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New neighbour told out to shut up in a unfriendly manner!

374 replies

JK2012 · 08/04/2019 18:44

Hi, so we have new people behind us. Our gardens are quite long but back onto each other. I haven’t seen much of them yet. They don’t seem to be home much and I don’t like talking over the fence.

Today, we were out for a couple hours and came home. I let our dog out as I always do, she’s a Jack Russell, she can be pretty yappy at times (mainly when she sees people rather than dogs) but she’s never let out too early or too late so doesn’t disturb the neighbours and she’s never left outside barking for long. If she barks we call her in. There are dogs in most houses around here. She ran straight up to the back fence which I thought was odd and started barking - new neighbor and his dog doing something at the back of their garden by the looks of i at first glance. I couldn’t see them very well behind the tall fence and behind the trampoline so he probably couldn’t see me by my back door. Anyway, my dog starts to bark (she wouldn’t hurt a fly, just a bit annoying at times but his dog didn’t bark back). I put my shoes back on to call her over but I heard the new neighbour telling my dog to shut the f**k up just as I was about to call her. I called her back and neighbour must of realised I was there and heard him. I’m pretty sure he wasn’t talking to his dog as the dog hadn’t reacted (it’s geeat he has such a well behaved dog).

Now, I’m not easily offended, far from it. I didn’t think much of it at the time as I was busy but now I’ve come to think of it’s rid quite rude.

Yes my dog can bark at times but she’s never left out to bark. She doesn’t go out early, or too late and she doesn’t bark indoors or anything. Just around new people as she’s more nervous of people than dogs. If it was just the dog she would of been fine!

Aibu to think he was being rude? I’m not the type of person to ever bring this up with them but I’m worried what they will think of us. Often in the summer, the dog and D.C. run around the garden having fun. They will probably hate us 😂

OP posts:
Ferii · 08/04/2019 21:32

Your dog needs to shut the fuck up. Your neighbour did nothing wrong and I've said much worse to my neighbour's dogs lol

I'm a dog owner myself. My dog sometimes barks but not often or for long and we've trained her to shut up when we say "quiet" so its not a problem. Go round to your neighbour, introduce yourself and your dog, apologise and get some training.

sighrollseyes · 08/04/2019 21:34

Dogs barking = literally worst most annoying thing ever! I'd tell it to shut the fuck up too!

Justmuddlingalong · 08/04/2019 21:35

😁

New neighbour told out to shut up in a unfriendly manner!
Wolfiefan · 08/04/2019 21:36

Don’t leave her out there at all alone. You can’t let her bark. It’s bloody annoying. What are you failing to understand?

Giddyuppp · 08/04/2019 21:39

I love dogs but regular barking goes right through me to my bones, unfortunately even more so if it's a small terrier type dog.

I don't think your neighbour was being rude, as they weren't expecting you to hear, but maybe you need to bear in mind it's obviously annoyed them.

FlibbertyGiblets · 08/04/2019 21:40

Slicedpineapple I loved your post about being more Dog. [heart eyes]

NameChangeNugget · 08/04/2019 21:44

Bad form to leave a yappy dog to yap. YABU

Chlo1674 · 08/04/2019 21:47

One of my NDN has two yappy dogs and every single time they will bark if someone walks along the field at the end of their garden. It’s so annoying especially when I’m working. There’s been many a tint when I have felt tempted to stick my head out the window and yell to those dogs to shut the f* up.

Slicedpineapple · 08/04/2019 21:48

FlibbertyGiblets thank you! My boy has taught me how to see the best in everything and not sweat the small stuff

ScarletBitch · 08/04/2019 21:50

Oh fgs Biscuit

cheeseypizza · 08/04/2019 22:07

YABVVVU

itssoooofluffy · 08/04/2019 22:10

OP YABVVVU to ask for an opinion then ignore absolutely everyone.
Your dog barked at someone. It doesn’t matter for how long or how often. Your neighbour was well within his rights to tell it to shut up. You have no right to be upset by this, you started it when you failed to train your dog.

DanielRicciardosSmile · 08/04/2019 22:20

It's another one of those threads:

OP: AIBU?
Everybody: YABU.
OP: IANBU.

Also, you didn't know he was there yet he should have somehow sensed your child was there and not sworn "in front" of them?

Bringbackthestripes · 08/04/2019 22:27

am 99 percent sure she doesn’t bark when we are out. She is always asleep in the same spot I left her when we get back

Reminds me of when I overheard our neighbour from 3 houses down saying that her immediate neighbours had complained about their dog barking when they were out. She actually said ‘well DH works nights occasionally so sometimes he’s in bed and she wouldn’t know he was up there and he said she never barks’ - every time we pulled on our drive 3 houses away she barked! We could hear her from outside, I’m sure she was tucked up in her bed when they got home and yes, she would know when someone was upstairs in bed. Poor semi detached neighbour.

Op :my dog doesn’t yap for long
MN: yapping dogs are annoying YABU
Op: no I’m not because she’s lovely and neighbours have yapping dogs too
MN:yours is still F-ing annoying
Op: the 235 of you that have replied saying my yapping dog is annoying are wrong.

Ffs.

lololove · 08/04/2019 22:50

I can't leave my bedroom window open during the summer (or anytime of year) as my next door neighbour lets her dog out about 5.30am and it barks solidly for a good 30+ minutes. Even pointing it out to her and asking her to stop has had no effect. It barks solidly all day too - anyone walks past the house and it goes mental for ages afterwards. She leaves the house and it goes mental. The postie etc comes and it goes mental. Someone comes to the houses either side (mine and nd but 1) and it goes mental.

I have two of my own and they're never allowed to bark for ages , not that they're overly bothered or barky dogs tbf. And one is half yorkie too.

She's currently having ... funtimefrankie... with her new boyfriend in the room next door to mine as we speak so she's not exactly bothered about how much noise she makes full stop. She's been asked to at least move the headboard away from the wall for that too but still bangbangbang.

Neighbours, hey?!

Babynut1 · 08/04/2019 22:53

Nothing worse than not being able to enjoy peace and quiet in the garden in the summer because the wankers next door to me have yappy dogs.
Other people’s dogs noise is annoying.
I just don’t get the appeal of yappy dogs, I’d have told the dog to shut the fuck up too!

TildaKauskumholm · 08/04/2019 22:58

Of all the horrible dogs, Jack Russells must be the worst, God I am so glad we have no neighbours (after moving several times to get away from crap neighbours and their crap dogs.) People shouldn't be allowed to keep dogs unless they are properly trained

BasilBrushes · 08/04/2019 23:16

It's another one of those threads:

OP: AIBU?
Everybody: YABU.
OP: IANBU.

You forgot the 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 after every post. Because apparently the whole thing is hilarious!

lablablab · 08/04/2019 23:26

What's your definition of not too early or too late though?

Vehivle · 08/04/2019 23:32

I have a nervous who does bark in the garden. I always call him in immediately. If I heard my NDN say stfu - I'd be mortified not offended and would apologise immediately for my dogs barking. I know how annoying it can be for those who don't own the dog.

whitesoxx · 08/04/2019 23:37

YABU

jessicawessica · 08/04/2019 23:37

You say your dogs are never out barking too early or too late. What about those people who work from home who have to listen to incessant yapping whilst you are out of the house working?
Very annoying.

Singlenotsingle · 08/04/2019 23:48

Yapping dogs can be so annoying! The neighbour was being rude to your dog, but it's alright, the dog didn't understand.

Cherrysoup · 08/04/2019 23:49

I bloody hate barking dogs. My two aren’t allowed to bark in the garden, only at the postman (who loves them and always wants cuddles!)

Go round with her, introduce her to the neighbour, she’ll stop barking if she’s met him.

MonicaGB · 08/04/2019 23:50

It might not be the dog but the incessant noise from the trampoline you've put at the bottom of your garden, rather than disturb your own peace. Combined with the yappy dog, I'm glad I'm not your neighbour.