New neighbour told out to shut up in a unfriendly manner!

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Hi, so we have new people behind us. Our gardens are quite long but back onto each other. I haven’t seen much of them yet. They don’t seem to be home much and I don’t like talking over the fence.

Today, we were out for a couple hours and came home. I let our dog out as I always do, she’s a Jack Russell, she can be pretty yappy at times (mainly when she sees people rather than dogs) but she’s never let out too early or too late so doesn’t disturb the neighbours and she’s never left outside barking for long. If she barks we call her in. There are dogs in most houses around here. She ran straight up to the back fence which I thought was odd and started barking - new neighbor and his dog doing something at the back of their garden by the looks of i at first glance. I couldn’t see them very well behind the tall fence and behind the trampoline so he probably couldn’t see me by my back door. Anyway, my dog starts to bark (she wouldn’t hurt a fly, just a bit annoying at times but his dog didn’t bark back). I put my shoes back on to call her over but I heard the new neighbour telling my dog to shut the f**k up just as I was about to call her. I called her back and neighbour must of realised I was there and heard him. I’m pretty sure he wasn’t talking to his dog as the dog hadn’t reacted (it’s geeat he has such a well behaved dog).

Now, I’m not easily offended, far from it. I didn’t think much of it at the time as I was busy but now I’ve come to think of it’s rid quite rude.

Yes my dog can bark at times but she’s never left out to bark. She doesn’t go out early, or too late and she doesn’t bark indoors or anything. Just around new people as she’s more nervous of people than dogs. If it was just the dog she would of been fine!

Aibu to think he was being rude? I’m not the type of person to ever bring this up with them but I’m worried what they will think of us. Often in the summer, the dog and D.C. run around the garden having fun. They will probably hate us 😂

Yabu massively. You sound like a terrible neighbour.

It's a dog, they don't tend to feel offended when insulted.

Maybe he went into his garden for some peace from the dog next door which you say is worse than your own dog for barking and then had to put up with yours yapping at him too.

Yes dogs bark but being offended because someone asked yours to stop barking at them is a bit daft.

I've been heard to tell my own dog (a lab) to shut the fuck up if she barks at people. Very very rare she does it and like your dog, it seems to be when someone new is around, I also had a new neighbour move in recently next door after the house had been empty for over a year and his front opening and closing is very loud and sounds like someone coming into our house so she barked a few times at him as he moved his stuff. Stopped when told to stop five seconds later but even so I apologised to him for my dog being a nuisance and that while I don't think she barks when alone I can't know for sure so if she causes a nuisance when I'm out to let me know a I'll avoid leaving her home alone where possible. Turns out that despite her being asleep in the same spot I left her when I return she does actually bark and cry. Not for long but she does, thankfully neighbour said he doesn't mind it because she's very very rarely left alone anyway and that after five mins she stops. If he shouted at her to stfu through a wall I'd totally understand.

Mil has a jack russel and he barks for at least a minute after someone walks past her bungalow, which is at least twice an hour because it's on a route to the shops, he's cute loyal lovable dog yes, but that won't make the yapping any less annoying for the residents of the bungalows around her, and because the dog has a cat flap to go outside whenever he wants her elderly neighbour can't really use her bit of yard because the dog is at the fence barking and barking. Mil thinks because she loves her dog to bits and that he's soft as muck he can't do any wrong.

There's dogs on the street opposite that are kept outside and once one barks the whole street are at it, that doesn't mean my dogs rare barking at strangers is any less of a nuisance.

I absolutely love all dogs, I'm the kind of person who will annoyingly stop and pet every dog I pass on the street.
However, I live next door to a Jack Russell and I have shouted much, much worse than that out of the window on many occasions, this dog's barking is so irritating it's completely ruined any kind of amicable relationship we might have had with the owners. The sound of them barking is like nails on a chalkboard

You’re a very anti-social neighbour who doesn’t care. You’re as bad as the dog.

She's worse than the dog Coffeebean76. It's not the dogs fault it has an owner that doesn't bother to train it.

my neighbour had a cunting Jack Russell, it barked all the fucken time, it would run up to the fence and bark at the other neighbour until he went inside, it would run up and lean over the retaining wall and snarl and bark at me when i was out side, they thought he was wonderful and such a treasure
they thought we were very unreasonable to make complaints about the fuckers barking, bad neighbours to call the local dog ranger and council, even worse neighbours when the other one would spray it with the hose ( on advice from the council, he sold up as he got the home to enjoy his retirement but as he couldnt leave the house without the cunt barking the entire time, it took the enjoyment out fo the place, especially as the owners found the dog lovely and no bother to them) and really didnt like me when i yelled at her to call her cunt off me or i would end it with the shovel i had raised in my hands as it came over the retaining wall
in the end i had it removed at 4am on a sunday morning, they went out and put the wanker in its kennel, and it didnt like being outside so the cuntox let the entire neighbourhood know, for hours, so i called the dog ranger from inside my house and explained how long the barking had gone on for and that i was inside my house, he could hear it thru the phone... he came and took the dog, and when they picked it up they were advised to have it silenced or they would lose it
( lots of complaints apparently!) we had no more issues :) and i would do it again! cunty fucken dog it was

OP: My neighbours cat shits in our garden all the time. So I’m not keen on cats There you go! You've been atoned. Cat shit is karma. You say you control your dog and she is inside, or that you call her in and she comes. Sounds like you are trying to be considerate, given that you have a yappy breed.
Dogs are loud annoying bastards. Cats piss off some people in a different way. This is the world of pet ownership.

I shut her in but left DS out their bouncing on the trampoline so maybe he will tell my son to shut the duck up for bouncing on a trampoline??
For the sake of your other neighbours I hope he does!

For the sake of your other neighbours I hope he does

Wasn't there a whole thread full of 'trampoline haters' last week? 😂 I think you should all start saving up for your secluded house miles from anyone else, their dogs, children and trampolines.

Nothing like a bit of tolerance of others normal noise levels. Kids playing and dogs barking for 20 seconds really isn't a big deal. It's life. And I don't have a dog. Or a trampoline.

So it's ok for your yappy fucker to make all that noise but it's rude when your neighbours make annoying noises and object

Both my cats will catch and eat flies. Hence they WOULD hurt a fly. However, neither of them bark. Cat win.

So this summer, your dog will yap, your children will play loudly and your neighbour will swear loudly. Sounds very suburban.

There’s a dog near us that barks whenever it’s in the garden, think it’s a westie and trust me , I’d be telling it to shut the fuck up too.
Yappy dogs are the most annoying in the world and it gave me the rage so bad yesterday I felt like going over there and toe punting it over the fence .
It’s not even that close to us so their neighbours must be living in hell

But a dog can't speak, therefore barks. If it was barking all day everyday then fair enough but as OP has said they call the dog in if it starts barking. Would it be wrong for the neighbour to tell kids to stfu then if they were out screaming and shouting in the garden for a few moments until their parents called them in? no. A dog barking is only the same and if for only a few moments until it is called inside? It's not expected to sit silently is it.

Wow some of these posts are awful! I have a border terrier crossed with a yorkie (2 ridiculously barky breeds) and it's insane to expect a dog to literally never bark! We have had trainers in, we supervise her in the garden but nothing we ever do will get her to never ever bark. If she does bark she is taken inside or distracted. I really can't imagine getting worked up over a dog barking for 20 seconds that is then called in. Different story for dogs who are let out to bark all day with no supervision but the OP called the dog in. I sometimes think people on here don't live in the real world. Does everyone step outside and expect it to be deadly silent? Kids make noise, other animals make noise, people make noise. Mental.

Agree can't expect either dogs or kids to never make noise @SlightlyPsychotic but isn't the difference between dog and kid is that the dog can't understand an annoyed remark whereas a kid would be upset by it?

I would also get annoyed by his reaction. We have three dogs, 2 JRT x Chihuahua and a rescue which we think is part corgi, small none the less. They by nature are very yappy dogs, and will almost always bark when we get home etc., too which we as their owners tell them to be quiet.

Our neighbours also have a small terrier type dog which they never walk and leave in the garden to do it's business (their choice I guess) and that also barks whenever anyone walks past the gate, it also barks at our cats etc., although I would never dream of telling it to 'shut the fuck up' or any other form of be quiet for that matter.

Owners, and only the owners, should be telling their dogs to be quiet.

WinterWillow so what if the owners don’t as it doesn’t bother them?
We the neighbour should just put up with it?
Can you imagine never being able to go in your own garden without some annoying mutt barking at you from the other side of the fence ??

The odd bark , ok .. but not whenever you make the slightest move your side of the fence ,that’s when it gets really frustrating and you don’t enjoy your garden anymore

I really can't imagine getting worked up over a dog barking for 20 seconds that is then called in

That'll be because you have a yappy dog. 20 seconds of yapping is a long time. I wouldn't let my spaniel bark for that long before calling him in (unless I was unable to get to call him in for some reason.)

Owners, and only the owners, should be telling their dogs to be quiet

That is ridiculous.

@soupdragon I don't think it is. I've only had my dog a year and I've never felt the need to swear at a neighbours dog after 20 seconds of barking, despite living next door to 3 JRT previously. You even said yourself, you would get your dog in unless you couldn't for whatever reason - so it is not always possible to supervise your dog 100 percent of the time. The OP did what she could.

20 seconds is a lot of yapping. Many people can not tolerate that awful sound that seems pitched to rip though your ear drums. It's horrible.

20 seconds is too long for the pitch of a cocker spaniel too. 20 seconds of the Berenese Mountain Dog at the end of my garden is fine though.

so it is not always possible to supervise your dog 100 percent of the time. The OP did what she could.

Except she didn't. She was there and close enough in her "long garden" to hear the neighbour tell her dog to shut up.

I'm in the same situation as you OP. But I'm the neighbour who has to listen to the yappy little ball bags all day while the owners piss off to work or sit in their house and watch telly completely oblivious and ignorant to what their horrid little mutts are doing.

Control your dogs, and have some respect from your neighbour.

I'm listening to next door's fucking JR howling as they've gone out. I'll be glad when they move and take the bastard with them.