Resentful at dh’s Family

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Dh is financially successful and a very kind, generous person. He’s very close to his dm and siblings. The problem is, they are constantly asking him for money for things, and I get the feeling they genuinely feel entitled.

One of his siblings struggles financially and he puts a generous sum in her account monthly, but it’s never enough. I have tactfully tried to put it to dh that she needs to watch her spending but he seems to think it’s his duty.

I know I can’t change dh. But how do I work on my resentment not about the money but about their sense of entitlement? He loves them but I hate that they take advantage of him.

The sister is categorically not a charity. (Except perhaps in her own mind)

I'm not sure why anyone would compare her to a charity. Although imo large, regular charitable donations are also something that should be discussed within a marriage. Or any financial commitment.

Either you don’t understand Alsohuman or have not read my posts. I have stated multiple times it is not the money I resent (give huge amount to charity) but the idea that she feels entitled and goes out of her way to make dh feel bad for enjoying his life.

In which case you’re being even more unreasonable. It’s your husband’s job to manage his relationship with his sister. Not yours. If he’s happy with it, it’s a non problem.

Oh don’t be so ridiculous Alsohuman. If someone was making your husband feel bad through emotional manipulation, whoever it was, can you honestly say you would have no opinion?

I'd assume if it was making him feel bad he'd deal with it.