WE are pregnant.

[bridgetreilly]

No. No you aren't.

SHE is pregnant and HE is not pregnant. It's not a joint enterprise. You are both expecting a baby, fine. But unless you are the one with the baby growing inside you, you are not pregnant. Not even a little bit.

YANBU - it’s a cringe inducing thing to say. Usually used by the type of people desperate to show how in love they are but convince no one.

I dislike the phrase, but not as much as "fell pregnant". It's just so passive and seems to remove all responsibility ftom the 2 people involved.

It literally makes me feel sick when couples say this

Really though? You literally start to dry heave?

I don't care how anyone wants to word it and I don't know why it bothers people so much. A few grips are needed.

YABU - people are exciting about having a baby - who cares what words they use. If the mother has an issue then that's her right to say that to her partner. But if both parents are happy about it they can say what they like.

My controlling/abusive ex used to say this. He also was the one sat on a chair in the delivery room telling me I didn't understand the pain he was in with his stupid headache and the one who took himself to bed as he didn't feel well and I wouldn't understand how tired he felt when I came back from the hospital.

I find it really cringy though I realise it's an attempt to involve the father more . I also dislike gender reveals and babymoons. I will be attending my first baby shower next month but only because it's a close family member.
I am just old fashioned I guess because I don't like scan pictures on Facebook. I think they are sort of personal.

'fell pregnant' 'fell for' and 'we are pregnant'are all urgh. friend and her dh joking use this expression to me as they know i don't like it, said 'hey fox, we're pregnant' i looked at both of them and said 'congratulations, who's giving birth this time ?' they have three dc already and each time she has drawn the short straw.

Totally agree. To me it minimises the actual physical labour (pun not intended) & impact of growing and birthing a baby. It’s work!

We are having a baby, we are going to become parents, we are so excited for the baby to come .... all fine.

That said, I don’t pull people up on it but would hit the roof if DH used the phrase!

YANBU

Very annoying. But topped by a colleague who said of his wife delivering their baby: “we had no pain relief in labour”

Totally agree with this. I was listening to the radio and it was some bloke going on about his experience of his wife giving birth. He said 'we didn't want an epidural' wtaf...?

And yes 'fell pregnant' is worse if anything. Presumably it originates from 'fallen woman' just grim.

'He said 'we didn't want an epidural' wtaf...? '

Fucking hell

Awful

Bloody hell

And women actually choose to pro create with these knob jockeys

It makes me think of North Americans wearing matching jumpers with dazzlingly white teeth.

My husband claims the traumatic labour and birth I went through was harder on him than it was for me

😂😂😂
If he’s ever hospitalised, maybe stay away incase you swoon at the trauma!

Hamster
Now it may have been a migraine but under these circumstances you have to push through, surely? I say this as someone, who used to have horrendous migraines. Merci menopause for changing this... so far at least.

YANBU.

Vomit inducing nonsense

YABU

other couple can describe their private situation any way they like. They are excited, who cares. Everybody is well aware it's not the man who is pregnant or pushing a baby out, it's not like there's any possible confusion

(not today, might become confusing in the future I give you that)

'Very annoying. But topped by a colleague who said of his wife delivering their baby: “we had no pain relief in labour” angry

In my nct class this complete tosser bloke said "we won't be having any drugs as humans are the only animal that feels pain in labour".'

I am so glad to have a husband who respects my pregnancy, my body and my choices. The only opinion he ever offered was that he thought I should consider an epidural because he didn't think I should be in pain when I don't have to be.

Furthermore, when I miscarried at 13 weeks, dh said 'we lost our baby'.
But that’s right, you both did.
I’m pretty sure my DP refers to the miscarriages in a “we” way and also says “we’re expecting our second child” now, which is correct .. we both are.
The pregnancy part is the bit people get worked up about and I can see why because I honestly doubt my DP has ever been as uncomfortable as I am in my 3rd trimester.

Mummyoflittledragon

They wernt migraines as he happily played on his phone while moaning and only occured if I was on a rare occasion out so I had to come home as he couldn't possibly look after the kids. I would walk in the door and 5 mins later he would be going out on his bike.

Weren't not wernt

YADNBU. Wonder if ‘we’ get saggy boobs and stretch marks after. Ask him!

Do people really give a shit about this sort of stuff?

It's claiming that his experience is equivalent to hers. It's claiming that what's happening to her body is his.

It really isn't.

Hold on.. @homethenababy you told you DH he was not to post a certain phrase on Facebook when sharing news about his dd?! Wow, sorry but that sounds pretty controlling.

My friend’s husband called to let us know the good news and he said “We had the baby at 10.30am this morning...”.