To say no?

[caitbake]

Me and two friends are going away on Saturday to Edinburgh to a show,it's a 3 hour drive from us,the show starts at 8pm.
My friend is taking her car and we are each driving a hour each.
She says il pick you up at 9am,I say can you make it 9.30 am as my sons dad can't pick him up till then.
She says "no I want to beat the traffic"
I said "30 mins is hardly going to make a lot of difference"
She says "well il get there slightly after 9"
There's nothing I can do,I won't be ready till 9.30am
I ask what's the plan when we get there and she says they are going to have a couple of hours napping in hotel.
So rushing and we aren't even exploring.
Aibu here?
I've said 3 times I can't be ready till 9.30 am
I'm not doing it to be awkward.

Its not about rushing there to do nothing, its about beating the traffic. Half an hour can make a huge difference, there's a big difference with a 5-10min difference on my commute.

Tough luck. If you commute alone you can leave whenever you want but OP can't leave before 9:30, if that means they hit traffic then they'll just have to suck it up. Also they are going to be no where near rush hour anyway.

Newcastle upon Tyne ...

I would let anyone drive me, who thought they’d go from Newcastle to Edinburgh via Carlisle.

*wouldn’t!

Bluntness100 are you always so argumentative/negative in your replies to threads?

In short yes. I think people who consider themselves "blunt" or "to the point" are usually argumentative and negative with no filter!

Another vote for train! You’d be stupid not to. Edinburgh is a total bitch to drive and park in iirc, (former Edinburgh resident). Waverley station is bang in the centre and there’s a direct train from Newcastle.

@Snappedandfarted2019 I continue the friendship because I like her and she is my friend
She has her faults but Also good qualities ..like us all.
I've told her to her face she is too bossy.

@Ellisandra I think she must be thinking Edinburgh is the same side as Glasgow.
More fool me for not checking maps till now.

she's a precious snowflake who likes to sleep, it's always her way or no way. She's spoilt,still lives at home,waited on hand and foot etc

Does anyone on mumsnet actually like their friends?

There have been trips where leaving at a time like that would make a huge difference. They are when we will be traveling along a road also used by a huge sporting event or concert. If we don’t get by that venue in time, it can add many hours to the trip. If that isn’t the case, then you aren’t being unreasonable. I would just travel on my own. Much more pleasant anyway.

You're going out of your way by going to Carlisle! It's basically straight up the A1 from Newcastle (and half the distance without driving to the wrong side of the country for no reason)

Carlisle? No wonder she’s going to need a nap! You are touring the country lol. Does she know where Edinburgh is?

From Sunderland

'Bluntness' is often just an excuse for c&@tness in my book

😂😂😂😂😂 @ Carlisle.
I'd take great pleasure in pointing that mistake out to her OP.

Just tell her you cannot be ready till 9.30 so you will get the train and meet them there! That way she can miss the traffic problem solved! Maybe suggest she checks her route though as your fairly sure Carlisle isn't on the way!

You will be doing more than an hour each if going via Carlisle

You'll probably be expected to still contribute to petrol, so make sure you put your foot down. Highlight all the positives for them - they can go as early as they like, don't need to go out of their way to pick you up, will have more room in the car.

Enjoy the train ride!

If you reach Wick, you've gone too far!

I hope your friend has a sat nav!
Unless you have parking at the hotel I would be inclined to go by train or even by coach, she can then nap all the way there.
What time is the check in at the hotel?

Your friend does sound bonkers but you said you like her and want to be her friend so that's that...

I think this is a bit of a non-issue after reading your later posts.

She's now agreed to get to you 'just after 9' - i.e. 5-10 past?

Your ex generally gets to yours for 9.15.

So I don't see that there will be any issue. If your ex is a bit later then she may have to sit around for 10 mins, but in the meantime you can pack up the car, get your son ready etc. I think it will be absolutely fine

Good luck for the rest of the trip though!!

Maybe she's OK in some circs, but obviously not in these!

If she's determined to leave at 9 then surely you have to get the train?

Doesn't the other friend want to sightsee?

If not, you'll have to go it alone.

OP, get the train, Edinburgh is a wonderful city, take the time to wander around and enjoy it. Fuck sitting at a services for an hour! I can recommend Cafe Andaluz in the new town for dinner but you are best to book.

Get the train. If she has to drive for longer and pay more for petrol she'll probably change her tune and agree to leave at 9.30 anyway.

@WithAllIntenseAndPurposes I’m glad you said it