To say no?

[caitbake]

Me and two friends are going away on Saturday to Edinburgh to a show,it's a 3 hour drive from us,the show starts at 8pm.
My friend is taking her car and we are each driving a hour each.
She says il pick you up at 9am,I say can you make it 9.30 am as my sons dad can't pick him up till then.
She says "no I want to beat the traffic"
I said "30 mins is hardly going to make a lot of difference"
She says "well il get there slightly after 9"
There's nothing I can do,I won't be ready till 9.30am
I ask what's the plan when we get there and she says they are going to have a couple of hours napping in hotel.
So rushing and we aren't even exploring.
Aibu here?
I've said 3 times I can't be ready till 9.30 am
I'm not doing it to be awkward.

Can’t you just drive up separately if she’s making such a big deal of it?

Train!! Do your own thing, meet for gig.
Napping indeed!!

Your friend is being ridiculous if you travel together you can't leave before one person is available. If she coms at 9 she'll have to come in and wait as you've already said. She sounds bossy and annoying.

she's a precious snowflake who likes to sleep, it's always her way or no way. She's spoilt,still lives at home,waited on hand and foot etc

Jesus. Is it just me who doesn't bad mouth their friends like this. Seriously what do you say about the people you don't like if this is how you treat your friends.

I drive to Edinburgh on a regular basis and it's not particularly busy on a Saturday morning, Monday yes but by 9am definitely not busy, your friend is an arsehole.

@Bluntness100 are you always so argumentative/negative in your replies to threads?

Definitely take the train so - you can have a nap on it! Then when you get there you can have a look around the sites/shops while she's still in bed, though again, I doubt she'll be able to check in too early. Don't even give her the satisfaction of thinking she has annoyed you now and just tell her you've booked the train.

are you always so argumentative/negative in your replies to threads?

Seriously you're on here slagging off someone you call a friend. I'd rather be the person who calls that poor behaviour out, that the person who does that behind their friends backs.

Check in isn't till 3pm just checked

@Bluntness100 ok ...have a lovely day

Check in isn't until 3, so what's your friend going to do for three hours? Nap in the car? Where are you driving from?

Why wouldn't you have alay in rather than get there and nap?!

if it were me I'd wait for them to get there and when they're outside say - "I can't can't go yet, Ex isn't here so can't leave my son - I did tell you about this." and be ready to go as soon as possible once he gets there.

If she's planning to get there just after 9, and he's usually there at about 9:15 hopefully it won't be a long wait.

Does she know check in is 3pm?

She sounds bonkers.

The traffic in and around Edinburgh is always a bit shit at any time tbh. Half an hour makes zero difference on a Saturday. Absolutely zero difference.

Meh, get the train. Go to Harvey nick’s chocolate lounge then a walk up the mile and into the grassmarket/few drinks along the way while they nap. Meet for dinner. Edinburgh is awesome.

Bluntness100 are you always so argumentative/negative in your replies to threads?

Yeah, pretty much 😂

Just play it by ear. She might run late, your Ex might be early. If she's being a twat about it on the morning, just tell her to go ahead without you.

@Bookworm4 we are coming from Newcastle

@Morgan12 I've just told her and her reply was ..we can stop at the services past Carlisle for a hour for a break

I would never go another trip again with someone so self centred. Definitely get the train. How spiteful!

@gingerscot I've never been to Scotland before,I'm really excited

@RevRichardWayneGaryWayne il be up at half 6/7 and all ready
It is literally just wanting for ex to arrive

Have you emailed the venue to pre-warn them she will need a nap half way through the show??

Double check what time check at the hotel is. Would be daft for them to get there for 12:30 and be desperate for a nap and find check in isn’t until 2pm. It might make your friend relax about the leaving time. Is your friend generally quite rigid with things?

Oh sorry, I missed a page!

@Chocolateisfab ha ha that made me laugh

OP
That's a 2 and half hour drive maximum, even at 9.30 you'll be there by 12, you won't be anywhere near Carlisle!! Straight run up A1, think you need a check on Google Maps 😂