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New neighbour told out to shut up in a unfriendly manner!

374 replies

JK2012 · 08/04/2019 18:44

Hi, so we have new people behind us. Our gardens are quite long but back onto each other. I haven’t seen much of them yet. They don’t seem to be home much and I don’t like talking over the fence.

Today, we were out for a couple hours and came home. I let our dog out as I always do, she’s a Jack Russell, she can be pretty yappy at times (mainly when she sees people rather than dogs) but she’s never let out too early or too late so doesn’t disturb the neighbours and she’s never left outside barking for long. If she barks we call her in. There are dogs in most houses around here. She ran straight up to the back fence which I thought was odd and started barking - new neighbor and his dog doing something at the back of their garden by the looks of i at first glance. I couldn’t see them very well behind the tall fence and behind the trampoline so he probably couldn’t see me by my back door. Anyway, my dog starts to bark (she wouldn’t hurt a fly, just a bit annoying at times but his dog didn’t bark back). I put my shoes back on to call her over but I heard the new neighbour telling my dog to shut the f**k up just as I was about to call her. I called her back and neighbour must of realised I was there and heard him. I’m pretty sure he wasn’t talking to his dog as the dog hadn’t reacted (it’s geeat he has such a well behaved dog).

Now, I’m not easily offended, far from it. I didn’t think much of it at the time as I was busy but now I’ve come to think of it’s rid quite rude.

Yes my dog can bark at times but she’s never left out to bark. She doesn’t go out early, or too late and she doesn’t bark indoors or anything. Just around new people as she’s more nervous of people than dogs. If it was just the dog she would of been fine!

Aibu to think he was being rude? I’m not the type of person to ever bring this up with them but I’m worried what they will think of us. Often in the summer, the dog and D.C. run around the garden having fun. They will probably hate us 😂

OP posts:
Slicedpineapple · 08/04/2019 19:17

I think the way to try and look at this OP is to put on a doggy mindset. I sound like I am taking the piss, but I'm not. If this really bothered you enough to post about then it's worth a go - teach your dog not to bark and learn not to hang on to these things.

My dog absolutely loves life and doesn't get offended. He sees something a bit weird and thinks 'woah, that's weird' and then about 5 seconds later he goes 'wow a fucking butterfly that's the best thing I have ever seen, best day of my life'.

Whenever I get annoyed I take my dog for a walk and realise how absolutely amazing they think the world is and then it's hard to stay annoyed. Because you could be having a really shit day but oh my god, a flower, amazing.

Janleverton · 08/04/2019 19:18

How was he to know that within 20 seconds the dog would stop barking since at the point he told said dog to shut the fuck up, the dog hadn’t been stopped by you?

Slicedpineapple · 08/04/2019 19:18

May I add, my son was also in the garden when he swore. He might not of seen me but my son was out there and heard it as well! Swearing in front of a child...

You just said he didn't know you were there so how would have have known your kid was either. Either way - he can say what he wants - he was in his own garden and wasn't talking to either of you.

AirBiscuit · 08/04/2019 19:19

I think if there was some fucking yappy jack russell barking away at the end of my garden then my language would be fruity as well

SmileEachDay · 08/04/2019 19:19

He swore at your dog - not at you - at your dog

You do know dogs can’t understand English, right?

ILoveMaxiBondi · 08/04/2019 19:20

She barked for about 20 seconds before I called her over to come in!

Doesn’t matter. Would you tolerate someone aggressively swearing at you over your garden fence for 20 seconds just because you dared to be in your own garden? I highly doubt it. I reckon you’d have something to say about that. Yapping dogs are the same. They’re basically telling the person they’re barking at to fuck off out of “their” (the dog’s) territory. They think it’s their space and they are telling people to get out. Your dog is poorly trained and barb mannered. And he was called on it Wink

formerbabe · 08/04/2019 19:21

I regularly mutter under my breath "shut the fuck up" when I hear ndn barking dogs...can't help it Grin

UrsulaPandress · 08/04/2019 19:21

I was only thinking today that I could never have a small dog as I can’t stand the yapping.

Is your dog easily offended?

GabriellaMontez · 08/04/2019 19:22

I can't think of a more appropriate thing to say to a barking jr

abbey44 · 08/04/2019 19:23

I get that dogs barking is annoying. I have one of my own, and she does at times, though it's not a little dog yap. But if there's someone at the gate, or walking past the fence at the end of the garden, yes, she barks.

For those who are saying it's easy to train them not to, please share your secrets with the rest of us. I'm sure our neighbours would be very grateful.

ILoveMaxiBondi · 08/04/2019 19:23

Bad mannered! But barb sounds appropriate Grin

Bringbackthestripes · 08/04/2019 19:26

She barked for about 20 seconds before I called her over to come in!

Doesn’t matter how long it was. She went right over to the fence and started yapping at him, his dog never woofed!

We now have a yapping dog at the back of us, the first second it starts I think FFS!

Every time I hang my washing out or open a window or sit in the garden or step outside YAP.YAP.YAP FUCKING YAP.

People who have dogs that yap are rude.

AnnieMay100 · 08/04/2019 19:26

Yabu and sound entitled tbh I think you need to apologise to the neighbour and explain how you’ll stop the dog barking at them whenever they use their garden or you’ll end up with far bigger problems

Hazlenutpie · 08/04/2019 19:26

A yappy Jack Russell is my idea of hell on legs.

JK2012 · 08/04/2019 19:27

I can assure everyone I am not a terrible dog owner who lets my dog bark and always calls her in. She’s never left outside when we are out, ever. She doesn’t bark inside the house, well unless the door knocks and that’s only the postman who loves her anyway as he’s known her since a pup. Never at night, or early morning. She’s a sweet thing who has never hurt a fly, just nervous of new people. She doesn’t react to dogs. If it was just the dog in the garden, she wouldn’t of barked.

Every house around here has a dog. My neighbour has five, with no issues with us, another has a terrier type and one family who’s garden slightly backs onto us has a jack Russel amongst all the others in the distance. There is always dogs barking, more so than mine!

OP posts:
BasilBrushes · 08/04/2019 19:27

DS wants a small dog. He isn’t getting one because of the annoying yapping.

I don’t think your dog was offended.

eggsandwich · 08/04/2019 19:28

Your not my neighbour are you? One of our neighbour’s to the side of us has a jack russell, to be fair the lady always calls the dog in when he starts barking, but whenever I’m in the garden it does nothing but bark and I’ve told it to shut up a few times as well.

We’re surrounded by dogs but the others I don’t hear much off them just the jack russell, I don’t know if they usually bark alot as a breed but does grate on me after a while.

qazxc · 08/04/2019 19:28

Yappy dogs set my teeth on edge, and twenty seconds would seem like a long time.
He didn't know you where there, and as PP's have said it'snot like the dog can understand.
It's also unclear that he would have known that your DS was there too. I don't know how old DS is, but could he not have stopped the dog from barking or brought him back inside as soon as he started barking?

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 08/04/2019 19:29

Corrr !
I think this is an AIBU "Yes You Are" Full House!

I often curse NDN dog , he doesn't listen, I;m sure he Not A Monkeys Gives.

It makes me feel a 100% better anyway .

ILoveMaxiBondi · 08/04/2019 19:29

There is always dogs barking, more so than mine!

So are you saying he shouldn’t have addressed your dog that was actually barking at him because there are other dogs around who bark too? Confused he just has to accept being barked at?

SoupDragon · 08/04/2019 19:29

20 seconds is actually a long time for fucking yapping. Next door's dog has a horrible yappy terrier bark. My dog likes to stand in silence and watch him yapping away. The neighbours very rarely stop the fucking thing.

FizzyGreenWater · 08/04/2019 19:30

Get a less annoying dog?

Sorry OP but you are getting a roasting on here partly because of all the dogs in the world, Jack Russells are the ones most people would just love to fucking slap! They are absolute little shits without exception Grin

megrichardson · 08/04/2019 19:30

Thank you for this thread, OP, it is a timely reminder to check that there are no dogs owned by neighbours in the vicinity when I am viewing houses next. The sound of a barking/yapping dog is sheer hell.

SoupDragon · 08/04/2019 19:31

If it was just the dog in the garden, she wouldn’t of barked.

So, the neighbours are at fault for being human and in their garden?

NaturalBornWoman · 08/04/2019 19:32

There's a dog in the garden next to the bottom end of ours and it barks if we go down there. Sometimes it's sudden and makes me jump. I always tell it to shut up, usually call it horrible or obnoxious, and speak loudly so that the owner can hear. Don't let your dog bark at your neighbours who are in their own garden. It's not acceptable.