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New neighbour told out to shut up in a unfriendly manner!

374 replies

JK2012 · 08/04/2019 18:44

Hi, so we have new people behind us. Our gardens are quite long but back onto each other. I haven’t seen much of them yet. They don’t seem to be home much and I don’t like talking over the fence.

Today, we were out for a couple hours and came home. I let our dog out as I always do, she’s a Jack Russell, she can be pretty yappy at times (mainly when she sees people rather than dogs) but she’s never let out too early or too late so doesn’t disturb the neighbours and she’s never left outside barking for long. If she barks we call her in. There are dogs in most houses around here. She ran straight up to the back fence which I thought was odd and started barking - new neighbor and his dog doing something at the back of their garden by the looks of i at first glance. I couldn’t see them very well behind the tall fence and behind the trampoline so he probably couldn’t see me by my back door. Anyway, my dog starts to bark (she wouldn’t hurt a fly, just a bit annoying at times but his dog didn’t bark back). I put my shoes back on to call her over but I heard the new neighbour telling my dog to shut the f**k up just as I was about to call her. I called her back and neighbour must of realised I was there and heard him. I’m pretty sure he wasn’t talking to his dog as the dog hadn’t reacted (it’s geeat he has such a well behaved dog).

Now, I’m not easily offended, far from it. I didn’t think much of it at the time as I was busy but now I’ve come to think of it’s rid quite rude.

Yes my dog can bark at times but she’s never left out to bark. She doesn’t go out early, or too late and she doesn’t bark indoors or anything. Just around new people as she’s more nervous of people than dogs. If it was just the dog she would of been fine!

Aibu to think he was being rude? I’m not the type of person to ever bring this up with them but I’m worried what they will think of us. Often in the summer, the dog and D.C. run around the garden having fun. They will probably hate us 😂

OP posts:
userxx · 09/04/2019 13:54

@whatawolly but the op isn't pissing off to work all day or leaving the dog to bark while watching TV. She stated the dog was barking for 20 seconds.

whatawolly · 09/04/2019 14:02

It's 20 seconds too long, as soon as the dog starts barking it should be brought inside and told off

Original poster
JK2012 · 09/04/2019 14:22

I did bring her in and told her off. She’s been let out 3-4 times today and not barked once. She isn’t constantly barking. She doesn’t bark indoors! I’m at home most of the time, so she’s never left alone for long and I’m pretty sure she doesn’t bark when left alone. She can’t see anything from the kitchen. Our windows are too high up for her reach up to (above the sink and kitchen units) and I keep the blinds down on the the patio doors when we are out! She’s always in the same position I left her. She’s not as bad you all think 🤣

OP posts:
cheeseypizza · 09/04/2019 15:08

OP what's so hillarious ?

userxx · 09/04/2019 15:08

@ whatawolly I cant believe how uptight people are, if 20 seconds of barking winds you up so much. How do you get through the day?

Mia1415 · 09/04/2019 15:10

OP you were not in the wrong. You sound like a responsible dog owner and I'd ignore all the dog haters on this thread.

However I don't think I'd have gotten offended by the neighbour shouting at the dog. I'm sure he was probably very embarrassed when he realised you were in the garden.

CottonSock · 09/04/2019 15:15

I am having flash backs to my ex ndn Jack Russell. Barked every time I went outside. I couldn't use the garden. Since then 20 seconds is too long for me to tolerate.

ILoveMaxiBondi · 09/04/2019 15:29

She’s not as bad you all think 🤣

No-one thinks she’s bad. The responses are all about the barking that you say happened at the neighbour and his response.

ILoveMaxiBondi · 09/04/2019 15:30

My NDN dog is currently yapping his little ass off because my son is playing in my garden Hmm I’m about to go out and tell him to shut the heck up Wink

Mememeplease · 09/04/2019 15:38

You are over thinking this. There are lots of dogs nearby. There is lot of barking. He doesn't differentiate between which dog just, as far as he knows, says to himself out loud "shut the fuck up". It's not personal to you - it's the situation in general. And actually I don't blame him.

SnowyAlpsandPeaks · 09/04/2019 16:06

I had a JRT and the trick is to train them EARLY. She could bark twice and we would say her name, she’d stop and look at us and we’d give her the ‘look’- you know the ‘school teacher look’ when you’ve been caught talking. She’d then stop. When she was out on her walks every day running around barking with other dogs that was fine.

But the funniest was if she was caught doing something wrong. For example she (nor our other 2 dogs) were not allowed upstairs. Sometimes we’d come home and she’d come running down the stairs, stop at the last two and slowly take them to the floor, where she would go on her belly ‘sniper style’ and crawl past us, down the hallway way, through the lounge, through he living room onto her bed. Then curl up in a ball and close her eyes as if sleeping.

First time we cried with laughter, and 12 years later we were still crying with laughter each time she done it. It was only after she died did we realise we never recorded it, which I’m a little bit gutted about.

But OP when a dog yaps for 20 seconds, it’s a lonnngg 20 seconds. Plus owners always underestimate the length of time their dogs bark as we are so used to it, we ignore it (a bit like a child saying mum mum mum mum!?)

LakieLady · 09/04/2019 16:28

I have a lakeland terrier (used to have 2) and they're a very barky breed.

We trained them not to bark by bribing them with biscuits when they go out and come back in without barking. Unfortunately, they're also cunning little gits and both of them learned to go out, remain silent, and come back in again, just to get a biscuit. I suspect they thought they'd trained us.

It might work for your JR though, OP.

outpinked · 09/04/2019 16:31

I hate Jack Russells. There’s barking, then there’s the incessant yapping of a JR. I’m with the neighbour.

avocadochocolate · 09/04/2019 17:30

Neighbour has probably had a bad day and just wanted some quiet time in the garden. And then your pet appears....

It's really not a big deal.....

YABU.

Bozlem80 · 09/04/2019 17:42

I’m the same as your neighbour, one of our neighbours have 4 dogs that not only bark in the day but at night too 11pm & between 3-4am is their favourite time to do it, I’ve complained to the council time & time again but nothing is ever done! It’s extremely annoying especially when want to sit in the garden or actually get a good nights sleep!

glittermagic · 09/04/2019 17:45

Not rude as he didn't know you were there

Dottierichardson · 09/04/2019 17:51

YANBU I'm sure that your neighbour will do/does annoying noisy things and would be offended if you swore at him, I would ignore him, you're a responsible dog owner, he's an uptight control freak. If he goes on bothering you then plant a row of Leylandi or similar on the boundary, to block him out, if he complains tell him they cut down sound transmission which you know he's sensitive to...

Tessabelle74 · 09/04/2019 17:52

My neighbours mother regularly babysits and has a yappy chihuahua, it IS annoying and I regularly tell it to stfu, it appears to only speak Mexican though as it doesn't stop it!

JenniferJareau · 09/04/2019 17:58

I love this card

New neighbour told out to shut up in a unfriendly manner!
Winniethepee · 09/04/2019 18:02

So your 'yappy Jack Russell' doesn't annoy most neighbours? You sure?
Too diffident to say more like. The new neighbour more honest,and maybe unaware of your presence behind fence.
My elderly neighbour 'babysits' a Jack Russell a couple of days a week. It's barking destroys my enjoyment of my garden,and,in fact,I go out on many occasions just to get away from it. You sound like a totally selfish individual to be honest. Control your dog!

MrsSarahSiddons · 09/04/2019 18:10

I really really hope some Jack Russell owners are reading this and feeling ashamed. I’m another poster with a selfish Jack Russell owner nearby. They let it out into the garden for hours, and it barks at everyone that goes past, at every car that starts its engine, at every plane that flies overhead. It’s not the dog’s fault, it’s clearly an innate characteristic of the breed and these people are too lazy and selfish to train it out of them. You know who you are, you selfish nasty unneighbourly gits and you should not be allowed to own a dog.

frenchonion · 09/04/2019 18:11

Sit with your watch and wait for 20 seconds to go by...thats quite a long time! 20 barks at one yip per second. Go out in the garden with the dog. One yip and it's recalled. Dog will soon learn.

theweeenglishfella · 09/04/2019 18:12

Bloody hate Jack Russells. Yappy, bitey wee feckers.

Sedat · 09/04/2019 18:12

We have a dog. He is a puppy. He barks at our neighbours. We train him with QUIET!! Dogs should be trained when to bark. .

imamum21 · 09/04/2019 18:14

my neighbours got a dog (weimaraner) he only ever barked when someone was at the door or if he heard us in the garden, i always spoke to him and he stopped and it didnt bother me. then the nightmare began.... they got a puppy one and the thing howled and barked all day everyday from the minute they went to work til the minute they came back, i banged on the wall, shouted through the wall, rattled there door one night telling them to shut the thing up as i had now heard it 11 hours straight by this point and told them i would report them to the noise team. it also kept me up during the night as the breeder had cuddled him during the night etc so he was used to that. then to my surprise they moved i now have an empty house next door and i can sleep and enjoy my house peacefully.