To say no?

[caitbake]

Me and two friends are going away on Saturday to Edinburgh to a show,it's a 3 hour drive from us,the show starts at 8pm.
My friend is taking her car and we are each driving a hour each.
She says il pick you up at 9am,I say can you make it 9.30 am as my sons dad can't pick him up till then.
She says "no I want to beat the traffic"
I said "30 mins is hardly going to make a lot of difference"
She says "well il get there slightly after 9"
There's nothing I can do,I won't be ready till 9.30am
I ask what's the plan when we get there and she says they are going to have a couple of hours napping in hotel.
So rushing and we aren't even exploring.
Aibu here?
I've said 3 times I can't be ready till 9.30 am
I'm not doing it to be awkward.

TheViceOfReason I am exhausted just reading your agenda. I would need 24 hours in a darkened room after a day like that never mind a nap before a concert!

OP. Get the train, it won’t cost much with your vouchers, it will be quicker and you will be free from the nap insanity.

Get the train, go shopping, meet them at the hotel at 6pm.

I wouldn't want to go with someone who cared more about beating the traffic to nap like a child rather than the safety of my kid or my ability to come with her. Her bloody car or not that's not what friends do to each other

It's your weekend too, remember

It's not the traffic that's a problem on a Saturday - it's the parking. And it is EXPENSIVE. www.edinburgh.gov.uk/info/20276/parking_spaces/567/parking_prices_and_times

There are NCP carparks, but they will be very busy by the time you get there. And, driving in Edinburgh is a problem if you don't know it - streets change name half way through, the old town has streets go under streets and like most cities, locals and taxis are right up your arse.

Take the train, anything else is mad

Check your insurance! A lot of fully-comp policies have it that you can drive another car but you are only third party, fire and theft if you do.
It all sounds very complicated, I know I couldn’t be bothered with her attitude.

Get the train, the journey is really scenic on that coast.

I second the pp that mentioned the insurance - if she’s that uncompromising about the time you leave in the morning I wouldn’t fancy driving her car in third party cover.

I'm trying to work if she is REALLY a friend, as you call her 'a precious snowflake' and 'spoilt'. So maybe this is more of a general unhappiness with her? If she's not a friend, do you really want to go on an extended trip with her? If so, just get the train, I would. Save the driving, too!

Another voice for taking the train. Edinburgh is crap for parking, especially in the city centre.

Have fun!

Your friends attitude is shit, has she heard of compromise.

If she is talking about going via Hexham, does she mean up the A68 perhaps? Rather than meaning going to Carlisle, which is completely wrong. I use the A68 from Edinburgh, but my family live west of Newcastle, towards Hexham, so suits me better.

Get the train and then your won't be beholden to her. If she falls out with you or goes in a strop, you are reliant on her to get back. A train solves that! More fun for you on the train too as you can have a wee glass or 2 of wine.

Enjoy Edinburgh!

Don't worry about it.
If she arrives at 9 or shortly after, she'll just have to wait until your ex shows up, won't she?
Her problem. Unless she takes off without you, but then I'd end the friendship.

Also, use Waze to avoid traffic.

Also: WithAllIntenseAndPurposes

Get the train, then go walkabout and for your lunch and meet them later.
No way would I be pandering to her and her attitude and all that crap about napping. Who'd go away for a weekend to nap?
I couldnt be arsed with her.

Yes re insurance. A friend and I swapped cars for a day so she could use my 7 seater. We both had fully comp insurance but would only have been covered third party whist driving each others cars. As both cars were quite new we each asked our insurers to upgrade cover to fully comp for that one day. It cost me £40. I could probably have hired one for that.

This is such an obvious decision for me...

Train train train. Kick back with some gin in a tin snacks and enjoy getting there faster, with less stress and more time to get ready.

Car sharing with someone that uncompromising, who feels the need to split a 3 hour drive into shifts AND stop for an hour at services?! NO.

there's a big difference with a 5-10min difference on my commute

Not on a Saturday morning. 9.30am would not make a blind bit of difference.

Yeah just say I cant do before 9.30 I'll get the train,I bet she says no it's ok I'll pick you up 9.30

Actually from others comments about the parking in Edinburgh, and when I remember how much I hate trying to drive in Edinburgh, it would make sense for you all to get the train anyway. It is quite a pleasant journey on the train, whereas the A1 and A68 are not nice drives. A1 is okay until it becomes single carriageway, but is not pleasant after that.

It's not like it's Easter holidays or the Edinburgh Festival.

I'd still go with her in the car, but in general I also prefer to take the train to major towns, unless the hotel has free parking.

It's not like it's Easter holidays

Our schools close for the two week Easter holidays tomorrow (29th) so Edinburgh will be busy.

GET THE TRAIN … in case you are not sure PLEASE GET THE TRAIN & leave her to her strangeness inc naps !

I would not want to drive her car - she would probably try telling you what you are doing wrong every few seconds in case you drive too fast/too near or too anything in her vehicle.

Get a lovely coffee, almond croissant +good book or magazine and enjoy your trip + shopping etc when you get there

So the conversation went:

• let's leave by 9.
• I can't leave before 9.30
• I'll get to yours 9ish.

I would just assume that she wants to sit and wait at my place for half an hour. You said you can't leave before 9.30, you have not told her that has changed.

OP if you haven't been to Scotland before, get the train. You'll have much better opportunity to gaze out the windows at the beautiful landscape. The first time I went I got the train to Waverley and I spent most of the journey through Scotland just looking out of the window going "OMG! Wow!"

Do you know if the hotel is city centre or in the suburbs? If it's city centre it won't have a car park, so if she hasn't pre-booked parking she's REALLY going to struggle (and pay through the nose.) Plus last time I went, they were redoing the end of Princes St which made both driving and parking a bitch. There are a lot of recent road/traffic changes which won't necessarily be reflected on Satnav.

Has she paid for early check in?

Edinburgh is a beautiful city. I preferred the Princes St side to the Castle side as I'm not a big fan of Gothic architecture.

Our schools close for the two week Easter holidays tomorrow (29th)

But Easter is one week after the two week break if that's the case. It doesn't make sense.