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Original poster

To visit the doctors? (TMI warning)

333 replies

SofaSurfer20 · 03/04/2019 12:23

Let me take you through it and you decide if i should go to the doctors.

For what its worth we are trying for a baby and I am not due period till Sunday 14th April (i have period every 7ish weeks).

Sunday night my partner and I had sex, very rough but very good. Immediately after we finished i were sore inside and 2 hours later the pain increased so much i had to take pain killers.

Woke up Monday morning as usual, sore but nothing drastic. Took DD to school and started studying. Then shortly after my stomach started hurting so much I took 2 30/500mg Co-codamol and 1 250mg Naproxen tablet with a hot water bottle. Even so i was doubled over in pain. I started bleeding but only a small amount (I use a menstrual cup). I was topped up on pain medication all day.

Tuesday, I was in so much pain all day, doubled over even after pain killers. And a hot water bottle all day. Around 5:45pm I finally had some reprieve and got a call from work to go in for a couple hours. I agreed and went in. By the time i got there I was in agony again, my boss asked me 4 times if i was ok, then she sent me home less than 2 hours after I got there. I changed cup once in the morning and it only had a little in it. I changed it again at 2:50pm eith about 2tbsp full (just before picking up DD) and didn't change it again till this morning.

This morning there was about 1tbsp full. 17hours. Today I'm in agony again, taken pain killers and got a hot water bottle on as hot as I can stand it. Barely moved today.

This is not normal at all for me, i never have this much pain and the bleeding is very unusual for me. Usually day 1 and 2 get steadily heavier until day 3 where its very heavy then eases off day 4 and barely anything day 5.

If you've got this far please don't suggest A&E as no, Im not going up there.

AIBU to go to the doctors today? I feel like crap and in so much pain.

OP posts:
Itsnotme33 · 05/04/2019 16:54

This is so frustrating. What tests did the hospital do OP? Scan, internal? It just can't be right, sorry your family aren't helping. Would your dp go into the doctors/ a & e with you to give you moral support? I really hope you get it sorted out very soon.

AuchAyeTheNo · 05/04/2019 16:57

111 cant refer you for a scan OP and depending on where you are can’t really help while your GP is open.

Hope your alright and today’s appt was a bit better x

Soverytiredofeverythinggoingon · 05/04/2019 17:38

What members of your family called you names, OP? Was your husband a part of this name calling?

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SofaSurfer20 · 05/04/2019 18:01

I called 111 and they booked me an app at urgent care at the hosp

At the hosp she did a urine test for infection/checked for pregnancy then felt my stomach.

Then she told me to go back to my doctors to get them to refer me for an ultrasound scan.

Thats it.

As i was going up to the hosp id cancelled my doc appointment.

Bleeding is practically non existent now.

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Itsnotme33 · 05/04/2019 18:37

I'm gobsmacked that no-one has even done an internal exam, seeing as this came on after you had sex??!! I think I would just sit up a & e and refuse to go until they'd had a proper look. How's the pain now?

Itsnotme33 · 05/04/2019 18:40

Something is obviously going on and you need to know what it is.

JaneEyre07 · 05/04/2019 18:42

Blimey, that's quite scary OP.

How's the pain feeling tonight?

ScarletBitch · 05/04/2019 19:26

So your GP and Hospital are both wrong?

What exactly are you hoping for?

As for the non medically qualified posters, be quiet offering advice which will not help.

gamerchick · 05/04/2019 19:33

You realise that they are clinics for testing for sexually transmitted diseases? Not clinics to diagnose the causes of pelvic pain

You are aware that a STD untreated long enough can cause pelvic pain don't you?

PID is agony and can come from an untreated STD.

In the OPs shoes the GUM clinic is the first place I would visit to rule out infection.

visitorthedog · 05/04/2019 19:52

A diagnosis, Bitch?

justasking111 · 05/04/2019 19:55

Oh Miss Scarlet has been stirring it up elsewhere. Just ignore.

I do wonder did you mention rough sex, that might have misled them into minimising your symptoms?

Itsnotme33 · 05/04/2019 20:31

ScarletBitch I imagine the OP is hoping to find out what is causing her so much pain. As you would if you'd been in a lot of pain anywhere in your body that was unexplained. Not a good idea to just ignore it. Might not be medically qualified but I know pain must be a sign of something not right. I don't think anyone is trying to worry OP, just concerned that something might have been missed. Hopefully it isn't anything too serious, but I for one would want to know the cause. Hoping you're doing ok this evening OP.

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SofaSurfer20 · 05/04/2019 21:06

@ScarletBitch

Extremely helpful Hmm. I see why you call yourself bitch.

So I'm just supposed to sit in agony?. 30 mins ago i had taken 3x 30/500mg cocodamol and 1x 250mg naproxan and a hot water bottle on my stomach, its not helping.

Ive even had to call in sick tomorrow as its affecting my daily life.

But yeah you're right, the pee test to check for pregnancy and infection a feel of my stomach is satisfactory...

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IHateUncleJamie · 05/04/2019 21:06

As for the non medically qualified posters, be quiet offering advice which will not help.

Oh, it’s you again @ScarletBitch. 🙄 Not only a Doctor but the thread police too, I see.

soulrider · 05/04/2019 21:15

When I went to A&E with stomach pain they thought it was a ruptured ovarian cyst. They still didn't scan though. I seem to remember their diagnosis criteria was it wasn't a twisted ovary as pain was relieved by morphine. All they ended up doing was sending me home with cocodamol - but it was worth going to A&E for the morphine Smile

TatianaLarina · 05/04/2019 21:16

I don’t know where you are OP, but if you’re still in agony to the point that you are off work then still need medical care.

Whereabouts are you in the country?

What I would do in your situation is pay for an appointment with a private GP tomorrow at a practice that has an ultrasound. However - that’s fairly easy to do in London, and May not be elsewhere. You might not want to stump up the money but if you’re losing a day’s pay it may be worth it.

The other thing you can do is just go back to the hospital and request an ultrasound. This has been going on for 5 days now.

Did you see a doctor at the hospital or was it a nurse?

What’s the max dose of cocodamol? I’d be surprised if you’re supposed to take more than 2 at once.

Itsnotme33 · 05/04/2019 21:33

I think 2 co-codamol is the maximum dose, 4 times a day, so that indicates the level of pain OP must be feeling is she's taken 3 plus naproxen and is still in pain. Hope you can get yourself to a private doctor as pp suggested if at all possible

Cheeserton · 05/04/2019 21:38

Indeed. don't take more than 2 co-codamol. Doesn't take much paracetamol to O/D, and naproxen is no picnic either. Please stick to proper max doses and appropriate intervals. Eat a little something with naproxen.

lazymoz · 05/04/2019 21:41

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FoxFoxSierra · 06/04/2019 11:16

How are you doing today op? I'm shocked and horrified reading about the total lack of care and the fact that your gp and hospital think it is ok to leave you in so much pain with no proper diagnosis

Itsnotme33 · 06/04/2019 12:40

I can't help feeling that if it was pain elsewhere in the body going on so long it would have been properly dealt with, but because its a woman with probable gynae problems its being dismissed. I hope I'm wrong.

butterflykiss00 · 06/04/2019 17:51

@Itsnotme33 I agree! Never taken seriously when it comes to Gynecologic problems

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SofaSurfer20 · 06/04/2019 17:56

@Itsnotme33

I think the same. If it was a male with similar problems it'd be straight up to hospital with a scan and finding out what the problem is but because I'm female, they dismiss it.

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Itsnotme33 · 06/04/2019 18:29

Feel really sorry for you, its horrible to be in pain that long with no explanation. How are you today and what do you think you will do next?

Mymomsbetterthanyomom · 06/04/2019 18:32

You really think "rough sex" was a good idea while idea while you are trying to get pregnant?Seriously!!

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