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New neighbour told out to shut up in a unfriendly manner!

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JK2012 · 08/04/2019 18:44

Hi, so we have new people behind us. Our gardens are quite long but back onto each other. I haven’t seen much of them yet. They don’t seem to be home much and I don’t like talking over the fence.

Today, we were out for a couple hours and came home. I let our dog out as I always do, she’s a Jack Russell, she can be pretty yappy at times (mainly when she sees people rather than dogs) but she’s never let out too early or too late so doesn’t disturb the neighbours and she’s never left outside barking for long. If she barks we call her in. There are dogs in most houses around here. She ran straight up to the back fence which I thought was odd and started barking - new neighbor and his dog doing something at the back of their garden by the looks of i at first glance. I couldn’t see them very well behind the tall fence and behind the trampoline so he probably couldn’t see me by my back door. Anyway, my dog starts to bark (she wouldn’t hurt a fly, just a bit annoying at times but his dog didn’t bark back). I put my shoes back on to call her over but I heard the new neighbour telling my dog to shut the f**k up just as I was about to call her. I called her back and neighbour must of realised I was there and heard him. I’m pretty sure he wasn’t talking to his dog as the dog hadn’t reacted (it’s geeat he has such a well behaved dog).

Now, I’m not easily offended, far from it. I didn’t think much of it at the time as I was busy but now I’ve come to think of it’s rid quite rude.

Yes my dog can bark at times but she’s never left out to bark. She doesn’t go out early, or too late and she doesn’t bark indoors or anything. Just around new people as she’s more nervous of people than dogs. If it was just the dog she would of been fine!

Aibu to think he was being rude? I’m not the type of person to ever bring this up with them but I’m worried what they will think of us. Often in the summer, the dog and D.C. run around the garden having fun. They will probably hate us 😂

OP posts:
daisypond · 08/04/2019 19:48

I think 20 seconds is a long time for a dog to bark.

MrsBertBibby · 08/04/2019 19:48

You can't do much to stop a cat shitting where it likes.

You can train a dog to shut up.

So sort your dog out.

ILoveMaxiBondi · 08/04/2019 19:48

My neighbours cat shits in our garden all the time.

But I bet it’s a lovely affectionate, playful cat.

cricketballs3 · 08/04/2019 19:49

another dog owner here to say YABU - I hear ND's dog when there is a delivery and she sometimes barks outside but not for long as does my dog, the westie a few doors down and the dogs at the back also have some vocal tendencies however yap, yap, yap as soon as I enter my garden would also have me saying STFU (I will also say that to my own dog, but in a nice manner!

FluffyBumps · 08/04/2019 19:49

Dog barking for 20 seconds 8s 20 seconds too long.

Dog barking when the door knocks - annoying as fuck. My nectddo neighbours dog does this...Yes INSIDEthier house but we can still hear it.

JRs are just another Yap Rat. I'm absolutely sick to the back teeth of hearing little yappy dogs yap.

HarrysOwl · 08/04/2019 19:50

My neighbours cat shits in our garden all the time.

But I bet it’s a lovely affectionate, playful cat.

A-huh, it wouldn't hurt a fly.

ILoveMaxiBondi · 08/04/2019 19:50

OP you need to put screening up to block your dogs view of the neighbours gardens if the sight of people makes it bark.

IceIceCoffee · 08/04/2019 19:51

It’s always the little dog owners that underestimate how annoying their little ankle biter isGrin
I have two big dogs one had a barking problem before I got him. He’s better now. Still has his struggles but I don’t allow it to be a problem for others as he’s told to be quiet straight away or is made to come inside if i see any cues.

multiplemum3 · 08/04/2019 19:52

Who cares if your dog is lovely and loyal and wouldn't hurt a fly. Another obnoxious owner with an equally obnoxious dog.

JustAWaferThinMint · 08/04/2019 19:53

Your dog does not bark. It is a JR. It yaps. A stupid, high pitched, shrill yap on high speed repeat.

Occasional barking is fine. A low voiced bark is far less irritating as it does not penetrate and hurt (yes, literally hurt) my ears.

MitziK · 08/04/2019 19:54

I even tell TwatCat to STFU when he's bellowing at me from the garden. There's a little, yappy thing (yep, a JRT) from the people on the corner, as it launches at the fence when you walk along the pavement. Because it's a tall fence, you don't see it, it makes you jump and because it's a JRT, the sound pierces the eardrums in the way a larger dog's WOOF doesn't.

There are larger dogs in the area that want to maintain the tradition of the Twilight Bark. It's vaguely annoying, but it's just at the end of the day and ends soon enough as the neighbourhood cats and foxes move on. But 20 seconds of yip yip yip yip yip yip yip yip yip yip yipyip yip yip yipyip yipyip yippettyyipyip yip yip? Bollocks to that.

SoupDragon · 08/04/2019 19:54

but the guy was the back of his fence

What a bastard! Fancy being at the end of his garden by the fence.

Janleverton · 08/04/2019 19:54

Neighbours dog doesn’t need to see us. It hears us if we walk on the grass, open the back door. Anything. Was worse before we put up a close boarded 6ft fence but still goes on.

Ninninannanoonoo · 08/04/2019 19:55

But the shitting doesn't make a noise does it? Yap, yap, yap, yap. yap. What bit of this does anyone find appealing?

TeachesOfPeaches · 08/04/2019 19:56

My landlord upstairs has several
Dogs which are left to bark in the garden. I HATE IT and I'm looking for somewhere new to live.

azulmariposa · 08/04/2019 19:57

You don't find your dog barking annoying. The rest of the neighbours probably do.

Also, he should be able to go in his garden without being barked at.

Stop your dog from barking, then you won't have a problem with him.

NCforthis2019 · 08/04/2019 19:57

20 seconds?! of a JR barking?! good fucking god - that's LONG. JR's are notorious for being annoying and yappy - i say this as a dog owner myself (i have two) - even i would have told your dog to shut the fuck up.

abbey44 · 08/04/2019 19:57

As I said earlier, it's all very well to give the OP hell for her yappy dog - we all agree that a yapping Jack Russell is not music to the ears - but why don't all of you who've trained your dogs not to bark (or yap) give a few helpful suggestions as to how she can stop hers too? You must have some tricks up your sleeves that you could share with us all?

userxx · 08/04/2019 19:58

Op, nobody seems to like JR's on this thread. I'd personally have told the guy to fuck off himself after saying that to my dog. I live next door to a yappy dog, he's a dog and that's what they do.

MissConductUS · 08/04/2019 20:00

My neighbours cat shits in our garden all the time. So I’m not keen on cats

It's not an issue for ours, as we live in the woods and they are indoor only cats.

Brilliantidiot · 08/04/2019 20:02

Not all JRs are yappy, I have one, and I trained her the same way I trained the bigger dogs I've had. She barks when the gate goes, and when the knob from down the road allows his two toilet brushes on legs to approach my gate, barking their heads off at my dog.
The other one is a gobshite. And I fully accept that, she's now 14, and I always struggled with her vocal tendancies, though she got significantly better. Now a combination of age and her going deaf means she barks randomly, literally while having a wee this afternoon! She can't hear me when I tell her 'no' unless I shout, which is hardly any better. They never go out unsupervised, and are brought in if I see someone that might set the older dog off, the JR just stands at the gate wagging at someone walking past.
But, then I am surrounded by other dogs that are left out to bark, and bark at anyone walking past. JR doesn't react unless it goes on for ages, in which case she'll give one, seemingly frustrated bark. The older dog can't hear them unless they're being excessive.
I try not to disturb my neighbours, but with the older dog, it's getting harder and harder to predict when she'll bark - she's straight in when she does though.

ILoveMaxiBondi · 08/04/2019 20:02

but why don't all of you who've trained your dogs not to bark (or yap) give a few helpful suggestions as to how she can stop hers too?

The internet is brimming with dog training advice. Seriously, if you actually wanted to stop your dog barking you wouldn’t need to ask anyone on a parenting forum. A quick google will do. Anyway, OP teach a quiet command and if you like a bark command which allows him to bark but only when you say so. Try Victoria Stilwell or all dogs go to Kevin. But there really are so many websites out there.

HexagonalBattenburg · 08/04/2019 20:03

Oh yappy barking is the most annoying kind. I like dogs, I have a dog who genuinely doesn't bark (greyhound and they're not a known barking bunch anyway... at least in the woofing kind - she's barking bloody mad) and someone round here has a yap-monster who they let go on for bloody 30 minutes at a time - late night, early morning, during the day - and it is so annoying and squeaky. Add in the fact someone's obviously just moved in with a new cat locally so there's a battle for moggy supremacy and territory going on as well and between the yapping and yowling we're all being driven quite mad.

werideatdawn · 08/04/2019 20:03

Yanbu. Your neighbour shouldn't be enjoying his garden. He's a cheeky fucker.

ILoveMaxiBondi · 08/04/2019 20:04

and when the knob from down the road allows his two toilet brushes on legs to approach my gate

Are they poodles? Grin

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