of my children so people can 'admire them' I understand your argument if people are simply posting flawless photos to their SM, but me and others included aren't really doing that. each to their own.

I do on Facebook but it’s frustrating how more and more of my own page is becoming public. Even having my profile picture set to Friends Only and Facebook still shows everyone. As it is, I post the pics mostly for my kids’ paternal family to see, as they don’t see them often, I don’t have anybody on there that I don’t physically know and I no longer tag people in their pics, or post anywhere near as much as I used to.

So why are you choosing social media to post them?

Can you honestly say you're doing it with your DC's best interests at heart?

Because they are the subject of the photos, so their best interests should surely come first?

Not Uncle Bob and Auntie Doris from Dagenham, who you could easily email pics to, if they really want to see them.

Sorry, my post was to staydazzling

stay but why do you post pictures if not for other people to ‘admire’ them? Why is it considered necessary to post pictures at all? . If a specific friend or relative wants a photo of your child, or day out at the zoo, or whatever, you could send them one privately. I don’t understand this endless obsession with posting photos all the time.

Worra you said you post pictures of yourself. So people can admire you?

oops no-one can set their profile picture to friends only, or their cover photo - everyone's are public.

I don't post photos so that people can 'admire' them either - how weird! I run a lot and my running communities are my main interest on FB, believe you me there's not a lot of admiring to be done appearance wise when you've run 20 miles on a hot day! Admiration at the distance possibly but certainly not how you look!